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October 29, 2006

Why this woman tells it like it is... and why you should listen

Dear friends and subscribers,

Can you really learn anything from a woman about attracting women? Then answer is usually no--many times women will tell you what they should respond to, not what they really do. However, every now and then you'll meet a woman who tells it like it is--and what she has to say is incredibly valuable.

I have good news for you. I've come across a woman who has a website who really does tell it like it is--and what she has to say is incredibly valuable to any man who wants to attract women. I put a link to her website at http://www.johnalanis.com/shelley.htm for you guys to have a look at, and I highly recommend you pay attention to what she has to say.


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Again, that's http://www.johnalanis.com/shelley.htm

Posted by john at 04:18 PM

The truth about women and compliments

Hey guys,

Every now and then I hear from a guy who says, "John, I'm taking your advice to heart--no more Mr. Nice Guy for me. I'm not complimenting women, or buying them things or any of those other wuss behaviors ever again."

Whenever I hear this, I know the guy has not paid close attention to what I teach. He may be well meaning in his learning, or just starting out, but he's missed a key concept in attraction.

A whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships that allows me to choose my own relationships with women, anytime, anyplace, anywhere, devoid of all heartbreak or misery, and I'm convinced any man can copy what I'm doing, no matter your looks, age, or income. Why would any sane man reveal these secrets if they were true? To discover the answer go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

What I actually teach is, you don't compliment a woman or buy her things in the vain hope those acts will get her to like you. That's what nice guys do--they shower women with compliments, hoping those compliments create attraction. But they do not.

Why? Because buying women gifts and complimenting them in the hopes those acts will create attraction is a loss of authority. She immediately sees what you're trying to do. The "good women" will just stop seeing you--those of a different nature will take advantage of the gift giving, stringing you along as far as your wallet will allow.

Now, giving a woman compliments or buying her gifts because you're the type of guy who likes to do that is a different matter. It is a very attractive behavior because you have no expectations of reciprocity--you're doing it from a position of authority.

If a woman does something I think merits a compliment, I'll give her one. If she doesn't I won't. If I feel like buying a woman a gift or taking her to dinner, I'll do so--I'm just that type of guy. I don't do it to get her to like me--she's already attracted to me. I do it because I feel like doing it, and I have no expectations of reciprocity of any kind on her part.

This is the right way to give women gifts and compliments. You do it because you want to, NOT because you expect her to like you as a result.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power and success with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 10:13 AM