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July 17, 2006

Announcing: the King "on demand"

"How Would You Like to Have Me, John Alanis, Instantly Available to Appear As If By Magic and Give You My Very Best "Attraction Secrets" Advice, Answer, or Strategy Any Minute You Need It, With Any Woman, in Any Situation, Day or Night?"

Dear friends and subscribers,

Imagine the following situation: you attract a woman you've dreamed about for a long time, she eagerly agrees to meet you for coffee, and she's late with NO phone call... what should you do? Is this a test? Is she a flake? Do you dismiss her out of hand, risking losing out on a desirable woman, or is there another, better way?

What Do You Do?

Wouldn't it be great if you could instantly "summon" ME, lay out the situation, and in minutes I could tell you exactly what you should do (and just as importantly NOT do) to turn the tables in your favor? Well, as I will explain in a minute, you can... with my remarkable new "invention." To read more about this amazing new invention, go to

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On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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Posted by john at 04:27 PM

The real meaning of commitment

Hey guys,

Every now and then I get an email from a self righteous snob telling me how evil I am for teaching men to sleep with as many women as possible. Obviously anyone who tells me that is 1) not a reader of my emails, and certainly not a buyer and 2) probably hasn't had a date in years, let alone a relationship.

While there are a few guys in the "how to use 'em and lose 'em business," that's NOT the business I'm in, and for the record, just about everyone on this list knows that. I'm in the "how to succeed with women" business, teaching the method of success, creating attraction.

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But that does bring up the question--what does it mean to succeed with women? Obviously, everyone's definition is a bit different, but surprisingly, what most guys want with women is the same. Overwhelmingly, most guys truly want a committed, lasting relationship, and I think that is a fine outcome. When you're younger (late teen's through mid-20's), I think it's a good idea to date lots of different women so you'll know what you want and don't want when it comes to a lasting relationship.

But when you get older, what was fun during that period is no longer as fun, and most men begin to look for something more. But if you want to have something more, you still need to know how to create attraction AND, just as importantly, you need to understand what a commitment really is.

Most men, I think, don't really understand what commitment means. Many think because they love (or think they love a woman) or she makes them feel really good that they're ready for a "commitment," and that all it means is you see each other and no one else, and profess your "commitment" to each other.

What's left out is the responsibility that a real commitment brings. It's my opinion that, as a man, when you make a commitment to a woman, that you take on the responsibility for her well being. That does not, of course, absolve her of taking care of herself, but it does make you responsible for actively creating the conditions over the long term where she feels happy, loved, protected, and attraction.

What that means is this: you, as a man, have to actively devote time, energy and effort over the long haul to creating and maintaining an environment that leads to success in the relationship, and you have to take the lead in doing so. In other words, not only do you have to work, you have to joyfully embrace the work--and that's where a lot of men (especially in this day and age of entitlement) go wrong in their relationships: they're not willing to work, not willing to accept that fact that work is required. But what they miss out on is the accomplishment and achievement the work brings, plus something that is pretty dang rare today: a happy, healthy and growing relationship.

And that is something every man should strive to achieve.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PPS Before you can have a relationship, you need to know how to create attraction with women first--if you can't create and sustain attraction, you can't have a relationship. To discover how to do both of these things, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm now.

Posted by john at 10:22 AM