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April 16, 2006

They laughed when I said she was going to approach me first...

Dear friends and subscribers,

...but their jaws hit the ground when this stunning, blond beauty boldly walked up to me and handed me her phone number.

I remember it like it was yesterday. My good friend Don pointed her out in the crowd--"She's the only good one in the room," he said, "and you have no chance with her."

"The question," I replied with a knowing wink, "is whether she has a chance with me. Watch and learn, my friend." He just laughed... but an hour later when she came up to me and introduced herself (Stacey was her name), Don's jaw nearly hit the ground.

"I can't believe it," he said, "I just can't believe it. There were all kinds of richer, better looking guys than you in the room, yet she came up to you AFTER they'd all approached her. What was it that you did?"

"Oh, it was simple," I replied, "And it will work for any man, even a skinny geek like you. All I did was...." To discover what I did to get this stunner to approach me, and how you can do the same, simply go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS If they're laughing at you now, wait until they see you after you've discovered my secrets. To shut them up for good, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 04:29 PM

"I'm smart, funny, and handsome, yet I can't attract women-- why not?"

Hey guys,

I received a very good email from a man who's got a lot of stuff going for him, but can't attract any women. I discovered his problem in the first few sentences of his email, and it is reinforced throughout. It is the biggest reason why men fail with women--see if you can discover what it is.

Luckily, this problem is very easy to solve, and I give him the resources to do so in my answer. Here's his email...

At last the real truth about women, dating, and relationships--why you have been held back by society from attracting the women you truly desire. For a whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm to discover how to lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women

Hi John--

I've read all your material and it looks like it may work, but I'm already doing a lot of that stuff (except I'm still trying to get out of nice guy mode which may take a while. I still get asked by beggars on the street for money while they ignore everyone else that walks by.) For starters, I have little idea what a naughty boy look is. Is this it?

2nd of all, I can't conceptualize how women will come to me. I started doing a local tv show in my area a few years ago, that I produce and host. Clearly I am an expert on the subject matter, which is various sports, and I have developed my talking skills over the years on this show, so I'm a pretty decent public speaker, and I'm on TV regularly! However, I only get stopped by guys in public who have seen my show, never women, who alas probably don't watch it. The idea of the tv show was so me and my buddy could get popular with women. It has failed.

Further, we have a popular segment of the show called the weather report where we (usually not me since women ignore me) find good looking young women to come report the weather forecast for the weekend on our show. Even though I'm clearly in charge of the crew and show, handing out orders in a polite but authoritative manner, none of these girls are impressed by me either.

What's worse is, I'm good looking, make good money, active, sportive, pretty good shape although I could lose some belly weight it's not very noticeable without shirt off. I'm also humorous, in mostly a smart ass way, and seem cocky to some people but I'm really not. Oh yeah supposedly I'm real smart, with some kind of mensa IQ, but I can't figure out how to pick up a woman. My fantasy sports web site associated with the tv show gets 2000-3000 visits a month, including people gazing at some of our pics. Still no bites.

In short, I think your methodology either a. doesn't work for everyone, or 2. doesn't work for me, or 3. you're not telling us everything, or d. you have developed some kind of chick magnet persona that the rest of us simply can't put on. It also might be the area I live in. Northern VA is known for tough and snobby gold diggers. Most of the women I've dated with few exceptions were from another country, the remainder from out of town.

Is there anything you can tell me to help a brother out?



JA: Doug, thanks for the email--it brings up a very, very important point. After reading the first few sentences of your email, I know exactly why you're having problems attracting women. It's your self image and belief set- you firmly believe you are NOT attractive to women, and that belief and self image creates that reality. As long as you carry that self image, you will continue to get the external results.

Go back and re-read your email. Look at your language--it's full of doubt, hesitation and negative identity statements. For example, "I'm still TRYING to get out of NICE GUY mode." And, "I can't conceptualize how women will come to me." Or, "it has failed." And, "none are impressed by me." And last but not least, my all time favorite, "IT doesn't work for me."

I'll tell you a quick story, then give you a resource to solve your problem, which will actually take you very little time. I can assure you I have not developed some "unattainable persona" nor was I born with the talent to attract women. Quite the contrary--I was scared to death of them in high school (I think I had two dates which went nowhere... I didn't even go to my senior prom), still scared in college, then, when I started my first business I lived
for two years in the office space of a warehouse with no shower, no hot water, and obviously no female contact. What changed?

When I started looking at attraction as a skill ANY man could learn, then started applying the principles of that skill, I started getting results. I stopped viewing myself as a guy who's unattractive to women, and started viewing myself as a man who's attractive to all women. As my self image changed, my results changed. The same will happen to you--if you're really serious about getting this issue solved.

The first resource you need to get your hands on is my Ultimate Unlimited Lifetime of Power and Success with Women System. I lay out step by step how to quickly and easily build the skill of attraction, along with your confidence and self image. If you're serious about solving your problem, you'll immediately get it: http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

The other resource I'd recommend you check out is my friend Matt Furey's http://www.psycho-cybernetics.com/ He owns all the rights to the work of Dr. Maxwell Maltz, who pioneered the idea of sculpting your self image to get what you want out of life.

If you take action, get your hands on these resources, and implement what they have to tell you, you cannot help but succeed. If you don't, you'll keep doing the same old things and getting the same old results.

On with the fun--

-John Alanis
The King of Let 'em Come to You

PS Ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power and success with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now before it's too late!

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Posted by john at 10:23 AM