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February 07, 2006

Here's the info regarding today's call

Friends and subscribers,

In case you missed it, I am re-playing last week's call today, at a more convenient time for everyone.

Here's the info for my attraction breakthrough teleseminar, happening in a few short hours.

Don't share this, it's for you only.

You can access this special live call at:

Your private access code is:

Note that on some phone systems you may have to press # twice

Date: -Today-, Tuesday, February 7, 2006

Time: 8:30 PM Eastern
7:30 PM Central
6:30 PM Mountain
5:30 PM Pacific

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Please call in 5 minutes early as there are only so many lines available.

Hope you get to be on today's call.

On with the fun,

John Alanis,
The King of Let 'em Come to You

P.S. Be ready to take lots of notes when you call in...!

Posted by john at 04:41 PM


Hey guys,

As you may or may not know, I get a ton of questions emailed to me. The most common one I see starts out with, "John, there's this one special girl, I really, really like, and..." Usually I get this from
my younger readers, who haven't been through the "relationship wars" and have a younger view of the world.

What I'm going to do today is reprint an email I received on this subject, and then offer my advice, and share with you why I believe there's no ONE "special girl," but rather lots of them, and how this realization can bring you massive success with women in a way that makes both you and them feel great.

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this site is removed.

Here's the email:

Mr. Alanis,

My name is Mitch and I recently purchased your product and am grateful for the advice that it contains, as well as the bonus items you included. Unfortunately, I have not had the chance to read everything completely due to the fact that I am entering finals week for my sophomore year in college. However, I have gotten through about 40 pages of the e-book you sent. Either way, I would like to get to the reason of why I am writing you. To put it plainly, I need your advice. As you once were, I have to been labeled, nay, cursed with the title of "nice guy." I have had this title for about the last 6 or 7 years now and to be quite honest I hate it. Granted, if I weren't a nice guy I would never have become friends with this particular group of girls that I currently am. That is not the problem. I am sure you know what the problem is because it is the same with every other "nice guy" out there. So please allow me to skip the "wading through the bullshit" phase and get right down to it.

Now there is a whole story with this, dating back to October of 2003. But in order to spare you the agony of reading my pathetic story, I will attempt to give only the facts and let you decide if you need to hear the story.

I finally got the balls to express to this particular girl how I felt about her because I could not stand keeping it inside anymore. She is, in my opinion, the most beautiful, gorgeous redhead I have every laid eyes on (and perhaps the most beautiful female ever). Here's where the story starts to head south. I am a romantic, as well as a writer/poet (a very lethal combination when used correctly) and in being so I decided to express my feelings to her with a poem and a single, white rose.

Upon the advice of my ex-girlfriend (no you are not mistaken.... I did type EX) I waited a week to talk to her so as not to rush things, which was, coincidentally, against my better judgment. I did it anyway for no reason other than "my ex is a girl and what better person to ask information about girls, than from a girl herself. Yes I am now aware of what a dumb ass call that was on my part, but to be moving on... After about a week, I asked Laurel (the
redhead) if she would like to go out for coffee sometime or something like that. We got to talking and I realized that I should not have been nervous to talk to her as she is one of the nicest individuals I have ever met.

It turned out that she was seeing someone, but just because of that she saw no reason why we could not just go out for coffee. Before I forget, I must mention the fact that she told me that if I would have asked her to do something within that week that I gave her the flower and poem (which she really enjoyed) then I would most likely have a girlfriend at this very moment and would not be typing this email. In plain English, my ex's advice kicked me in the balls, as the woman I had had the biggest crush on for an entire year, met up with a guy and hit it off with him in the same week I was advised not to rush things.

Well, seeing as how she is a senior and biochemistry major, she has a rather busy schedule. Thus, we did not go out for coffee. However, we have maintained a friendship both over the phone and in the halls of the university. We talk every once in a while and she smiles every time we see each other. We have reached the decision that as soon as winter break starts we will get together to do something. (I do not know of how much importance the following is but I should probably note that I have met with her once at her house. She was helping me with my organic homework unfortunately.)

To make a long story short, which I probably should have done in the first place, I want to know your opinion of the situation. From my perspective there is still a chance, provided that I ride it out and hope for a break up. Granted I have separated girls from their boyfriends in the past, but I have not had the opportunity to do so due to the lack of time spent with Laurel.

I have the worst possible love jones for this girl. I am serious when I say that I most likely will not be able to get over her either until she does something that absolutely thrusts my heart out of chest cavity or until we finally do hook up. Is there anything I can do? Please help, in any way possible.



JA: Mitch, you have a bad case of "that one special girl syndrome" which is causing you to link all your fulfillment with women to her. That's a bad place to be, because it limits the choice you have in your life. Here's what you need to do: thoroughly read my materials, then go out and date other women. One of two things will happen: one, you'll meet someone BETTER (and you will be amazed how often, and how quickly this will happen) or two, she'll see you're the scarce resource and come spend time with you.

The truth is though, even if you and she spend some quality time together, it's not going to last. She'll graduate, find a job, meet another guy, leave the state, or simply disappear, and you'll be in a funk forever IF you link your fulfillment to her. If you view her as part of a type of woman you like to be with, realizing there are others out there just like her or better, then you won't be in any type of a funk over her--you'll just go allow another great woman to come into your life.

I've had times when I've been with a woman who I thought was the greatest in the world, only to have things not work out. Sure I was disappointed, but when I took my own advice, and went back out there I was amazed to discover how many better ones there were. My feelings of disappointment disappeared pretty dang quick, as the energy of the old one was replaced with the energy of a new woman.
The same thing will happen with you.

As far as the boyfriend goes, here's my advice to you: leave it alone. Yes, there are things you can do to break them apart, but it's a very bad thing to do. If you've ever had a woman break your heart in two by ditching you for another guy, you know it's the worst feeling in the world. Few guys deserve to have that feeling, and it's been my experience that when you put something like that out there in the universe, it tends to come back to you multiple times over.

Now, as you know I'm not a sensitive, new age guy who's laying a line of feel-good malarkey on you--this has just been my experience, and the experience of others in this world. Spend your time with other women--the whole world will suddenly open up and you'll discover things about yourself you never knew existed. That's when the fun really begins... take it from me, I know--I've had my heart broken by a beautiful red head as well, only to have it put back together in a new and better way by her and other great women, who I never would have met had I considered her "that one special girl."

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Want to have more fun, and attract more women than you ever have in your life? To discover how YOU can do this, go to www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm now.

PPS There's a lot of great material in my upcoming King's Keys regarding "that one, special girl!"

Posted by john at 10:07 AM