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February 09, 2006

Confused about how to be the naughty boy women love?

Dear friends and subscribers,

One of the most common things I hear from all you guys on the list is, "John, I love what you have to say about being the 'naughty boy,' but I have a hard time understanding exactly how to do that just by reading about it. Can you help me?"

This is a very good point, and a very good question. While many guys instantly "get" what I say when I refer to being the "naughty boy," a lot of guys have a hard time putting it into practice. Believe me, I understand--I used to be the same way until I saw a friend of mine in the Navy (Rick F.) do it many years ago. Actually, I didn't "see" him, as much as "hear him."

Here's what happened: Rick decided to call up a woman he was interested in, a woman who had a reputation for being as cold as ice. So, all of us Navy guys got on the other line, and listened in because we all wanted to hear Rick FINALLY get shot down. He used to brag that he could get any woman he wanted, and it drove us crazy that he was usually right (especially after we'd gotten shot down by the woman he got!).

So, we all got on the phone to hear Rick get his comeuppance, to finally meet his match. But, it was all of US who got the lesson, because as soon as Rick turned on his "naughty boy charm" she melted on the phone, turning from an ice princess into a giggly little girl.

As you can imagine, Rick was insufferable for weeks. But I never forgot HOW he said what he said, the tone in his voice, and how she responded to him. Years later, I turned this lesson into my "naughty boy secret," but it was that phone call with Rick that put me on the right path. It's a shame there's no recording of it.

However, I do have something better, much better. Recently I did a two hour teleseminar with Shelley McMurtry, who's famous for teaching men how to attract women from a woman's point of view. While the information on the call was fantastic, what is even more valuable to you guys is, you get to HEAR the "naughty boy" in action, and hear how Shelley responds to it. See, not only do I interview her, I actually create attraction with her on the call, and you can now hear it, just like it happened.

This, to me. is the most valuable part of the call, and that's saying a lot. Why? Because all the information on the call was amazing, but actually hearing me perform the "naughty boy" and hearing her respond is what puts this call over the top. When you hear me do this with her, you'll instantly "get" what I mean when I say to be the "naughty boy women love."

So, if you're confused about how to be the "naughty boy women love," simply go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_attraction.htm to get
your hands on these CD's, and experience the "naughty boy" for yourself. Listen to them carefully. Unless you are mentally lazy or brain dead beyond belief, you'll finally understand just how to become the "naughty boy," something you can put to work for you at once to create attraction with desirable women.

However, you must hurry. I had my duplicator make a limited supply of these things, and once they're gone, they're gone. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_attraction.htm at once to insure you get your copy.

Don't hate yourself for missing out on what may be your only opportunity to HEAR what it's like to be the naughty boy women love--go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_attraction.htm right now, before it's too late.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Like I said, there's all kinds of other great "how to attract women from a woman's point of view secrets" in addition to hearing me "bring out the naughty boy." To get your hands on these secrets and make sure you're not left out, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_attraction.htm right now.

Posted by john at 04:46 PM

Similar problem, same solution

Hey guys,

I want you guys to read through these emails carefully and see if you can identify a common thread. I hear this one over and over and over, and it is a terrible mistake. I know because I used to be very, very guilty of it myself, and I imagine most guys on this list were at one time or another. But the instant you get over it (and it took me a long time to realize this), your success rate with women will skyrocket.

What will you do when the woman of your dreams suddenly leaves you to be with another man? Don't ever let this happen to you-- go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm to make sure she's always thinking of you... and ONLY you!

Email #1:

Hi John,

My name is Casey and I am a 20 year old male from New York City but currently in college in upstate New York. I was never the ladies man but not because I couldn't but because I ALWAYS let every oppurtunity pass me by! There are times when I have the perfect oppurtunity to talk to girls, to have sexual encounter with them, and I always either mess them up or usually ignore them completely becasue of fear! I have been reading your newsletter and David DeAngelo's as well, and I understand the techniques but I still have trouble applying them, I am afraid I will never have a girlfriend. The times I have had girls in my room and we actually did something were times when I was drinking and the oppurtunity was so blunt that it couldnt be miss.

My question is the following. There is a girl in one my classes and since last year we have been on a hi and bye basis but I heard her tell her friend she thinks I am cute and she has asked my girl friends about me. Everytime she sees me she is always smiling and point is, i know she likes me and I have a chance with her if I try. The only time I see her now is in class and occassionally she turns around and smiles at me. What should I do?!?! Please answer this e-mail, I want this girl. Should I sit next to her and start talking to her? And how do I progress it from there? I want to get to know her.

Thanks, and I hope to hear from you.


Hi, how's it going. My name is Paul from Edinburgh in Scotland. I have been subscribing to your e-mail for the past couple of weeks now trying to put as many of your tips to good use as I possibly can. I work as an aircraft dispatcher at Edinburgh airport and so I get to spend a lot of my time flirting and talking with female cabin crews.

There is this one particular girl who I really like. I act confident around her. I talk to her. I tease her ect. The second last time I saw her I decided to bite the bullet and ask if she had a boyfriend, she replied that she was single and so I asked if I could take her out sometime. She seemed really taken back, surprised and slightly embarrassed by this (There were passengers about) She then asked where I would take her... Suddenly we were interrupted by the captain who needed his paperwork complete and after that I never really got the chance to speak to her again and five minutes later the flight left the airport.

When I saw her again a few days later (while i was dispatching her flight again) we talked and flirted, both sort of pretending that i never asked her out last time. Anyway before the flight left I asked her If I could get her number this time, 100 % confident that I would get the number. She though replied teasingly that she would think about it and once again she went on her way... unbelievable. I was prepared for a yes even a no, but not a 'i'll think about it' She left me helpless, slightly powerless, but i did have a big grin on my face.

My question is. I may not see this girl for another week now. How do I act around her next time i see her. How do i get the ball back into my court. I don't want to ask her out or ask her for her number again, I think twice is enough. I don't want to come across as desperate because i have to work with this girl occasionally.

I am hoping that next time i see her she will give me her number straight of the cuff without me asking, but what if she doesn't. and if i do keep asking her is she taking my power way. Please advise a confused boy. How do I act the next time I see her.

Email #3

Please help me. There is this girl who attends Spelman that i like. I know her name, because we danced together. But after that dance i am to afraid to approach her. Please give me some advice that will ease my shyness. I guess i am afraid of rejection.



JA: Men, thanks for writing in. I appreciate your questions, because they identify a common problem most guys have in their lives at one time or another--focusing on one woman, and linking your fulfillment to her. The best thing any of you guys can do is concentrate on a "type" of woman, not on one particular one. Sit down and write out everything you want in a woman, and everything you don't want. Then, keep your eyes open for women (notice the plural) who fit these characteristics.

Here's what will happen: you will suddenly realize there are lots of women who fit your criteria, and you will no longer link your fulfillment to that "special one." She'll become just another "ordinary great woman" that you're used to having in your life.
The instant that happens, the nervousness will disappear completely because you know you have two or three others you can see who are just as good as her. She'll sense this, and her attraction to you will grow... because she realizes you're attractive to other women!

The other thing you guys are all doing is giving that "one special woman" ALL the power. Things like "I am hoping," "I'm afraid" and "I really want her" give her all the power... and that makes her very uncomfortable. Think about it like this: she hasn't yet proven she's worthy to spend time with any of you guys. She needs to qualify first. She needs to hope she has a chance with you. She needs to want you.

So you guys need to tease her about proving herself to you. You need to speak with her in a calm, funny way, that lets her know you don't care about the outcome because there are three women who can take her place. Tell her things like, "Well, I might allow you to buy me coffee, but only if you promised to keep your hands off me" while you smile your naughty little boy smile. Have fun with the whole thing, completely detached from any outcome. The outcome will follow when you seize the power--and believe me guys, she wants you to. She really does. She's dreaming about it. But you have to do it.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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Posted by john at 09:43 AM