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January 27, 2006

Pay the best and cry once

Dear Friend,

A few years ago I was at a marketing conference when I heard something that literally changed my life. It cost a lot of money to get in the door (over $3,000.00, which I really did not have), but it was worth it.

One of the speakers there, a very smart, very successful businessman told me something I've never forgotten, something that's served me well to this very day.

I asked him what he considered to be one of the keys to making money fast. He looked me straight in the eye and said, "Pay the best and cry once. Be cheap and cry over and over."

I got that. I understood it. This guy charged $15,000.00 plus 5% of all sales just to write one simple sales letter. And people lined up to pay him. Why? Because he got results. Big time results. He was the best. Oh, it hurt to write a check that big, but when the orders came in people quit crying and started celebrating. Other people, who were too cheap to "pay the best" paid the "low budget" guys and wound up crying over and over when no orders came in.

That's what happens when you don't "pay the best." And ever since then I've always paid the best the first time, and been extremely happy with the results.

So, the question to ask yourself is, are you willing to "pay the best" to be successful with women?

If so, there are two products I recommend you check out. One is my "Secrets of Natural Attraction" book where I teach you the basics of attraction... how to create it... how to be the "naughty boy" women love... how to get women to approach you first for a date, no matter your looks, age or income... and more, much more. You can check it out at www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm

The second one is my Ultimate Unlimited Lifetime Power and Success with Women System. This is advanced stuff, and only for men who want to master success with women, whether it's sharing adventures with lots of fun women, or meeting that one special woman who makes every part of your day brighter, for a lifetime relationship. You can check it out at http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

You can spend a lifetime trying to learn these secrets on your own, or you can get your hands on my materials and dramatically shortcut the learning curve. Why waste time... pay the best, cry once, then live a lifetime of power and success with women.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

Posted by john at 04:42 PM

The truth about long term relationships

Hey guys,

What I have to say in today's episode is going to piss some of you off. But it's also going to help a lot of you guys "get clear" on whether or not you truly want a long term relationship.

Why? Because what society teaches us a "long term relationship" should be, and what they really are, are two completely different things. Now, some of you guys are saying, "hey that's BS," and other guys, who've been through the "relationship wars" are saying, "right on, King!"

And any divorce lawyers who are reading this are saying, "Shut the hell up now, you're going to ruin my business!" But, I don't care much for divorce lawyers anyways (never needed one, thank God), so I'm going to go ahead and say what I have to say.

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm and discover a whole new approach to dating and relationships.

Society conditions us from the very beginning of our lives that long term relationships are the end all, be all of life. "Love conquers all," romantic idealists love to blurt. My ass.

Now, I'm not "anti-long term relationship." Not at all. I think they're a good thing, IF both people understand what they're all about. And few people really do. Hardly anyone takes the time to think about what an "LTR" really entails.

Just about everyone thinks because they feel wonderful around the other person, they feel butterflies, they feel chemistry, they "click" that the time has come for a long term relationship because they have finally found "The One."

Nope, sorry, it's usually just the "Next One." Consider this: no one gets married with the expectation of divorce. Yet 50% of all marriages end in divorce, and many couples are miserable in their relationships, they just don't want to go through the hassle of divorce.

See, attraction actually has very little to do with the success of an LTR. Sure it has to be present to begin with, but after that it's really irrelevant. AND, not only is it irrelevant it's transient. Even the most loving married couples will admit that after about three years, the initial "high" of attraction wears off, and the relationship continues because of other factors. It's the "other factors" you have to consider for success of an LTR. Factors like shared values, outlook, and goals in life, true mutual respect, genuine friendship, earned trust, the same living habits, and... both of you must be "oriented" towards the long term. And very few people actively think about these factors... "love conquers all," say the naive and the divorce lawyers start licking their chops.

Again, I am NOT opposed to long term relationships. I think they are a good thing if you have them for the RIGHT REASONS. What I am opposed to is, mistaking initial attraction, no matter how powerful, for a sign that the woman you're with is indeed "the one."

Keep in mind attraction comes with blinders. And the more powerful the attraction, the more powerful the blinders. You may not recognize values, habits, and life outlook in the other person that will be destructive in the long term because it feels so good in the short term.

So, here are a few questions to ask yourself before you get into an LTR:

What do I believe an LTR will allow me to experience?

Does this experience match up with reality?

Is there another way to experience the same thing that has nothing to do with an LTR?

Does the woman I'm considering an LTR with have the same values, outlook on life, and "relationship orientation" that I do? (Be brutally honest with this one)

Has she considered the long term consequences or is she making decisions based purely on a powerful feeling of attraction, and expectations set by society?

What does SHE believe an LTR will allow her to experience? "Us" to experience? Does that experience match up with my view of the experience, and reality?

Think about these questions really, really hard guys. They could save you a lot of pain and heartache. Or they could confirm a truly wonderful experience. But you need to ask them... or you will face the future consequences.

Remember, we all live in reality, not in the land of "should be's." And in reality, there's a huge reason why the divorce lawyer business is flourishing.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power and success with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 10:52 AM