You’ll only go as far as your beliefs let you
by admin on December 21, 2009
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Hey Guys,
Whenever I do a consultation with a man, I always start with a set of questions. While it may seem like they’re goal setting questions or problem solving questions, what I’m really trying to discover is what this guy believes about women and believes about himself.
Why? Because no matter how powerful what I have to teach him is, if he doesn’t have the beliefs to put my info to use, it is worthless.
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There are two belief issues when it comes to women. The first is whether or not you believe you are attractive to women, or if you believe you can make yourself so. The second belief issue—and this one is much harder to overcome—is what you believe about women.
Many men come to me and say, “John, I just want to meet a nice girl to get married to, and I’m not the kind of guy that’s into all that dirty stuff.”
Whenever I hear this, I know there are two serious issues to deal with. The first one is that the guy does not believe he can, or worse, should connect with a woman on a sexual level. He may see her as a companion, a trophy, or an object. Big problem.
The second serious issue is he thinks women do not have a bad girl side to them, that only “dirty girls do.” And this is a belief that will doom all his relationships to failure. Look, if women didn’t have this side to them, there wouldn’t be 6 billion people in the world.
All women have this side, and they want to be with a man who appreciates it and encourages it. They want to be with a man who makes them feel protected and sexy at the same time, and they want to be with a man who actively communicates with that side of them.
But in order to do this, you must have your beliefs about yourself and about women in order. If you do not, if you persist in the “I just want to meet a nice girl” belief, you will die lonely and disappointed.
Believing in the “nice girl only” is along the lines of believing in Santa Claus and the Eater Bunny, but worse—at least you outgrow those beliefs, and they’re harmless to begin with.
But having a bad belief set about yourself and about women will doom you to failure no matter how much information about attraction you have. Get your beliefs right, and the rest will soon follow.
On with the fun…
-John Alanis
“The King of Let ‘em Come to You”
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