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March 15, 2006

Do you say "if only..." when you think of the woman who got away?

Dear friends and subscribers,

Is there one special woman you'd like to welcome into your life? Maybe you know who she is, maybe you haven't yet met her. Maybe she's in your hopes and dreams, but not in your reality, at least not yet.

When you finally do meet her, when you get that one opportunity to "take your shot" with her, will you hit it out of the ballpark or will you strike out, and watch as she walks out of your life forever?

Too many men leave their outcomes up to random chance, and spend a lifetime wondering, "if only...." If only I knew what to say when she was right in front of me. If only I'd recognized that she liked me. If only I'd been man enough to tell her how I felt.

Don't live a life of "if onlys." When the opportunity arises to welcome her into your life, and the ball is pitched to you, be prepared to knock it out of the park, and live a life of wonderful shared dreams, and shared memories. To discover just how to seize what may be a once in a lifetime opportunity, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now. This website may be removed at any time... don't hate yourself for missing out, don't live a life saying, "if only, if only..."

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Time is passing quickly, my friend, and the days are turning into months, and eh months into years faster than ever before. Don't let them pass alone: go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm at once to discover how to live life's journey with the woman you choose.

Posted by john at 04:08 PM

Q and A with the King

Hey guys,

This NFL free agency is making my head spin--never has so much been spent on so little so fast. What's funny to me is seeing how different people in the sports media react. Tim Colishaw of the Dallas Morning News (a professional Cowboys hater) is fawning over the Redskins signings... Peter King of Sports Illustrated (one of the best in the business) says the 'Skins are insane. Remarkable how different people respond to the same input, especially when they have differing agendas.

Anyways, just like the free agent signings are piling up, so are the questions in my inbox, so I thought I'd answer a few today.

At last the real truth about women, dating, and relationships--why you have been held back by society from attracting the women you truly desire. For a whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm to discover how to lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women.


I need to learn how to control this man. For some reason I have NO problem being the "naughty" boy around strange women I don't really know, but I can't keep it around women I have known for a long time. They all want me to be "the nice boy they always knew". But now I have like two lives. The women I am meeting who adore me now and the women I have always known who think I am a big jerk for changing. What am I doing wrong?


JA: Matt, thanks for the email. When you start engaging in new behaviors that get better results around people who preferred your old results, it can be a bit disconcerting for those people. The truth is you're doing NOTHING wrong--what you're doing is finding out who's an asset in your life, and who's not. If a woman you've known for a long time doesn't like the "new you," that's her problem, not yours. Over time, she'll get accustomed to the new you, and like it much more. In the meantime, pay no attention to what they say and keep doing the things that are getting you results. They're just unhappy they don't have a nice guy to kick around any more... but they'll be happy when they realize (over time) it's much more fun to spend time with a naughty boy.

Dear John,

Well, I'm going to confess to you - I am a female reader. I've found out your ad about "how to attract women" and felt curious and assigned with a male name. I've been reading every email you sent me and found some interesting tips.

I know that most of them works, especially for women who are looking for fun, confident men.

Now, I'd like to ask you if there're any suggestions (websites/free emails) concerning "How men think/feels" or "How to make men think of you all the time". I'd like to know if it is true that, in general, men starts to loose interest once you start to show (too much) affection and, to attract them back, you have to actually act not-interested, at them. Why does it have to be like that? If that's the rule of the "game", then, how will an honest, fulfilling relationship last by playing these hide-and-seek games?

I'll look forward to your reply.

Thank you,


JA: Thanks for the email, Annie and for bringing up some good points that apply to both men and women. The mind has a funny way of working when it comes to overloading something you usually find enjoyable. If, for example, you eat too much of your favorite food every night for two weeks, afterwards it will not be your favorite food--it will make you sick.

The same thing applies to affection--too much of the same thing, and what was at first enjoyable, now becomes boring or irritating. There is a solution, however: the human mind is designed to seek out variety, and as long as you vary what you're doing, you'll be fine.

Once you're with someone it's not so much as having to act non-interested, as varying how you're showing affection, when, and how much. There's time when you show some, times when you show a lot, and times when you show none at all. This keeps the intrigue alive, and we're all attracted to intrigue. We quickly become bored with the same routine, so make sure when you're with someone, you add as much variety as possible. It's just how the mind works.

Thanks for the question Annie, and be sure to email me a picture--it's a tradition on the King's list that all female readers send the King a picture of themselves (which will, of course, be kept private).

Thanks for the questions, guys--we'll do it again soon.

On with the fun--

-John Alanis
The King of Let 'em Come to You

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and live a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now before this website is removed.

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Posted by john at 10:01 AM