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September 25, 2006

Lost in a world of fantasy...

Dear friends and subscribers,

If you're from my generation, you might remember those words from the band Triumph--they were a great band, and "Fantasy" was a great song. Unfortunately, that's also an apt description of today's pop culture and media influence when it comes to attracting women... pure fantasy.

If you believe what society teaches, then you believe the way to attract women is by confessing your feelings, acting kind and sensitive, and begging for their favors. Good luck with that.

To get the results you truly desire with women, you have do things that create attraction, not repel it. Luckily, there is an easy way for you to use these, and attract as many women as you want, as fast as you want., go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead the lifetime of power, success, and choice you deserve? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

Posted by john at 04:39 PM

The King answers your questions

Hey guys,

While it wasn't a perfect football weekend--the Iggles and Redskins won, albeit against wretched teams, it wasn't bad either--the Giants and their over-hyped bust of a QB Eli Manning got their heads handed to them in Seattle. It is quite amusing to me to listen to the sports media try to hide the fact that their latest golden boy (gosh, he is a Manning!) just plain stinks. They talk about how well he played at the end of the game, barely mentioning that his incredibly stupid interceptions at the beginning of it got them into a 42-3 hole.

I love it. It puts me in a good mood, which is as good a reason as any for me to do Q and A. So, let's get to it!

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Hi John,

I've noticed in my interactions with women that many times they are pretty "nosy". They want to know what you are doing at all times. I've found that when I with hold this information on purpose it drives them crazy and builds tension, some almost to the point they cannot stand it. Have you noticed this same reaction and what do you do in those situations?

Thanks,

Ben

JA: Thanks for the email, Ben, and great job paying attention to what's happening around you--most guys would miss this, unless of course they're dealing with an incredibly nosy woman.

Women, by nature, are curious creatures and love a challenge. When you withhold information, you create a challenge for them, and this builds tension... which leads to attraction.

Usually what I do in a situation like that is tell her that, if she's a "good girl" she'll find out in time, if she's a "naughty girl" she'll find out faster. This let's her know I'm defining the authority, and gives her a path to follow.

This works well with women who are playfully nosy. Women who are nosy to the point of being stalkers, going through your stuff, and are paranoid and psychotic are women you should immediately eliminate. If she's playfully nosy, it means you've done your job well--she's intrigued, engaged, and wants to know more about you.

Hi King...

What words should we refrain from saying. I would love an article on language usage, or a list of words not to use. "Trying to" I understand as a bad word. "I am," or "will be," are good words, why, and what other words should we look out for.

Here is what I send some employees: "Trying to" is a loser who is making excuses for not being a winner. A winner is a loser who forgot how to try, and just started doing.

Can you do an article with a list of words to use, and ones not to use, possibly some common phrases too.

David S.

JA: David, this is a fantastic suggestion- I may spend two or three episodes on it actually. Stay tuned, because there are a ton of phrases to avoid, and some good ones to know.

I love what you send to employees--it's very, very true.

John--

In a previous email you wrote: "When you first meet her, instead of asking for her phone number (a bad thing to do, anyways)"

why is this? i read somewhere (perhaps about your teleseminar with shelley, etc.) that asking for her phone number is the WORST thing you can do.

why? why? WHY?

please explain in a future email lesson.

thanks,
joe

JA: Joe, this answer is contained in my original manual, Secrets of Natural Attraction, and I go over it in great detail. While I could be mistaken, a quick search of my buyers database doesn't bring up your name or email. Perhaps you ordered under a different name- if so, you need to go re-read it because this is very important. If not, you need to be doer, take action, and get your hands on this manual at once... this information is too important not to have. See http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm for details.

Thanks for the questions, guys--I'll answer some more later.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and live the life of power and success with women you deserve, no matter if you want to attract lots of women for fun and good times, or meet that one special one for a long term relationship? If so, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 10:34 AM