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Denver, CO
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Austin, TX
-Robert O., Marketing Consultant
Toronto, Canada
I had purchased your E-book a couple of months ago, and let me tell you, it's truly a God-send! What I love about your instructions is they are very open-ended in how one can implement your techniques. One doesn't have to worry about "Oh shit, am I doing what such and such page instructed me to do correctly?!" - it beautifully managed to conjure up a bigger, practical "what to do" picture by the time I was finished reading it that, frankly, I doubt few other e-books on the matter will be able to pull off in their readers' minds. Needless to say, my results with women have been pretty amazing! The "smile your way through" technique alone is incredibly effective. Definitely smacks of the good ol' "small hinges turn big doors" maxim, and does so beautifully! It amazing how it's small things like this most of us men take for granted, instead trying desperately to put up some fake Al Pacinoesque or Johnny Depp look to attract women (and for the record, two gorgeous ladies I know of like neither of these actors :)! Most importantly, what I REALLY appreciate about your ebook is that the methods you implement can cater for men coming from ALL backgrounds - whether they are your average "free spirited" schmoe in the street, or even religious, spiritually inclined types such as myself. You may find this funny, but to be perfectly honest, before purchasing your product, I went through some trepidation before buying it, thinking it was wholly based on "best ways to flirt with women" in bars and so on - a practice that's strongly shunned by the culture I was brought up in. But upon finishing your book, I realized there are some fundamental truths about male / female dynamics that NO one in their right state of mind can deny... and us "religious" freaks have this thing for "truism" :) haha Once again, thank you very much for this awesome e-book. Two more semesters, and I'll be done with college - so, no more tuition fees! Which means you'll be looking forward to having at least ONE person purchase your Deluxe offer from my neck of the woods ;)"
Sincerely,
Arman
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December 12, 2005
Q and A with the King
Hey guys,
Looks like my mailbag is filled to the brim with your questions, so today I'm going to take a bit of time to answer the best ones.
Obviously I can't read or reply to all of them (I get literally hundreds a day) so I try my dangdest to respond to the best and the most relevant.
So, keep sending your questions in--who knows, the one I answer may just be yours! Here we go...
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So,
What is your "purpose" with women? What is considered a "finish" in your eyes with women?
Dru
JA: Well, I'm not going to give you the complete answer to this question (sorry, it's private although I may let all my Doer's Only Insider's Club members in on that--see http://www.johnalanis.com/doers_insiders_club.htm for details), but I will tell you this: my "purpose" with women changes based upon time and circumstance, as should yours. Goals and desired outcomes are not a static thing--the truly successful person continually re-evaluates them based on new information and circumstances. "Finishing" however, always stays the same--it is the completion of desired outcome.
Hi John,
I met this gal at a local bar a few weeks ago and the ideas I got from you worked great, it was hysterical I couldn't believe it. Even the phone number routine, I asked for her contact info., she refused to give out hers and wanted mine. I refused to give her mine unless she gave me hers as well. I said "show me yours and I'll show you mine," then we exchanged contact info. per your system. I define authority for her because I know a lot of rock celebs and when we go out I sit in with the bands. The problem is, now we have to move on and I need to know how to proceed.
So far I have been calling her first, and I have been buying all the drinks and food when we go out. I don't like having to call her all the time, I'm afraid it will make me unattractive. How do I get her to call me, and how do I get her to at least offer to buy drinks without looking like a cheapskate?
thanks, Jay
JA: Thanks for the email, Jay and congratulations on your success. You have, however, set a bad frame with this woman, and you're going to have hell getting out of it. Go back and re-read the section on setting and controlling frames so you can avoid falling into bad ones in the future (the bad one you've currently set is calling her all the time, and buying her things).
Here's some advice, though: just quit calling her, and see if she calls you. If she's attracted, she will. Secondly, you're not defining authority when you worry that she thinks you'll be a cheapskate--you're letting her define that reality for you, and letting what other people think control your outcomes. Just tell her you're going to allow her to take you out, show you a good time, and surprise you with what she comes up with. If she balks, you have a decision to make- continue to pay all the bills, or go attract another woman, this time setting the frame from the beginning that expenses are to be shared.
John,
I already received your materials. Thanks. From your articles you always mentioning what should we act upon woman. Now the question is
how should we respond upon woman action. My question is :
Why woman play back off (hold)? She is getting close to us but then she back off. What makes them do that ? Is that because she is afraid of us in the sense of we are going to leave them? What
should we do ?
Thanks.
Adam
JA: Thanks for the email, Adam. Glad to hear you took action, got hold of my materials and are putting them to use. Understand this about women: they like to tease and test men, and you have to be prepared for this. If she's "pulling back" do the same thing to her, but mix in some naughty, funny behavior, and keep attracting other women. If you create attraction, and she realizes you can easily attract other women, she'll quit pulling back because you "took it away from her." This is simply testing on her part to see if you'll get upset, argue, or act like a wimp. Keep defining authority, attract other women, and she'll come around--if you haven't attracted a better one in the meantime.
On with the fun....
-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"
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