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December 01, 2005
The meaning of meaning
Hey guys,
Before we get started, I just want to take a minute to remind you of the holiday sale that ends today. To claim your 17% discount, simply go to http://www.johnalanis.com/holiday_sale.htm Remember, it ends tonight at midnight--don't miss out.
On with today's episode. What does it mean when a woman smiles at you? Or when she flips her hair at you? Or when she ignores you?
Do you know? Or does it even matter?
Today I'm going to share one of the most powerful things I've ever learned about "meaning," something that can truly liberate your emotions around women, something that will allow you to never feel rejected or beat down again.
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Here it is: there is no meaning to any event, except that meaning we assign to it. AND, we are free to choose to assign an event any meaning we want. Events have no meaning, we as humans are meaning-makers.
Now you guys who've done the Forum/EST deal will recognize that immediately. And while I'm not a huge fan of Forum/EST (nor a huge detractor), this is one of the things they teach that is profound.
Let me give you an example. Let's say you're dating a woman, and she suddenly dumps you for another guy. The event is, she quit dating you to see another guy, a real jerk. But what's the meaning? Well, it's whatever you assign it to be. Most guys however assign the meaning of "I am worthless as a man, I'm a bad boyfriend, and she'll never like me again." How useful is that meaning? Not very, and in fact, it's destructive.
Now, consider this. The same event occurs. But you choose to assign the meaning of, "She disqualified herself from my life, giving me the opportunity to upgrade the position of girlfriend." Or, how about, "She's temporarily blinded by the cocaine high of attraction, and when that naturally wears off, she'll be left with the embarrassment of hurting me, and dating a real jerk." Much better meanings, huh? And because you've chosen a much better meaning to an event, you can make much better decisions, and control your emotional state instead of letting it be controlled.
Now, this isn't going to make the bad feelings associated with the event immediately go away, but it WILL make them go away much faster AND it will allow you to come up with a plan of action to create events with a more favorable outcome.
So, don't waste time wondering what a woman's actions mean--they are
simply an event you can assign a meaning to. I'd recommend assigning the most useful one, and then taking action from there.
On with the fun....
-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"
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