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October 04, 2006

What the BIG SECRET to attraction?

Dear friends and subscribers,

What if I were to tell you there was one BIG SECRET to creating attraction with any woman you want? Further, what if I were to tell you that any can put this secret to use immediately, regardless of your looks, age or income to attract the women--or woman--you truly desire? How interested would you be?

Here's the truth: there IS one big secret to attraction, and it's called "personal authority." Most men are confused by this, having been deliberately been trained to be wusses and nice guys by society, been trained to think that authority is a bad thing.

It's not... IF you use it correctly. Most men don't because they don't know how. But women crave a man with personal authority, they dream about such a man. And you can be that man, if you understand a few simple secrets, things society at large does not want you to know. But I do--and I have condensed these secrets into an easy to use system you can put to work for you immediately. For details, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now, before I decide to remove this website for good.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Personal authority in a man is like a narcotic to women... they can't resist. That's the good news. The bad news is, if you don't give it to them, they'll leave and find a man who will. Don't be the man they're leaving, be the man they run to. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now.

Posted by john at 04:03 PM

What should you tell her when she asks...?

Hey guys,

A lot of guys feel guilty when they go out in the dating scene because they don't know what to tell a woman when they're dating more than one. What they don't know is, most women who are "just dating" actually expect that--and welcome it--because they're sick and tired of guys who think they're "the one" after one or two meetings.

Still, though, it is a good question--how should you deal with it when a woman asks you? Here's the email that sparked it, and my answer below.

A whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships that allows me to choose my own relationships with women, anytime, anyplace, anywhere, devoid of all heartbreak or misery, and I'm convinced any man can copy what I'm doing, no matter your looks, age, or income. Why would any sane man reveal these secrets if they were true? To discover the answer go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.


I do all right with women, but could always do better. What I am saying is that I am no where near desperate like many who contact you.

My question has to do with how to handle success. What do you tell women about other women if you date more than one? I don't wish to be a boor and brag about other women. And I am not whether dropping hints about other women will be a turn-off or turn on. Will women think "he has plenty of women - he must be hot" or "he is a real "player" I had better be careful?"

But I invariably get asked by women "how was your weekend?" I always wonder if I should say "I had dates with someone else besides you on Friday and Saturday" or something vague like "OK - but nothing big." I do not want to lie and it is possible a woman will find out about the other dates anyway and think I am being dishonest.

Another John

JA: Thanks for the email, John. Actually, you'd be surprised by the lack of desperation by most guys on my list. Most are already on the path to success, and just want to discover how to become more so.

Women intuitively know when you're a guy who's good with women, and for the most part, assume you're available to others, up until the point you and her decided to see only each other. There's no reason to brag or boast about what you do, or even mention it. If you do so as an effort to make her jealous, it will back fire because you're relying on external circumstances to create attraction, not internally generated behavior. But you shouldn't hide it either.

If you're asked, be truthful--but in a fun, naughty manner--"yep, I had a few naughty girls compete for my attention this weekend--they did OK. Room for improvement, though." Then just smile and move on. If you're a guy who's good with women, you're just describing your reality, much as other guys would describe going to a movie. It's just no big deal to you. Don't boast about it, don't hide it, just treat it as a normal circumstance, which it should be. The truth is, she's probably seeing other guys too. When it's time to date, it's time to date, and when it's time to commit, it's time to commit. It's not a good idea to hide anything in either circumstance.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 10:19 AM