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November 14, 2005
Is your past with women useful?
Hey guys,
A few years ago I decided to give up a weekend in April and attend one of the Landmark Forum Seminars (the current version of est--"Werner Erhardt's" brother, Harry Rosenberg actually runs it, having purchased the "technology" from, his brother) just to see what the fuss was all about.
I went more to gauge the reaction of the audience to the "forum leader" than to get any content, and the event pretty much met my expectations. The content was ho-hum, decent stuff, but nothing spectacular. The message was, pretty much, how to be really, really happy with your current lot in life, whatever that was.
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What happened in the audience, however, was worth ten times the amount I paid to get in, and worth the time I had to give up.
While I'll talk more about that in the future, what I'm going to concentrate on today is how the past with women affected a lot of guys in the audience.
As you can imagine, there were a lot of men there who either couldn't get a date to save their lives, or who were stuck in dysfunctional relationships with no clue about what to do to make them functional. Now, there weren't any problems in there I had heard before, and there were all caused by the usual suspects- wussiness, lack of authority, one special woman syndrome, nice guy-edness, and so on.
What was prevalent however, was that most of the guys there let their past outcomes with women control their future outcomes. Because some woman had said something mean to them 20 years ago, or the didn't "get" the one they thought they wanted in high school, they viewed themselves as unattractive to women, and they were.
In other words, they carried the emotion of the moment into future moments with them, and they got the same results, further reinforcing their self image that they were "bad" with women.
This happens A LOT with men. I once heard a story from a 70 year old guy who'd been mooning over a high school sweetheart for over 50 years--and was waiting for her husband to die so he could "swoop in and get her." You may laugh, but a lot of men let the past hold them back.
In this way, the past is not useful at all. But is there a use for it? The answer is yes, IF... you learn to take the emotion away, and analyze it from a detached viewpoint.
This is an incredibly useful skill. When you are able to disconnect from the emotion of events, and bring new, future knowledge into the past (like you can get from http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm ) you are able to see where you went wrong, and how you can make the right decisions in the future.
How do you do this? You sit down and re-visualize the past events, but imagine yourself as an observer, not a participant. What you want to do is think of yourself as a movie critic, replay the movie of the event that's holding you back and (this is important) take notes of every mistake you made.
The more you do this, the more detached you become, and two things start to happen: 1) You're able to see where you went wrong and recognize what to do right in the future 2) The emotion from the past begins to "dry up" and no longer affects your self image in future interactions. You're simply watching "game tape" of the previous event, looking to where you can devise a better game plan for the future.
As you do this more and more, you'll find you're able to quickly shake off any interactions with women that go bad, and move onto the next one, strengthening your self image instead of weakening it.
In this way, the past is extremely useful.
On with the fun....
-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"
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