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July 11, 2006

Are you missing out?

Dear friends and subscribers,

Do you know how great it feels to have a wonderful woman in your life? One who truly believes in you, and cares for you when everyone else has lost faith? One who gives you certainty, one who makes every day brighter? The feeling is indescribable. If you're not with a woman who makes you feel this way, you're missing out.

To discover the hidden secrets of how to welcome a woman like this into your life, go to:


On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Don't make her wait any longer... she's out there, waiting for you... http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 04:30 PM

The strange link between attraction and guilt

Hey guys,

A few years ago, when I was first discovering that attraction was a skill that could be mastered instead of something that first happens, I showed a friend of mine at the time a few of my secrets. They weren't nearly as sophisticated as what I teach now, but they were effective.

At first he was excited, and even went out and talked with a few women, getting pretty good results. They responded well to him, and wanted to spend more time with him. But then a funny thing happened...

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this site is removed.

What was the "funny thing?" Actually it wasn't funny at all--it was sad, even pathetic, yet it happens to a lot of guys. Instead of seeing the women who were interested in him, he never called them, and quit using the secrets I'd shown him. Why? Because he said he felt "guilty" that he was "tricking and manipulating women" and that he only wanted to be with a woman who liked him for "who he was."

Now, keep in mind that this guy hadn't had a date in years, and women routinely fled from him as soon as he opened his mouth. He was a "dork's dork" and a guy who just repelled women when he was "himself." Yet when he started getting results, he quit taking action because he felt "guilty."

Guilt is a huge attraction killer, and it's an insidious emotion. Guilt happens when we take an action outside the norm of what society teaches. In some aspects it's good (if someone steals they should feel guilty because they are), and in some it's very bad.

When you first start doing the things that create attraction with women, you must be on the lookout for guilt. Why? Because they are
so far outside the norms of what society teaches. Many men think that by using attraction creation techniques they are "manipulating" women because what they are doing is not "normal."

The truth is this, though: if you take the "normal action" you'll get the normal result (i.e. you act like a nice guy to a woman, she'll never call you again). If you take "abnormal action" you'll get an "abnormal result"--success, which is something few men every experience. Hence the term "abnormal."

Here's the truth: women WANT you to create attraction using the techniques I teach. It's what works, plain and simple. By NOT using them and arrogantly hoping she likes you for "who you are" (if you're not currently attractive to women), you are, in a sense, manipulating her, or at least hoping for her to give up her desire to experience attraction to be with a man who refuses to engage in attraction creating behavior. It's not going to happen.

So, if you're using an "attraction technique" you learned, and she's responding well to it, get rid of any guilt, and replace it with pride--you're giving her what she wants AND feeling good about it, something very few men will ever do.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Thanks to everyone who entered the "I'm the man who..." contest (both men and women)--I'm going through all the entries now, and I'll announce the winner in a few days--there might be more than one!

PPS To discover the behaviors that create attractions and those that kill it (many of which you are probably doing unconsciously), simply go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now, before this website is removed.

Posted by john at 10:23 AM