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September 16, 2006

The one big secret to attraction

Dear friends and subscribers,

What if I were to tell you there was one BIG SECRET to creating attraction with any woman you want? Further, what if I were to tell you that any can put this secret to use immediately, regardless of your looks, age or income to attract the women--or woman--you truly desire? How interested would you be?

Here's the truth: there IS one big secret to attraction, and it's called "personal authority." Most men are confused by this, having been deliberately been trained to be wusses and nice guys by society, been trained to think that authority is a bad thing.

It's not... IF you use it correctly. Most men don't because they don't know how. But women crave a man with personal authority, they dream about such a man. And you can be that man, if you understand a few simple secrets, things society at large does not want you to know. But I do--and I have condensed these secrets into an easy to use system you can put to work for you immediately. For details, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now, before I decide to remove this website for good.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Personal authority in a man is like a narcotic to women... they can't resist. That's the good news. The bad news is, if you don't give it to them, they'll leave and find a man who will. Don't be the man they're leaving, be the man they run to. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now.

Posted by john at 04:15 PM

What women are saying...

Hey guys,

A few days ago I sent out an email entitled "why men fail." As you may or may not remember, I asked all the ladies on the list whether of not they would date the guy who's email I printed.

Well, the response was overwhelming... and very educational. I'm going to reprint some of the best emails below. What I want you to do is read them closely, and look for the commonalities in the answers--very valuable information for the man who wants to attract women.

A whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships that allows me to choose my own relationships with women, anytime, anyplace, anywhere, devoid of all heartbreak or misery, and I'm convinced any man can copy what I'm doing, no matter your looks, age, or income. Why would any sane man reveal these secrets if they were true? To discover the answer go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Hey John-

Would I be attracted to T. Lawless? Not even if he were the richest, smartest, best-looking guy around. The whiney tone of his letter completely lacks the charm and dynamism that draws a woman to a man. He's saying 'I failed every time and I just dare you to try and make me win'. Um, I think I'll pass and move on to the next fella - the one with the grin and the swagger. And if I'm feeling generous, maybe I'll let HIM rock my world.


JA: Yep, whining is a big turn off, and this guy is a world class whiner! A grin and a swagger, however, is a different story--as all the guys who have taken action and invested in my system know.

Hey John,

lol! That was good stuff! Well I absolutely agree with what you said about this guy! Loved the comment of you eating steak tonight whether or not he bought the product! LOL!!!! That was great!

Sounds like he has looked for someone to blame for his own shortcomings and failures - probably his whole life! There is really no bigger turn off to me personally than some one with a "dead beat" attitude that has the mentality that every owes him something. Trust me....being and woman myself......I would pick up on his negative attitude, insecurities, anger, etc., within just a few minutes of the conversation - if not even before the opened his mouth. Just like people can read (pick-up on) someone's open, receptive, approachable body language; unfortunately the opposite is also visible! Truth be known.....you get what you talk/dwell upon. If you constantly say you are a failure or a success.......either way you are right!

Coming from my own personal experience of being approached/hit on by men - if a guy is "real" with me and talks to me like a person instead of coming at me with some overused come-on line; he definitely stands a better chance of actually getting my attention. If I could say one thing to this guy.....it would be: take some time, work through those underlying issues that he needs to deal with, stop thinking that there is going to be one key phrase out there that if he could just find it....he'd have all the booty he could handle, and do some self-evaluation - find out where he is comfortable and use that. If he has a good sense of humor.....go for trying to make her laugh! You can NEVER go wrong with that one! Just be who he is and eventually when he stops trying so hard....someone will take notice! Focus on having fun and enjoying the people instead of that "got to have a women" mentality! Just as you know John.....women pick up on neediness just a men do!

I think he need to strap on a pair, take ownership and just say, yes all the approaches I used in the past haven't worked so far....all the material/education he gotten this far....can't be all bad. Looks to me like he is the common denominator in that equation. If he woke up this morning, he has another chance! Let the buck stop here and make a decision to work on himself. To try and focus on the positive aspects of his life rather than dwell on the negative/past failures. Hey, you can drive a car looking in the rear view mirror the whole time. What make him think he can move forward in his own life/relationships if he is stuck in the past! Falling down doesn't make him a failure.......staying down does!!!

O.k. thanks for letting me get that off my chest - ahahahahaha! I feel better! LOL!!! - jk!!!!

Have a wonderful and blessed day!

Appreciate ya ~~~ you're awesome!

Big smooches,

JA: Couldn't have said it better myself, Jen--thanks for the great contribution!

You hit the nail on the head - this guy is a total downer. He's the last person in the world I'd want to go out with. I'd bet he's the guy that takes you to an expensive restaurant and spends the date complaining about his food, sending it back, talking down to the waitress/waiter (total turn off by the way), then starts telling you about every "idiot" he works with - then wonders why you have the car door open jumping out before he's even in the parking space (done that before by the way)! Yuck!

Mary Ann

JA: You know, I've had some friends like the guys you describe--whined, and peed and moaned about everything. They were broke and had no girlfriends then, and I imagine their lives are pretty much the same now--haven't talked to them for a long time, and I don't plan on doing so any time soon.


Hail No!!!!! Who would be attracted to a negative ned. Tell ole Ned he needs to lighten up and quit trying so hard. The less a guy tries the more results he is going to get. Just picture this......If your in a bar type setting or any setting for that matter, your with your friends, family whoever......Do you think a woman is going to be attracted to a man that is totally obvious about trying to "score" with a woman??? I think not. The woman is going to be totally drawn to the man that is having a great time with whoever he is with, even if he is there by himself! That is someone who is strong and confident in who he is. I'm hoping this is making sense!!! I find my self to be a pretty attractive woman, and I instantly know when a man is desperate. It's a total turn off. So come on ole Negative Ned, work your charm and make it happen brother! Otherwise be prepared to be miserable forever:)


JA: Man, is that ever some great advice, Jeni. The guy who has a great time no matter the situation gets the women (because he has an abundance mentality), the desperate guy gets nothing, due to his scarcity mentality. All women can instantly sense when a man is desperate, and desperation is the ultimate attraction killer. Well said, Jeni.

Thanks for all the submissions, ladies. I'm still going through all of them to determine who will be the winner, but I will announce that later next week, along with some more of your submissions. These are very valuable for all the guys on the list to read, so please feel free to email in your comments at any time.

Also, thanks to all the ladies who sent in their pictures, keeping with tradition on the King's list--I always like to know what the ladies on my list look like, and I must say, there are a lot of hot, sexy ones. If you want to send in a picture, send it to pics@womenapproachyou.com and, as always, I will keep it private and not share it with anyone.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to step up to the Big Leagues and attract desirable women your friends think are out of reach? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 10:09 AM