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July 18, 2006

In my experience, there's no such thing as luck...

Dear friends and subscribers,

Do you remember the above sentence? Who said it to whom? In case you don't, I'll tell you--in the original Star Wars, Obi Wan Kenobi looks Han Solo straight in the eye, and lays this line on him, after Solo denies the existence of "the force," claiming it's all about smoke, mirrors, and luck.

Unfortunately men think that way about success with women- that it's just "luck." Listen to what most guys say: "Did you get lucky last night?" I hate that statement because it implies that success "just happens," that it's out of your control. The truth is, success is step by step process that can be learned by anyone, in any field, and it can be learned when it comes to succeeding with women.

To discover how you can learn to be successful with women replace "luck" with "learned skill," then simply go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm and discover how to succeed wildly with women in a way that makes them feel better than they've ever felt with any other man.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to step up to the big leagues and live a lifetime of success and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now!

Posted by john at 04:37 PM

Why you must resist your natural urge to "press"

Hey guys,

Many years ago when I was in college, I unwittingly created attraction with a woman I was very much interested in. I was aloof, and a smart ass, but I had no idea that I was actually creating attraction with her. Worse, I had no clue about how to interpret the signs that she was attracted to me.

To make a long story short, I decided to "ask her out" and to my surprise (at the time), she said yes. We had a pretty good time, and I was the "perfect gentleman." I thought it was "going great" but thought it odd that she stopped returning my calls with the frequency she used to.

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm to discover how to lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women

Then I made a terrible mistake--I started to press, calling her even when she didn't return my calls. You can imagine the outcome--loss of attraction, and no woman. I had snatched defeat from the jaws of victory for two reasons: 1) I didn't understand attraction and 2) I started to press when I should have pulled back.

Obviously, I've come a long way from then. I have a firm grasp on the handle of attraction (all my secrets can be found at http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm ), and I've learned to pull back instead of press.

Why does "pressing" fail? Because it's coming from a place of desperation, and desperation is the ultimate attraction killer. Worse yet, it's a natural tendency to press when you feel something is about to be taken away from you.

It doesn't matter if it's business, sports, or attraction. When you start to "press" it always ends up badly. You start taking chances you otherwise would never have taken, and wind up worse off than before.

Here's what to do if you start feeling the urge to press: imagine a giant "reset button," and push it. Reset your emotional state back to neutral, and start taking the actions that you know produce results. Often times you get away from these when you start pressing because it takes time for these actions to produce results--but you MUST get back to what works.

If, for example, you feel the attraction slipping away with a woman you recently met, the thing to do is NOT to start calling her or start trying to rekindle the attraction. The thing to do is step back, start attracting other women, and then slowly start the attraction process again with the one you're interested in when you're not operating from a position of scarcity or desperation.

Putting a stop to your natural urge to press when a situation goes bad is one of the hardest things you will ever do--but it's also one of the highest payoffs.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Why have these forbidden attraction secrets been withheld from you? To find out, go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm right now!

PPS Are you ready to finally step up to the big leagues and live the life of power and success with beautiful, desirable women you deserve? If so, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 10:32 AM