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May 15, 2006

What does a woman have to say about attracting women? You'll be surprised...

Dear friends and subscribers,

Can you really learn anything from a woman about attracting women? Then answer is usually no--many times women will tell you what they should respond to, not what they really do. However, every now and then you'll meet a woman who tells it like it is--and what she has to say is incredibly valuable.

I have good news for you. I've come across a woman who has a website who really does tell it like it is--and what she has to say is incredibly valuable to any man who wants to attract women. I put a link to her website at http://www.johnalanis.com/shelley.htm for you guys to have a look at, and I highly recommend you pay attention to what she has to say.


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Again, that's http://www.johnalanis.com/shelley.htm

Posted by john at 04:50 PM

Why do you do what you do?

Hey guys,

Every now and then I'll talk to a guy who's having trouble with women, a guy who insists on doing things that simply don't work... yet I can't get him to do anything different.

When I ask him why he continues to engage in behavior that obviously does not produce results, I get this answer: "Well, that's just the way I was raised."

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I hate that answer, and I always have. It's a failure to take responsibility for action or outcomes, and a way to avoid critical thought and self reflection.

Way too many times people use their upbringing, or tradition, or some other form of social pressure as an excuse not to take the action that gets results. They're afraid of being made fun of, afraid of disapproval, or afraid that their "group" won't like them any more. They'd rather have the approval of unsuccessful people than the results of successful ones. It's easier that way.

Success in any endeavor is not an easy task. But it is a worthwhile one. And it often involves developing the skill of immunity to criticism and immunity to disapproval. In fact the most successful people embrace others criticism and disapproval because it lets them know they're on the right track. Unsuccessful people always disapprove of successful people--it makes them feel bad, and they should feel bad. They have just as much opportunity and time in the day as people who get results.

So, if you're not getting the results in any area of your life, check to see if some form of social pressure is holding you back. If it is, ignore it, and view the criticism as proof you're on the right track. Then a funny thing will happen--as you become more successful, you'll start to attract like minded people... and you'll replace those who disapprove and criticize with those who approve, those who encourage, and those who get results.

On with the fun--

-John Alanis
The King of Let 'em Come to You

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Posted by john at 10:54 AM