Dating sites and emails

Hey guys,

 

Ever get an email from an attractive woman on a dating site, then never hear back from her?  Or ever email one who seems just perfect for you, but she just plain ignores you?

 

Those are exactly the questions I received from a subscriber, and today I’m going to answer them—read on:

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John—

 

I’ve been using a lot of dating sites and have a strange problem.  Using the advice on how to create a good online profile, I did that and get women contacting me occasionally saying “nice pic” or “hi”.  Problem I have, whenever I respond to someone I get dumped.  I’ve written e-mails that take something from the women’s profile that they claim to enjoy; sent e-mails that ask them if they know of any good local dance clubs; sent e-mails just saying “hi”, and they all end the same.  Should I write e-mails to women that just say “What are you passionate about?” even though they mention several things that they love in their profiles?  Also, in e-mails, should I write the girl first or wait for her to write to me first?

 

-Eric

 

 

JA:  Thanks for the question, Eric.  Congratulations on taking action—now let’s see if we can adjust your results.  The first thing to be check is to be sure the women who are contacting you are real.  While not all dating sites do it, it is a prevalent practice to put up phony profiles of attractive women, then email guys to get them to stick longer.

 

How can you tell if a profile is phony?  You can’t always, but many times it comes down to local specifics—local areas, sayings, etc. only a real person would know.

 

One of the best secrets I ever discovered for engaging a woman was saying, “hey, thanks for contacting me—I’m curious, what was it you enjoyed about my profile that made you want to respond?”

 

You may follow up a few times, then if you don’t get an answer, move on.  Understand women don’t answer men for many reasons, and oftentimes it has nothing to do with you—most deals just don’t close.

 

While I always prefer a woman to see my profile and contact me first, the reality is that if you see a woman who interests you, then you should contact her first, referencing profile specifics.  You may have to follow up several times—when an attractive woman puts up a profile with pictures, she often gets over 200 emails at once.

So, not all deals will close—in fact, most won’t.  But if you’re consistent, do things different from other guys, and have a good profile you will eventually be wildly successful.

 

On with the fun….

 

 

-John Alanis

“The King of Let ‘em Come to You”

 

 

PS  Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and finally lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women?  Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

 

 

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