So, you screwed it all up- what now?
by admin on March 8, 2010
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Hey Guys,
In response to my “don’t make a move” episode, I received a very good question from a man wondering what he should do if he already made a move with bad results.
Read his question and my answer to find out.
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Hi John,
What do you do if you still like the girl and you do know that she likes you but you made the mistake of “making the move”? The girl and I have spoken about this a couple of times and she says that she has tried to see ‘us’ as more than friends but she can’t but at the same time she is curious. However, now she wants us to ’stay friends’.
The confusing thing is whenever we are out with friends she has always clung to me like glue. Should I just move on or should I keep at it and just tune up the attraction levels and pretend to be over her? Oh and another thing is we have met three times with friends and never yet kissed could that be my problem? I took things a bit too slow?
yours,
a very confused soul 
JA: Thanks for the email—this is a really good question, and admittedly a tough nut to crack. Not impossible, but tough. Obviously this is a situation you want to avoid in the first place. Women categorize men, and once you get into the friends category it is very, very hard to break out.
There are, however, some things you can do. The first and foremost is to start dating other women, not to make her jealous, but because you never know when you’ll attract another, better one. Keep her in your life as a “friend,” and refer to her as such. Say things like, “yep, you and I should never date” and “yep, dating would just ruin our friendship.”
At the same time, engage in attractive behavior such as being naughty, playful, touching her, etc., but then taking it away. Sometimes what will happen is, she’ll start getting feelings of attraction for you, then those will intensify when you let it be known she “can’t” have you. Then one day you’ll be in a situation with her where “things just happened” and you’ll make the transition. But when that time comes, you’d better not hesitate- you get one shot and only one shot. Don’t blow it.
On with the fun…
-John Alanis
“The King of Let ‘em Come to You”
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