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March 17, 2006

Nervous around women? Here's how to be an "effortless communicator"

Dear friends and subscribers,

Do you feel nervous and awkward when it comes to talking to women? Or, do you "clench up," never knowing what to say next, then watch her walk away, knowing she could have been yours if only you knew what to say?

If you answered yes to either of these questions, there is good news: it's actually very easy to talk to women, IF you know how. The sad truth is, most men simply aren't trained in this easy to learn skill... but now, there is an amazing new system that teaches the "shy and nervous" how talk to women smoothly and effortlessly.
For details, go to www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Imagine, being known as a "smooth conversationalist," and ALWAYS getting the woman you desire. To discover how to do this, go to www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm right now.

Posted by john at 04:26 PM

Should you approach women first?

Hey guys,

While a lot of my system is built around creating automatic attraction systems that get women to approach you first, I don't advocate in any way, shape or form that you stop at that skill set. After you learn to create attraction, the next thing to do is to start approaching women first.

If you don't, you'll miss out on a whole other world. Read this email I got, plus my response, and you'll see what I mean/

At last the real truth about women, dating, and relationships--why you have been held back by society from attracting the women you truly desire. For a whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm to discover how to lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women.

Hi John Alanis,

I've been reading all of your e-mails, haven't missed a single one. I have to say your stuff really works. I've tried the naughty system and since I've been receiving your emails I have had seven cute girls approach me since then. I had a good conversation with them all, they all wanted to keep in touch but sadly I've turned them all down.

This is my second e-mail to you about one particular girl. I just don't understand, the one girl that I like won't come to me but all these other girls come to me. What is it that I'm doing wrong? I don't want those other girls, I want this one particular girl, she's popular, cute and we both have common interests and there's just something about her that's different from every other girl I meet. She keeps looking and smiling at me and is surrounded by her protective girl friends. I'll look at her and smile at her back.
Should I go in her friend barrier and talk to her, in my opinion it's a bad idea, but it looks like my only option.

You always talk about women coming to you, and your system works, but what do you do when you are in a situation where a girl you like won't come to you no matter what you do? (And you know your doing everything correct because women keep coming to you except the one you want)

Or maybe it's because she doesn't like me. The fact that she blushes every time I'm around or how she brings her friends close to me or how she smiles and looks at me. These facts mean she doesn't like me?

I have an eighth girl that came to me a day ago, I didn't turn her down, but I haven't made contact with her either. Tell me if I should start a relation with her instead of the one I want.

Please help me! I'm confused and lost in your system, it works for all but one girl.

Thanks, Matt

JA: Matt, while I'm all for getting women to approach you, after you become comfortable with them, and know how to create attraction, it's time for you to start approaching them. If what you describe is true, this woman is "approaching" you in a very real sense--but she wants you to make the first move, something that is common in many women. Stop worrying about her friends, and stop worrying if she likes you or not--if you've paid attention to what I say, you can create that "liking." All you need to do is go up to her when she's with all her friends, smile your naughty boy smile, take her hand, look around at all her friends and say, "Thank you for holding her for me, ladies--she's with me now." Then take her hand and walk away. Not only will she be attracted to you, but every single one of her friends will be too--and they'll talk to all the other women they know about what you did, and you'll have even more women want to meet you.

Does this take guts? Yes, but... guts are very attractive to women, because few men have them. If you do this in a naughty, fun, playful manner, backed up by authority, making sure to include all the women in the interaction, you'll get your result... AND you'll discover a new skill

Is there a chance you might fall flat on your face? Maybe, but that's what makes it so attractive to women--that you ARE willing to risk falling on your face. And even if you do, it might feel bad for a bit, but then the feeling passes and you're left with a new skill--falling on your face and being OK with it.

Look guys, there comes a time when you need to master the skill of approaching women. They love it, they want you to, and there are so few men who know how to do it right. If you start by them approaching you, you'll build the self image and belief that women are attracted to you, and then you're ready to take the next step. Don't get stuck at one just one point in this attraction game, master the whole thing... including approaching the women you desire.

On with the fun--

-John Alanis
The King of Let 'em Come to You

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and live a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now before this website is removed.

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Posted by john at 10:19 AM