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January 11, 2006
A really good question...
Hey guys,
I received a really good question via email, and I thought I'd share it, and my answer with you today. It has to do with "clarity of purpose," a necessary ingredient for success in any area, yet it's something few people have.
Here's the question:
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Hi John,
This email is right on the point. I have been thinking about discovering what I want lately and I have a few doubts.
I am now convinced it is the most important thing in any area to know what I am going after. But how do I decide that? I have big trouble finding out what I want and what I enjoy. Will ANY answer do? or is there a RIGHT answer? If as you said some men are not cut out for dating multiple women and some are not cut out for long term relationships, how can they recognize what they are truly suited for and who they are truly compatible with? Do you advocate actively changing yourself to become what you think you want?
Do you have any insights to share on this decision-making process?
I don't know if you respond to personal emails. I hope you do. Thank you very much.
J
JA: Thanks for the email, J- you raise some very good questions. You are correct--whatever area you desire success in, you first have to have clarity of purpose, a specific, desired outcome. If you don't, you can't measure it.
Sometimes it is difficult to determine exactly what it is you want. But it is never difficult to determine what it is you DON'T want--and that's a great place to start. Instead of making a list of what you want, make a list of what you don't want. Then go out and start testing and trying different things, noting what you enjoy and what you don't.
As far as actively changing yourself, that's generally a good thing, just because you change anyways based on time and circumstance. Personality is not static--it's dynamic, and changes with events and happenings in your life. Since it's changing anyways, it's best to make sure you're the one controlling and directing that change.
Understand this about long term relationships vs multiple women: time and circumstance change everything. At different times in your life, different relationships with women will be appropriate. When you're young, dating different women is a good thing because it lets you know what you want and don't want in a woman, and if you're cut out for a long term relationship. Some guys are, some guys aren't, some guys aren't ready yet.
Keep in mind that no matter how well intentioned both parties are going into a relationship, they tend to end--it's simply the nature of relationships. Some last for sure, but others end, and it's no one's fault, it's just the way things work (I can hear the divorce attorneys hollering about that one). At the end of a relationship, you may want to not date for awhile, then start dating multiple women, then have another relationship (or not). The point is, time and circumstance change everything, and as you move through life, what is appropriate for you at that moment will change. You constantly have to be evaluating where you are--what was appropriate last year may not be so now, and so on.
On with the fun....
-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"
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