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July 20, 2006

Have you been lied to?

Dear friends and subscribers,

Did you know you've been lied to?

Yes, it's true. The media and popular culture have been lying to you about how to attract women, and the results are not pretty. They'd have you believe that being a caring, sensitive nice guy who never misses an opportunity to confess his feelings is the way to attract women--but if you've tried, you know it's a big, fat lie.

Luckily, there is a place where you can discover the real "lost secrets" to attracting women, a place the media and society are scared you'll find. It's located at:


and you should go there right now before it's removed for good.

On with the fun,

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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Posted by john at 04:56 PM

Should you be mean to a woman?

Hey guys,

I received a really good question regarding the difference in being naughty towards women vs being just plain mean. Many men cross the line between the two, and draw the conclusion that being "naughty" doesn't work, when in fact they were being just plain mean.

The distinction between the two is critical, and today I'm going to talk about that distinction. Here's the email that brought up the question:

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Dear John,

I have this friend of mine who truly has no interest in women at all, he is simply ultimately rude towards women. He says things like, can i see your tits ? HE lifts up skirts of women, grabs their tits, and simply does not care how they react.

But he is absolutely not successful with women, never gets laid, on the contrary other friends, who act like gentlemen and are good-looking manage to get laid every time. I know for myself acting like a gentleman, has truly helped me more than simply acting plain rude.

I wonder what you have to say about this.

Brad, MI

JA: Brad, thanks for sending this in--it's a great topic to discuss. Your friend is being mean towards women, seeking to belittle them, not to make them feel good. That's the critical distinction between naughty and mean behavior--when you act "naughty" you really do want her to feel good and have a good time. She picks up on this and responds. Meanness/rudeness, on the other hand, is simply a way of belittling someone else and is a huge turn off to women.

If you saw the movie "Hitch," you'll remember that Will Smith's character truly "likes women." That is the critical distinction--if you want to succeed with women, you must truly like women, meaning that in every interaction, while you may tease and say naughty things to her, that your intent is really to make sure she has a good time. Your friend will never be successful because he does not like women, plain and simple.

It depends what you mean when you say "acting like gentlemen," but if that behavior allows you to be successful with women, then you're probably engaging in behavior that lets you define authority for the women you're speaking with. Plus, it sounds like you genuinely like women, and as long as they pick up on that behind the authority, you will attract women wherever you go.

Thanks for the great contribution.

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On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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Posted by john at 10:50 AM