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February 20, 2007

How to choose your own relationships with women

You want to know the interesting thing about "rejection?" It's a short term emotion--it sucks for just a bit, but then you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get moving again. Rejection, however, is NOT the biggest problem guys have with women--it's the inability to control your own outcomes with women that is the most frustrating.

Most guys are in a relationship or dating someone because they can't find anyone better. They're not "with someone who's with them in the way they truly, deeply want to be with someone." Women call this "settling," thinking it's better to be with anyone than with no one.

To me, this is baloney. If you want to have a relationship with a truly desirable woman who makes every part of your day brighter, you should be able to do that--literally at will. If you want to share a night of steamy passion with an incredibly sexy woman, you should be able to do that too. But most guys don't live their life that way--they sit around wishing, wondering, hoping something will "happen" for them... but it never does. Why? Because they don't know how to make it happen! There's no class taught in school on how to choose your own relationships with women.

However, there is good news. I have recently put the finishing touches on a unique system that literally allows you to choose and control all your outcomes with women, anytime, anyplace, anywhere.
I have modestly entitled it, "John Alanis' Ultimate Unlimited Lifetime Power and Success with Women System," and I am currently making a few available on a test basis. To see if you qualify for this test, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now, before all the test slots are filled.

Don't hate yourself for missing out on this rare opportunity to choose your own outcomes with women for life. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this website is removed.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Only a few guys will ever discover these secrets--the rest will forever live a life of rejection and "settling." To be sure you're one of the "chosen few," go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 01:37 PM

Do you scare women away?

When I was in high school and college, I had a variety of intimidating and ferocious expressions. I was the master of the withering stare (still am, by the way), and the cold look. People didn't mess with me--unfortunately that applied to women as well.

When I began alternating and softening those expressions with a naughty boy smile, and a mischievous sense of humor, that's when my outcomes with women changed. In the past they'd been scared away, but now they were drawn to me.

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this site is removed.

I just got an email from a man who is in the exact same situation I used to be--luckily, I have the solution for him.

Dear John,

This is Pablo G., and I wanted to let you know that I am just a high school senior and I don't have enough money to become a member but I am in need of some of your advice . I have never had a girlfriend in my life and I am not in desperation yet because I want to find the right girl but I also want to start dating attractive women so I can find the right girl and not be celibate my whole life.

I am a football player at my high school and was an outstanding defensive lineman at 6'2, 285lbs but I am not fat--I am actually pretty built and am the strongest person at my school. But the women at my school or at parties seem to be intimidated at my size and they go for much smaller weaker guys. What can I do to get these women to attract to me and to make myself seem more approachable?


JA: Pablo, thanks for the great question--this is one that I have an easy answer to. Let me tell you a quick story. A few years ago I was at a seminar, when I heard a presentation on direct sales from a speaker who could only be described as huge. He'd been a college football player, not quite good enough for the NFL, and when college was over he decided to go into sales.

At first he had a terrible time. While he could get appointments, he kept getting thrown out of his prospects offices, with no time to even start his sales presentation. One time, by mere happenstance, he saw a security video of him getting thrown out of the office by a guy who was about 5'5" tall. The poor guy had a look of sheer terror on his face, and was acting out of instinct.

So here's what the salesman started doing. Whenever he showed up for an appointment, he arrived with a huge stack of papers in his hand. As soon as he walked in the door, he tripped and the papers flew everywhere. He bent down to get them, apologizing for being such a klutz, and of course his prospect helped him pick up the papers. Instead of being terrified of his height, his prospect now thought he was just an uncoordinated big guy and invited him into his office. He closed many sales that way.

The thing to understand about this man was that he realized his physical presence was frightening people, and he had to do something about it, something to humanize him. You need to do the same thing with women.

Here's what to do: go to work on developing the best naughty boy smile you can. Whenever you see a woman, instantly smile at her, and when she smiles back, give her a big hug. Then sit down, all the while keeping that smile on your face. You want to get her laughing as fast as possible, because laughter puts her at ease. Make a funny comment, one that addresses your height, i.e. "I'll be you didn't think a big, strong sexy guy like myself had such a big, strong, sexy sense of humor, now did you?"

Now, you do NOT want to slip into nice guy mode. You want to maintain a strong sense of personal authority, but soften it with a great smile and a big sense of humor. You want to be approachable by women, and a great smile and a sense of humor is the best way for you to do that. Women like big guys, but they like big guys they feel comfortable around. Develop your smile and your sense of humor, and you'll have more women than you know what to do with.

For even more "girl attracting" secrets, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Big guys, fat guys, small guys, skinny guys, nerdy guys, athletic guys--none of these labels matter when you know how to create attraction for women. They'll flock to you no matter your looks, age or income. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm for details

PPS Whoops, I've had to postpone the special announcement for a few days... but don't worry, it will be worth the wait?

Posted by john at 08:27 AM