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January 25, 2006

Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues?

Dear friend and subscriber,

As you know, there are two types of people in this world, talkers and doers. And there are two things that separate the two. One, is obviously taking action. In order to be a doer and get the results you desire in life, you must take action. There is no way around that.

However, did you know there are lots of talkers who do take action, but never get the results they say they want? They look busy, they appear busy, they "do" things, but they never get any results. Why is this? Why are they really talkers even though they "take action?"

The answer is simple: they do not have the right information to base their action on. And, when their action fails, they do the same old thing over and over and then go talk about the lack of results.

The true doer "calibrates" when he or she takes action and doesn't get the results they desire. They look at what they did, they find out where they lack knowledge, then they go out and get that knowledge. Then, and only then, do they take action again, this time a different action. And they continue to go through this cycle of taking action and acquiring information until they get the results they desire. Sometimes this takes a long, long time and the price is high. But the outcome is ALWAYS the same in the end--the doer gets the results he desires.

If you want to be a true doer and control all your outcomes in life with women and relationships, I can offer you the correct information, information that has been tested and proven through my investment, trial and error. What I can't do is get you to take action. That's up to you. But, if you're an action-taker, and all you need is the right information, I can provide that for you. To get that "right information," and step up to the Big Leagues forever, simply go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

I look forward to seeing you in the Majors!

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Don't delay--this is your chance to be "called up," and change your life forever. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm at once.

Posted by john at 04:40 PM

It's time for Q and A with the King

Hey guys,

Looks like you guys have lots of questions, and I have lots of answers. So, without further ado, let's get right to it!

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm and discover unusual secrets to getting women to approach you first.


My question is how do you keep the conversation going? I can get women to approach me and meet me, but I fail when I run out of things to say. I'm a reasonably intelligent fellow, but I am a much better at attracting a woman with good emails and instant messaging. I'm usually quiet in person, and my wits seem to dull in person. I forget what to say that attracts women in person and I also run out of things to say or ask. The awkward silence always brings me down. Any suggestions?


JA: Thanks for the question, Shannon--I used to have a similar problem. The thing to do is to pay close attention to her, and ask her questions that she can't answer with a "yes or no," questions that are different from other guys. One of my favorites is "what's your passion, what are you into?" She has to think to answer that one, and when she does, she'll give you a lot of material.

As she's talking, look for an opportunity to sneak in a "naughty comment" and get a playful "back and forth" going. Then switch back to a more sincere topic. One thing I like to say when she's talking about something she's really into is, "Really--what about that do you find most enjoyable/fascinating/fulfilling?" Then I listen to her answer and comment on what she says.

If I have an opinion to offer on what she says, I'll say it, always looking for opportunities to make a "naughty boy comment." The whole time, I pay very close attention to what she says, and what topics or words get an obvious positive emotional reaction from her. Then I keep the conversation on what she responds well to. As you practice this with women, you'll pick it up very quickly.

Dear Mr. Alanis:

I need your advice on something for a moment. There is a woman that I am truly, madly, and deeply attracted to. There is only one problem...she's in a relationship of her own. I am at my wit's end wondering what to do. I know I want her, but I don't want to come off looking like scum trying to get her to want me. Please help.


JA: Thanks for the question, Andrew. The first thing I'd tell you to do is get your hands on my materials (see www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm ) and thoroughly read the section on why you never link your fulfillment to only one woman. When you get out there and start attracting women, what you'll discover is there are a ton of great women, many surprisingly better than the one you've hitched your horse to. These women are secretly hoping they'll meet that rare man who knows how to create attraction for them. What you need to do is absorb my materials, and become that rare man--it's actually quite easy. What happens is, you stop coming from a place of scarcity with women, and start coming from a place of abundance because you realize there are so many great ones out there.


Sure that's good advice, but how do you beat off their advances?
Is there actually a way in which you can keep them attracted to you, stay friends with them, and keep them from making advances to you?? If there is, I don't know it.


JA: Thanks for the question, Andrew. For you guys who are a bit confused as to what Andrew's referring to, it's an email I wrote a few days ago about why it's good to have female friends who are attracted to, but you've designated as friends. The answer to this question is quite simple: just do what women do to men who are attracted to them, but they want them only as "friends." Just about every guy has been "friended" by a woman at some time in their lives, and now it's your turn to "friend" them. Just tell them, "I value our friendship and don't want to do anything to ruin it." Study what women do to men they "friend"--they are very good at keeping a guy attracted, squarely in the dreaded friends category, and fending off his advances. Just do the same thing they do to you- you'll get the same result.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you finally ready to master every part of your dating and relationship life? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

PPS Get all your attraction questions answered for good-- go to www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm and discover how you can get your hands on some of the most unusual... most effective... attraction secrets ever revealed.

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Posted by john at 10:09 AM