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June 08, 2006

Who else wants to attract that one, special woman?

Dear friends and subscribers,

There's a myth going around about men. Many people seem to think that what men want is to date as many women as possible. But they don't know what they're talking about. Why? Because in reviewing all the correspondence I get from guys, what most stands out is that men want to attract that "one, special woman." Maybe they'd like to have a few adventures along the way, but what they really want is to attract "one."

I think this is a fine thing- but most men have no clue about how to go about doing that, and instead settle for the first one that comes around instead of that "special one" they truly desire. To discover how you can attract that "one, special woman" go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Don't miss out on attracting that one special woman because you didn't know what to do when you finally met her. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now to make sure you can meet her, then attract her.

Posted by john at 04:04 PM

The failure of men

Hey guys,

I went to the mail box yesterday (the real one, not the email one), and as I was sorting through my mail (over a waste basket) I came across the latest issue of Esquire Magazine. I've never subscribed to Esquire, but they send it to me because they want me to advertise in it, and I just might do that... it's obvious they need my services.

This month's issue is about the "State of the American Man," but that's not the article that caught my eye. It was the article entitle, "The Problem with Boys," written by a college professor named Tom Chiarella.

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It's a good article, a very good article, and I highly suggest you read it. Chiarella talks about the disturbing decline in test scores, graduation, and attendance of boys in college, and how that long term trend appears to be accelerating.

He also talks about how there is a disdain for boys and traditional male behavior in general amongst the faculty and administration at his school.

What a shock. All you have to do is turn to popular media, and the disdain is everywhere. For example, I turned on PBS the other night, and briefly watched a show about how Albert Einstein's wife was really the brains behind her husband. The next night was a show about how wonderful it was to be gay. I go to the gym, and all the music videos are nothing but guys whining about how bad life is. I go to the movies, and men are portrayed as simpering wimps, needing to be told what to do by the strong woman in their lives.

This trend is a disaster in the making for our society and our culture. What it does is discourage male leadership, and the values to society it bring. Traditional male behavior is necessary for defense, and necessary for economic well being--you can't successfully run a small business without being a leader, and small business and entrepreneurship are the back bones of our culture. (The media discourages these qualities too--when was the last time you saw an entrepreneur portrayed as a hero or role model?)

What's the solution? I think Chiarella (and Lt. General David Petraeus, whom he interviewed) hit it right on the head. Men have to start actively taking responsibility for teaching boys how to once again become men, something that has been discouraged by popular culture and academia. Men have to look for role models for themselves, then become role models and teachers for young men, encouraging traditional male behavior in the face of the media onslaught.

To date, today's man has utterly failed to do this--easier to whine and simper about how bad it all is, then beg women to help them out. But there's a big opportunity to make a difference with tomorrow's man, so I'd encourage you to set the example, and take an active leadership role in the training of tomorrow's men whenever you get the opportunity.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS One of my best products to date is my "Secrets of Personal Authority," which really is a training guide for "how to be a man." If you don't own it, you probably should--see http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm for details.

PPS Soon, very soon, I'm going to be releasing a limited number of my "Real Conversations with Real Women" CD set where you can actually hear me creating attraction with women as I talk to them on the phone. If you've ever been at all confused about how to implement what I teach, these CD's will demonstrate exactly what to do and how to do it... stay tuned!

Posted by john at 10:04 AM