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January 26, 2006

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Posted by john at 04:46 PM

More Q and A

Hey guys,

Looks the Q and A went so well yesterday that I'm forced to do some more today. Keep 'em coming--your questions benefit everyone.

Here we go...

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Hey John,

There's a question that's been burning in my mind ever since I've started using your techniques, so who better to ask then you? I've been stumped by this one for a while and I think it could make for an interesting newsletter, or part of.

Here it is:

Ever since beginning to use the C&F strategy, I've gotten 2 types or

She'll either:
1) Blush and get all shy and shell play with her hair nervously, combing it behind her ear every 2 seconds

OR (and this is the one that stumps me)

2) She'll play cocky and funny back with me, almost like "2 can play that game"....shell tease me as much as I tease her

When I get the former reaction, I know that I'm doing the right things and that the C&F is working. However, the latter reaction fools me. John, what does it mean when a girl plays C&F with you and why do they do it, and what do you do about it?

I'm interested in hearing what you have to say about this one.

Sean, Canada

JA: Sean, thanks for the great email. For those of you guys, who don't know what "C & F" stands for, it's "Cocky and Funny," an excellent strategy taught by David DeAngelo, roughly equivalent to my "naughty boy," mindset. (you can subscribe to DeAngelo's free dating tips newsletter by going to http://affiliate.doubleyourdating.com/dt.asp?a=CD199&b=7&o= )

Sean, when a woman teases you back, that means you're on the right track with her. It's been my experience that whenever you run into a woman like this, she's adventurous, confident, and highly sexual--the type of women I like to be with. She teases you back because 1) She's having fun, and 2) she wants to see if you can "hang" with her--she's testing you to see what you'll do next. What you do next is simply--just be "naughtier" than her, and enjoy the "back and forth"... it's what creates sexual tension, which leads to attraction. As long as she's playfully engaged with you, she's attracted.

Hey John,

I have just completed your course and have to say that I was impressed! One of the best courses I've ever done.

I have recently met a very attractive young lady (who approached me). I have heightened her attraction as per the material but have encountered a small hurdle. She is that attracted to me that she is scared that she will fall too deep and get hurt by me. I've only been with her acouple of times but I think this problem could stop me from 'closing the deal' with her. I want her to be an adventure partner (which she could be open to) but the next time we meet, I know this will be an issue - any suggestions? I certainly don't want to end up as a 'friend'!

Also, any suggestions on maintaining attraction with younger woman (besides whats in your material)?



JA: Great question, Matt. Congratulations on getting my system (see http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm ) and taking action with it. The thing to do with a woman like this is to make it clear that you will be dating other women, and that while the time you and she spend together is special, it's to be enjoyed for the moment and has nothing to do with falling in love. Keep in mind young women have young ideas about what love should be, not what it is. They often mistake intense attraction for love simply because they have no point of reference (like women in their 30's and beyond do).

There are two other things you should do: limit the time you spend with her (once or twice a week) and encourage her to date other guys. At the same time you should actively date other women, searching for those who are open to being "adventure partners"... you'll be surprised at how many takers you find.

Hey John,

How do you get a woman to "notice" you when you feel as if you've already blown it.


JA: Thanks for the email. First off, I'd tell you to never feel as if you've "blown it." If you carry that feeling with you, women will pick it up a mile away and avoid you like the plague. If you didn't get the result you want, all it means is you didn't get your desired outcome and you have to take different action. That's it--nothing more, nothing less. When you master your internal emotions, that's when you'll really start to get results with women--keep in mind women can pick up what men are feeling inside.

As far as getting a woman to "notice you" the thing to do is simply to go up and speak to her, making some sort of "naughty, playful" comment. If you make it a habit to do this with every woman you come in contact with, you'll get pretty good at it pretty quick and know what to say and do when you see a woman you want to "notice you." You won't even think about it--you'll just do it (much like driving a car) because it's who you are.

Thanks for the great questions, guys... I'll answer some more next week.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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Posted by john at 10:45 AM