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January 01, 2006

The truth about New Years resolutions

Hey guys,

At the beginning of the any New Year, everyone always starts with "resolutions" for the new year, things they mean to get done, but that tend to evaporate two weeks later. Why? Because they're not really serious about accomplishing their resolutions, they're just "resolving to resolve."

Now or resolutions, or "goals" a bad thing? Not at all--they are, in fact, the basis of all success, if done correctly. So, today, I thought I'd tell you how to use resolutions correctly, so you can get the results you want with women quickly this new year.

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First off, you need to be absolutely clear in your purpose--you need to have a defined outcome. When I do a phone consultation, the first thing I always ask is, "what is your purpose with women?". Rarely do I get a clear answer, and that usually is the root of the problem. If you don't know where you're going, you can't come up with a plan on how to get there, nor can you measure your progress along the way.

So, the first thing you need to do is WRITE your "definiteness of purpose" on a piece of paper. For each of you guys it will be different, but you need to decide what it is you truly want with women, now and in the future. And yes it is OK to have more than one outcome in mind--if you want to share lots of great adventures with great women AND meet one special one for a relationship, that's OK. But you need to be clear in your purpose.

Once you've decided on your purpose, you need to figure out the steps you're going to take to get there. If you know what a step is, but don't know how to accomplish it, then you need to get the information necessary to allow you to complete that step--this is very important.

Then you need to do something very unusual--you need to forget out your desired outcome! Why? It's a weird thing, but when you "chase something" it moves further away from you. However, when you simply focus on the process that will bring you your desired outcome, your outcome moves steadily closer to you until, one day, it surprises you with its arrival.

What do you do next? Well, occasionally you "remember" your desired outcome so you can measure your progress towards it in an unemotional manner. This will tell you what "course corrections" you need to take AND if that goal is still worthwhile of achievement. What very little "self help gurus" will tell you is, sometimes a goal you set will NOT be worth achieving... the price is too high, or as often happens you underestimated the difficulty of the task. That's OK--all you do is set another goal, using the learnings you gained in pursuit of the initial one as knowledge in the achievement of the new goal.

When you put this process to work for you, a neat thing happens... you gain competence in the area of your goal, and with that competence comes CONFIDENCE, something that bleeds over into other areas of your life. For instance, if your goal is to get into tip top physical condition, and you achieve that, the confidence that comes with that will attract women to you automatically.

And, when you achieve your initial goal, all you do is set another, higher one and go achieve that one as well, and so on and so forth. Soon, you'll have the life you desire, and you can focus on making that life all the better... that's the game.

All this may sound a bit "soft" but believe me, it works--this business of mine is living proof, starting as a simple written out goal, then taking on a life of its own as I set higher and higher goals. I've benefited, many, many of you guys have benefited (by going to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm and taking action), AND a lot of great women have too, now that they are finally with guys who can create attraction for them! Let's see how many women we can all make happy in 2006!

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to step up to the big leagues and live a lifetime of success and choice with women in 2006? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now!

Posted by john at 04:07 PM

Happy New Year from the King!

Hey guys,

I just want to take a minute to wish everyone on my list Happy New Year! 2005 was, on the whole, a pretty dang good year for me, and I can assure you 2006 will be that much better. Stay tuned for an important announcement from me coming on Tuesday...

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In the meantime enjoy the football pigout, relax, recover, and get ready for an extremely exciting 2006!

If you don't have a great woman to spend this New Year's with, then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm to discover how to get one to approach you first, no matter your looks age or income, so you can be sure to have one (or more!) next New Years!

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to step up to the big leagues and live a lifetime of success and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now!

Posted by john at 10:01 AM