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December 22, 2006

Imagine, no more confusion, frustration, or heartbreak with women ever again, {!custom_fix first name}

If you're sick and tired of being confused and frustrated with women, if you'd like to never have your heart broken again, and finally attract that one special woman, then this may be the most important message you'll ever receive.

When many men first discover that attraction is a skill you can learn, they get excited. But then they get confused, even frustrated. Why? Because attraction can be difficult to describe in words and audio--it really is something you have to see to understand. But one you see it, you "get it"--and it becomes a skill that stays with you for life.

The best way to learn is by actually seeing it in person, and for the first time, I'm going to be demonstrating it for a select few to see. Will you qualify to be one of these select few? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/event_reg.htm to find out...

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Yes, I will be demonstrating with real, live women. For details, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/event_reg.htm now.

Posted by john at 04:51 PM

How to fix a "crisis of confidence"

I received a very good email from a man who was previously successful with women, but is having issues now because otherthings in his life have eaten away at his confidence.

Read his email below, and my answer--you may discover the same thing has happened to you.

A whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships that allows me to choose my own relationships with women, anytime, anyplace, anywhere, devoid of all heartbreak or misery, and I'm convinced any man can copy what I'm doing, no matter your looks, age, or income. Why would any sane man reveal these secrets if they were true? To discover the answer go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Hi John,
A recent success story from SL really got me thinking - about a few things.

First off, he was understandably pleased with his efforts in getting up to 4 'meetings' with women a week on a regular basis. However, I remember a few years ago, WAY before I'd even heard about you and your brilliant ideas/techniques, when I was getting a minimum of two hot girls' phone numbers a night at clubs and pubs.

But one week in particular sticks in my mind because I managed to get 7 dates in 7 days with 6 different girls. I ALSO remember not being very surprised by my success but just being very proud and perhaps smug at my achievement.

That was over six years ago and a hell of a lot has happened to me since then. Sadly most of the BIG things that have happened to me have been VERY negative. I've lost 4 close relatives and been made redundant/fired 5 times to name just a couple of things!

Thinking about it, it wasn't long after my first redundancy when I went out and failed to get any real interest from a woman, let alone a number or a kiss. The more I think about it now, the more I think I let really negative things in my work like SERIOUSLY affect my social/personal life.

My question is this, How on earth do you maintain confidence with women despite so many negative things happening in your work-life or other areas of your life?

I have failed miserably to keep my work life and personal life (especially with women) at a high success rate simultaneously.

My confidence is SO low at the moment that I have only made out with one woman, apart from my 'casual' girlfriend, for about the last three months!!

Any ideas are GREATLY appreciated on this.

Thanks in advance


JA: Thanks for the great question, David--this is something a lot of men have to deal with. First off, it's extremely difficult to succeed with women when you're worried about basic survival. You have to get that need taken care of first, and once you do, you'll find your able to attract women all over again.

Being fired, laid off, or made redundant has a huge impact on your self image, and to attract women, you have to have a healthy self image. So, the thing to do is to fix the "redundancy problem," realizing that the "women problem" will be fixed at the same time.

If you've been fired that many times there's one of two things happening: you're a lousy employee OR you're choosing jobs that lend themselves to high turnover. Having been an employee (and a lousy one), and a business owner, I can give you a bit of insight. Businesses hire employees to either make them money or save them money. If you're the guy in a business who makes or saves the company a lot of money, then they can't get rid of you because it's too painful for them. So, the question to ask yourself is, "how can I be that guy?"

The other thing to look at, of course, are the businesses you choose to work for. In my experience, most business owners and corporations are so dumb it's a wonder they stay in business as long as they do. In this case (which happens often), even the best employees are laid off due to the incompetence of the business owners or top management. So, my advice would be to analyze any jobs you take very carefully to make sure the company is stable before you take the job.

My personal solution to this is to simply be a business owner. I'm too scared to trust my future earnings to anyone but me, having seen what goes on in most companies. Trusting someone else to create the conditions for my continued employment (which is what you do when you have a job) is a frightening prospect for me, so I'm forced to run my own business. The good news is, when you succeed at it, your self image dramatically increases, and your resulting confidence automatically attracts women.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Want to know all my secrets for generating cash AND attracting
desirable women? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/event_reg.htm
to find out.

Posted by john at 10:36 AM