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November 02, 2006

How to choose your own relationships with women

Dear friends and subscribers,

Why are most guys unsuccessful with women? Because they let the woman choose the type of relationship, not the man. There's a lot of mythology going around that women only want long term committed relationships leading to marriage, but that's just not true.

There are a lot of women who love to meet men just to "have fun with" or "share adventures" with... but you have know what to look for. And the great thing is, IF you decide you do want a relationship, you can easily go from "fun friends" to something more permanent.

But, you have to know what to do, and what to say, or she'll choose the type of relationship you're going to have with her--and it's usually not the kind you want. Here's the good news: women like men who "define authority" for them and make it OK for them to enjoy a "fun friends with the potential for more" type of relationship. Relationships like these are great: all pleasure and no pain.

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On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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Posted by john at 04:52 PM

Should you care what others think?

Hey guys,

I was listening to a marketing CD the other day when I heard an unusual story. Do you know why most women who join weight watchers fail?

It's not because it's too hard for them to stick to a diet. Or because they don't want to exercise. It's because they're afraid if they lose weight they'll lose their friends.

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Pathetic, I know. But many, many people let what others may think about them dictate their outcomes in life... and you may be doing it too.

Just about every super successful person I've ever met has this in common: they absolutely do not care what others think about them or say about them. Not in the least. In fact, they carry with them a belief that they're superior to other people, and when you compare their actions to the ordinary man, they ARE superior. Not superior by birth, but superior by choice in outcome and action.

This attitude is incredibly attractive to women, and one reason why being the "naughty boy" works so well. By definition, "naughtiness" flies in the face of what others may think about you and shows by your actions that you just don't care.

What does the ordinary guy, the waldo, have running through his head when he talks with a woman? "Does she like me, are my friends laughing at me, what would my parents say, and so on and so forth." In other words the average guy's head is filled with questions about what others think.

The successful guy entertains none of that. When talking with a woman his attitude is, "is she good enough for me?" Women silently pick up on these thoughts in a man's head, and by nature and biology choose the one who cares not a whit what others think. Why? Because this is the ultimate definition of authority. Not only is he breaking the current set of rules, he creates a better set.

This is crucial. The "rule breaker" creates only short term states of attraction, the "rule breaker-rule creator" creates hyper-attraction. There's another name (correct by the dictionary) for this type of man: innovator. The innovator destroys, then creates, and women are very attracted to innovators.

I want to bring up one important point here. While the innovator does not care what others think, he doesn't deliberately go out of his way to alienate and offend. Not at all. What he does is simply not care about what other say, and creates outcomes more to his liking, ignoring rules set by others. If they're offended or grumpy because he does that, that's they're problem, not his.

So, if you're not currently happy with your outcomes with women, the place to start is by checking to see if you care too much what others think. If you have that negative self talk in your head, replace it at once with something more useful--may I suggest superior, "innovator" self talk. You will be amazed at the nearly instant switch in how people perceive and respond to you.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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Posted by john at 09:16 AM