When to be on, and when to be off

Hey Guys,

First off, happy Father’s Day to all of the dads on this list. I’m

actually in Arizona spending time with my father today.

I’ve also been here doing some business, attending a seminar.

Yesterday I was reminded of this, and I want to talk about it…

Ever heard someone say, “he’s a pretty smart guy, but he’s always

‘on’?” What that usually means is that while someone does bring

value to your interactions with them, you can never really connect

with them.

I’ve known a lot of very good salesmen, businessmen, and speakers

like that–very good at what they do, but always “on” and as a

result they have pretty lousy relationships.

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When it comes to sustaining long term attraction you never want to

be a guy who’s always on. You want to be able to switch that side

of you off, disconnect from business, and be “real.”

People in general, and women in particular, are silently screaming

for “realness”–there are so many phonies and flakes out there (in

addition to guys who are always on) that when a guy who’s “real”

shows up, he really stands out.

I’ve always said that “switching” is a very important component to

attraction, that if you want to sustain attraction, you need to be

able to switch from the fun, naughty boy side of your personality

to the serious, down to business side and back again.

I have long warned against being nothing but a naughty boy, a guy

women view as a fun toy, and not someone to be taken seriously.

However, being “on” all the time is just as dangerous–while it can

be initially attractive, women soon tire of this as well, wishing

for a guy who could shut off and be real.

So, if you want to sustain attraction in women, make sure you turn

your “on” switch off, and your “off” switch on at regular

intervals–it is this switching, this variety of personality that

leads to long term attraction.

On with the fun…

 

-John Alanis

“The King of Let ‘em Come to You”

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