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March 23, 2006

The strangest secret

Dear friend and subscriber,

Many years ago a man named Earl Nightengale gave the following advice about how to be successful, "Observe what the majority of people are doing, and then do the opposite." It was good advice then, and it's good advice now. Look at what most men do with women--ask them on dates, act like "nice guys," buy them gifts, etc., etc. And what are the results most men get with women?

REJECTION! Painful, embarrassing, humiliating, rejection! But, it doesn't have to be this way. Now, there is a new system that teaches me to do the opposite of what most men do... and get the opposite results of what most men get. Results like women approaching you first... women buying you expensive gifts... women fighting with each other to spend time with you, and more, much more. To discover how to do the opposite of what most men do, just go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Don't delay--it's come to my attention this website may be removed soon. Don't miss out--go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now!

Posted by john at 04:52 PM

My real thoughts on approaching women first...

Hey guys,

As all of you guys obviously know, I'm a big fan of engineering "attraction systems" to get women to approach you first. When you know how to do this, you never have to worry about rejection again, because YOU get to make the "rejection decision." You're never worried "if she likes you" because you know for sure she does--she came to you.

But what should you do when you see a woman you're really attracted to, and you just can't seem to get her to approach you? That's the subject of today's episode, and I want to start it with the email that sparked this discussion:

Do You HATE Rejection by Women? Imagine, no more heartbreak, no more rejection by women ever... now they approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income. Discover little-known attraction secrets the mainstream "old media" does NOT want you to know... go to
http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this controversial article is removed.


First, I would like to say that I have mastered most of the techniques in your emails to the point where it's become second nature. In fact, as soon as I see a 8, 9, or 10 (I get to that in a moment), I start using simple and elaborate techniques without even noticing.

Now there is particular girl (a 10) who has become obsessed with me during the past half year. Since I'm a student, most of this takes place during classes. I always find this girl either staring at me or talking about me to her friends, even if I'm only a few feet away. Her friends talk about me when she not there. Basically, most of my graduating class talks about this on a daily basis.

So, the dilemma is that I want her to approach me first since she reads my away messages online and I put up a few cocky and hilarious messages about how all women are pulled into me like gravity and other comment about how women approach me first. I also made a hilarious web page which has become quite popular. Let's just say what I put on it made her tell her friends that she wants to make out with me. Interestingly, other girls started approaching me a lot. I know she read it; I caught her giggling nearby talking about it.

However, she is strangely shy; she does all this among other visual cues, more than half of which I don't pay attention to (which drives crazy and I know she thinks of me as the prize), yet has not ever said hello (though she almost did a few times).

So the question: Should I build more sexual tension until she can't resist or should I take the lead and say hi? And if I say hi, will that conflict with my earlier comments? If I want her to approach me, can I do anything to make her more comfortable around me? She thinks of me as a "cold idol" and "evil" ...LOL!



JA: Thanks for the great email, LZ. Pretty neat how getting women to approach you first quickly becomes "unconscious competence," and really, "who you are," huh? But you bring up a good point--sometimes you will run into women who, for whatever reason, just will not approach a guy first.

I'll tell you a quick story. I have a good friend who's 5'9" blonde, in great shape, is hot and sexy by any measure, loves sex, is a successful businesswoman, and stubbornly refuses to approach any man, no matter how attracted to him she is.

Of course she's gotten herself in a situation where she's wildly attracted to a guy who's too afraid to make any type of move, although she gives off ALL the signs, and he's dang near in love with her. She's told me how incredibly attracted to him she is, and all the naughty things she wants to do with him (and they are ALL very naughty).

So, she won't make a move, he won't make a move, they give each other "friendly hugs" and that's it, even though both are wildly attracted to the other. I know, I know, it's silly, but this goes on more often than you may think.

Here's my advice: if you think she's attractive, approach her.
She's dying for you to, just dying. She's probably talked in detail with her friends about all the things she wants to do with you (women tend to talk about such things in case you didn't know). Women are extremely attracted to confident men who approach them first--they love it, even though many men are scared to do it.

In your case, I'd recommend you approach her in a very sincere manner--"Hey, you strike me as a fun, intelligent woman, and I think I'd enjoy getting to know you better--how can we make that happen?"

The reason I recommend starting with sincere is, she may be just a bit intimidated by you, so you need to put her at ease. She's seen the "cocky, funny, naughty" side of you, now show her the sincere, manly side, then switch between the two. It will drive her crazy with attraction, and you may just end up with a great woman.

Or if she turns out to be "not so great," you can turn to her friend(s) who are obviously standing in line for you.

Congratulations on your mastery of the "women approach you skills" and keep me posted on any success stories.

For those of you guys who want to get your hands on the same information LZ is putting to use to get sexy women to approach him first, simply go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PPS Are you finally ready to step up to the Big Leagues, and master every part of your dating and relationship life? Put an end to failure and misery with women FOR GOOD. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now to discover how to do just that... before this website is removed for good.

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Posted by john at 10:52 AM