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July 09, 2006

Why has the "one big secret" to creating attraction been withheld from YOU?

Dear friends and subscribers,

What if I were to tell you there was one BIG SECRET to creating attraction with any woman you want? Further, what if I were to tell you that any can put this secret to use immediately, regardless of your looks, age or income to attract the women--or woman--you truly desire? How interested would you be?

Here's the truth: there IS one big secret to attraction, and it's called "personal authority." Most men are confused by this, having been deliberately been trained to be wusses and nice guys by society, been trained to think that authority is a bad thing.

It's not... IF you use it correctly. Most men don't because they don't know how. But women crave a man with personal authority, they dream about such a man. And you can be that man, if you understand a few simple secrets, things society at large does not want you to know. But I do--and I have condensed these secrets into an easy to use system you can put to work for you immediately. For details, go to


right now, before I decide to remove this website for good.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Personal authority in a man is like a narcotic to women... they can't resist. That's the good news. The bad news is, if you don't give it to them, they'll leave and find a man who will. Don't be the man they're leaving, be the man they run to. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now.

Posted by john at 04:15 PM

It's the cry of the wuss... and an opportunity for you to win

Hey guys,

I received a very good email from one of the younger readers on my list (a sophomore in college) shedding some light on why men are such wusses in this day and age.

Read what he has to say, then stay tuned for an exciting contest where you can win a free digital copy of my Platinum Secrets of Natural Attraction, which usually goes for $99.90.

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this site is removed.

Hey John,
I have found a root of the wuss problem among many young people (this includes teens to guys in college). There is a website out there called myspace. I'm sure you're well aware of it, or others like it. Myspace is the primary blogsite for the youth. I have one, as I am part of the youth (I'm a sophomore in college). One thing I have noticed about this site is that every so often people post bulletins about the type of guys they are, and whine about how they can't get women.

Or the women post bulletins saying they want a nice guy that does all this stuff for them like calling them every night or making her their life, but are oblivious to what flips their own attraction switches. At the end of each bulletin, it says, "guys repost this if this is the kind of guy you are, girls repost this if this is the guy you want or have." And if she does have one, she's not going to have him for long (or rather he's not going to have her, as she will be the one leaving). I would venture to say it's a disease, and it's spreading quickly. Just take a look at a bulletin posted today by a guy:

I'm this guy

Im the guy who will text you every single morning and tell you good morning and every single night to tell you sweet dreams.

Im the guy who will hold you when you're crying and wipe away your tears.

Im the guy who still thinks you're beautiful with no makeup on wearing sweats and a big t-shirt.

Im the guy who won't pressure you to do things you dont want to.

Im the guy who will show up at your house with soup and a movie when you aren't feeling well.

Im the guy who kisses you on the forehead.

Im the guy who doesnt kiss and tell.

Im the guy who actually listens to you when you talk.

Im the guy who's excited all day because im looking forward to our date that night.

Im the guy who is content to just be able to hold you and wants nothing more.

I'm the guy who can't help but smile when you walk into the room.

Im the guy who's perfectly content with staying in and watching movies and cuddling.

Im the guy who won't lie to you about where he's going or where he's been or who he's been with.

Im the guy who gets butterflies when he hears your name.

I'm the guy who's not afraid to tell his friends he loves you.

Im the guy who doesnt mess with other girls when i have you

Im the guy who doesn't care about your imperfections and loves you more for them.

I'm the guy who will hold you while we watch the sunset.


I AM THIS GUY.... one of many.... who always ends up loosing her to the jerks who'll treat her like crap and are "too good of a friend" to date

Girls if this is sweet repost this with the title "I want this guy" or if you have him post it as "I have this guy!"

Guys if this is you repost this with the title "I'm this guy

Now I'm not saying all of these qualities are bad to have, but most of them lack backbone, or authority as you put it, and will kill attraction. Plus, none of these things even seem remotely humorous. But guys will read this, take it to heart, then believe this is how they attract women. They will repost this, spreading the wuss disease. When a guy finally does get a woman (probably by luck as he see it), he'll become this wuss, kill the attraction, then she'll leave. I'm not sure about how we can go about curing this, since most of these guys are blind to the fact that these techniques don't work, and will try them repeatedly until they "get lucky." Every time I see one of these bulletins, I can only think at what fool posted it, and how many more will become infected. When I saw this bulletin, it struck me at how well it resonated with all your teachings of what kills attraction. But hey, for every 100 guys that don't know how to create attraction (and probably more now that this wuss disease is spreading), there will always be at least one who does (me being one of them). And hey, that means more women for me!


JA: Michel, thanks for the great email--reading this list literally makes me sick to my stomach. You are quite right in saying that not all of these are bad, but a lot of them are, and taken together they add up to nothing more than an attraction killing, whiney, simpering butt kissing wuss. It should end with "I'm the guy who's friends with all women and lovers to none."

As far as how to combat it, there's a lot to be done. First off, make sure you're NOT one of these guys. Secondly, take responsibility for training other guys how to be men. Thirdly, when you start having kids, make sure YOU teach them how MEN are supposed to behave and not behave. It's a tremendous problem, but today's men need to step up and start acting like men again. Women are dying for it to happen.

Here's something very interesting. Re read the above "wuss list." Then read the below "Why Good Girls Love Naughty Boys" list, that was put together by a woman for women. Look at the vast differences in behavior between what the wuss (and popular society) think women want, and what they really want. The differences are striking.

Why Good Girls Love Naughty Boys

Because they add spice to our good-girl lives. They make us feel wild and sexy!

Because they excite us because they are so different from us. They're the guys our parents warned us about.

They put passion into our sometimes boring, structured lifestyle. We can't resist their appeal.

Because they are the object of our desires and fantasies....

Because they aren't afraid to argue with us, and they usually win. We know they won't come crawling back.

Because they represent rebellion, excitement and steamy sex all at once, We're under their spell...

Because they are a predator on the prowl. Hungry, unpredictable and a little bit dangerous.

Because they are usually strong-willed and sexually aggressive. Need we say more?

Because they flirt with other women, it drives us crazy and makes us want them more...

Because they can't be tested or trusted most of the time...

Because they are independent with-attitude and throw caution to the wind! Take us baby!

Because they exude confidence at all times, making even the most secure women try harder...

Because they act with authority when they have no right to...

They seduce us without even trying, and we feel like we've got to work hard to seduce them at times!

Because they are the right mix of mysterious and elusive. We never feel smothered but sort of wish we could.

They carry on as if women aren't important to them. We want to be the one who matters.

They have that sexy arrogance that drives us wild!

They aren't afraid to take risks.

They whisper sweet nothings into our ears...

They encourage us to be a little bit bad. They love it when we're a lot bad!

Because we can be as obnoxious as we want, and we know they will always act worse...

Because they show us a better time then responsible upstanding guys. We try to fight this gut reaction, but we can't!

They make us feel incredible when they do pay attention to us. The little things matter so much more.

They love their lives and aren't bound by the rules of society. We want to let loose with them.

They have a lot of energy. And we can't wait to see just how they plan to use it!

They are always a challenge. Who can resist a challenge?

They keep us on our toes and make us less selfish. They won't put up with it!

Because they are our little "projects" to nurture and change, but if they do, we eventually dump them for another bad boy!

Because they have devilishly playful personalities and a twinkle in their eyes. We never know what they're really thinking...

Pretty interesting reading, huh guys? Well, we're going to have a bit of a contest here. What I want you to do is this. Come up with your own "I'm the MAN who..." lists, except instead of inserting wimpy, wussy behavior after "who..." insert attraction creation behavior.

The man (or woman--I'd love to hear a list from the ladies) who sends in the best one gets my Platinum Secrets of Natural Attraction as a prize. The contest ends tomorrow, so get your entries in quick! Just email them to support@womenapproachyou.com

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PPS To discover how to be the MAN women can't resist and be the envy of all your male friends, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm now.

Posted by john at 10:57 AM