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March 22, 2008
The truth about women and gifts
Hey guys,
One thing of the most misunderstood areas of attraction is gift giving. Some men try to buy a woman's affections by giving her gifts. Other men refuse to buy a woman anything, thinking it will turn them into a nice guy.
Both are wrong. There is somewhat of a science to giving women gifts, and once you understand the attraction dynamic in place, you'll know when and why to give the women in your life gifts, and when not to. I got a great question on this topic, and it's below, along with my answer.
Dear John,
I love all of your advice. It seems to be very helpful. With my one year anniversary of being with my girlfriend coming up I feel stumped on what to buy. I would much rather do something fun and creative with my girl, instead of just buying something.
I was curious if you had any ideas, nothing too serious... just something interesting and fun and then the usual dinner. Also you talk about having personal authority and not being too nice, but where do you draw the line.
Is it not okay to surprise women at work with flowers and candy on Valentines day or other special occasions? This is something a "nice guy" would do. I appreciate your help
SJ
JA: Thanks for the email, SJ, you bring up some very good questions. There is an important distinction to be drawn between creating initial attraction, and sustaining that attraction once you're in a relationship.
When you're initially creating attraction with a woman, buying gifts or giving compliments with the underlying mindset of "if I buy her this, she'll like me" is a bad idea and an instant attraction killer.
However, when you're in a relationship and she obviously likes you, then giving her gifts and compliments is a whole different animal. One of the best ways to sustain attraction long term with a woman is to demonstrate your appreciation for her on a regular basis. A gift or compliment that shows appreciation is a great way to do this, and I highly encourage it (yes, even flowers delivered to her office on Valentine's Day).
Taking action and giving her a gift or creating an experience you'll know she'll appreciate is actually a demonstration of personal authority, not a loss of it. An important leadership trait is to let your subordinates clearly know you appreciate them, and this is in the same vein.
As far as what to do for her, the best advice I can give you is this: find out what's most important to her (by asking), then create that experience for her. That's something no man has done for her before, and she'll never forget it.
Thanks for the great email, SJ--always good to hear from the men on my list who are already in relationships and recognize the importance of mastering the skill of sustaining attraction.
Oh, if you have any questions or comments, send them to questions@johnalanis.com and I'll see if I can answer them in an upcoming email.
On with the fun....
-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"
PPS Before you can sustain attraction, you must learn how to create it--the good news is, it's much easier than you think. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now to discover how.
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