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August 24, 2006

Why you should be scared to death when "it's going so good"

Dear friends and subscribers,

Here's an important email I just received:

Dear john

I want to thank you for all the letters. I think they are soo true. I look forward to reading them when I come home from work. My woman left me two weeks ago just out of the blue she said that she wanted to be friends ,well it was like getting a dagger in the back when I wasn't looking. This was after six great years together. When I started reading your letters, everything was so true that you said, now I'm learning how to be a real man and not a wuss and it seems to be working just fine.

Thanks john..


JA: Thanks for writing, Fergus--I've been there a few times myself, and it just plain sucks. "Like a knife in the back" is an apt description of the feeling, and one I've heard used over and over from many guys who've experienced it too. And although they love to use the word, "friends" it ain't "friendly behavior." The good news is (and it's hard to believe there's any right now) is that in a few months (even weeks), the pain will begin to dissipate, and you'll be left with new learnings that will prevent this from happening again in the future.

I will give you some advice: when you're in a relationship with a woman, and YOU start to think to yourself, "it's going great" that is a MAJOR warning sign. Why? Because that's when you relax and stop doing the things that attracted her to you in the first place. And the instant some "bar star" or "rat" comes along who can flip her attraction triggers, she's gone after him. You can never stop doing the things that created attraction in the first place--but what you'll find is, this will make you a better man in the long run because you are much more aware of your environment.

The even better news is, I cover all of this, step by step in my Ultimate Lifetime Power and Success with Women System--for details, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm at once.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Before you keep her, you've gotta attract her--to discover how to get hot, sexy women to approach you first, go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm right now!

Posted by john at 04:53 PM

Why how you view the world determins how you succeed with women

Hey guys,

One of the things that is intriguing to me about this business is the fact that I get so many different response to the exact same input. Everyone on my list reads the same emails. Everyone who orders a product gets the exact same thing.

Some men succeed wildly. Some not at all. Some bitch, moan and complain without ever taking action. What's the difference between these guys?

A whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships that allows me to choose my own relationships with women, anytime, anyplace, anywhere, devoid of all heartbreak or misery, and I'm convinced any man can copy what I'm doing, no matter your looks, age, or income. Why would any sane man reveal these secrets if they were true? To discover the answer go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

It has to do with how they view the world--or, as I discuss in depth in my Ultimate Unlimited Lifetime of Power and Success with Women System (http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm ) their "map and model."

The guys who succeed the most and the fastest have the map and model of "one good idea." All they're looking for in any product is one good idea that improves their life. When they listen to or read a product, their focus is on finding one idea--and if they get more than one (or a bunch) so much the better. Then they go out and test this idea, taking action until they get the intended result. Then they come back and review the product with new knowledge, looking for (and getting) another good idea.

The guys who don't succeed are guys who never even open the product--they buy it simply to buy... that scratches their emotional itch. If they don't use it, they don't get results.

The worst kind of guys are the ones who bitch and moan. They order a product to see how much they know. They listen to it to make themselves feel superior, listening not for one good idea, but for how much smarter they are than the author. As a result, they completely miss out on information that can change their lives.

I'll confess to you to briefly going through a period where I did this. I'd get a product, listen to it, and feel smart because I knew (or thought I knew) more than the author. But I also discovered that smart feeling didn't put money in the bank, nor did it attract women. When I decided to quit making myself feel important, and went back and listened to the product again with the "one good idea" point of view, all of a sudden I started getting real value out of what I thought was a bad product.

And I started getting more value when I listened to products again and again, each time with the benefit of future knowledge. It is, quite frankly, almost unbelievable to me when I get an email from a buffoon who's gotten one of my products and says he "knows it all, and there's nothing new in here." Funny, I've read Robert Ringer's Winning Through Intimidation 11 times, and every time I read it, I learn something new. You'd have thought by now I'd know everything in it, but because the mind tends to forget AND I have new experiences, I always learn something new.

Why? Because I have deliberately oriented myself towards the "one good idea" point of view. It's easy to do--you just mentally make the choice to search for one good idea. When you start doing this, your life will instantly change--you'll be the one attracting the women and the money, while the broke, lonely guys walk around feeling smart.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power and success with women? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 10:49 AM