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June 26, 2006

What's the one big secret to attraction? Here it is...

Dear friends and subscribers,

What if I were to tell you there was one BIG SECRET to creating attraction with any woman you want? Further, what if I were to tell you that any can put this secret to use immediately, regardless of your looks, age or income to attract the women--or woman--you truly desire? How interested would you be?

Here's the truth: there IS one big secret to attraction, and it's called "personal authority." Most men are confused by this, having been deliberately been trained to be wusses and nice guys by society, been trained to think that authority is a bad thing.

It's not... IF you use it correctly. Most men don't because they don't know how. But women crave a man with personal authority, they dream about such a man. And you can be that man, if you understand a few simple secrets, things society at large does not want you to know. But I do--and I have condensed these secrets into an easy to use system you can put to work for you immediately. For details, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now, before I decide to remove this website for good.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Personal authority in a man is like a narcotic to women... they can't resist. That's the good news. The bad news is, if you don't give it to them, they'll leave and find a man who will. Don't be the man they're leaving, be the man they run to. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now.

Posted by john at 04:32 PM

Q and A with the KING!

Hey guys,

It's been awhile since we've done some Q and A (too long, actually) so I want to take a bit of time to clear out the ol' mailbag and answer some of the good questions I've recently received.

Keep in mind I received hundreds of emails and can't possibly answer them all, so I have my customer service manager forward the best ones to me, and I choose from those. Those who are the most relevant to all (and entertaining) are the ones I answer. So, make yours relevant and entertaining, and you might just get featured.

Unlock Your Full Male Potential--Discover How to Create Any Relationship You Choose With Any Woman, Any Time, Any Place, Any Where, Literally on Demand! To finally take control of your outcomes with women, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Hey John,

A lot of really good information is presented regarding how to be attractive to women, how to make 'em come to me, etc. This is not my problem. It might not be your area of expertise, and if this is the case, I'm hoping you might be able to point me in the right direction.

I've been going out with a lady for awhile now (little over a year). We met through Match dot com, and like so many relationships when its new and exciting, everything seems wonderful, etc. . .now I'm starting to see the traits of her personality that annoy me beyond acceptable limits. She has practically no self-esteem, suffers from depression and has a negative outlook on so many things. When I say things, the meaning is often twisted into a negative connotation and wimperingly questioned ("so, are you saying you think I'm fat?")

I've tried being as sensitive in my speech patterns as I can, as supportive and reinforcing of any and all accomplishments as possible, but I still feel the downward spiral everytime I'm with her. I've tried getting into arguments and direct confrontations, in hopes that we might say something about not seeing each other. But before any disagreement escalates, the tears start flowing, she starts apologizing, and I suppose part of my problem might be that I'm just not cold-hearted enough to just blurt right out that I want to see other people.

Do you have any suggestions? Any help would be greatly appreciated.


JA: Thanks for the great email, Rick--a lot of guys struggle with this. Understand that her tears and apologies are just as much tools to disarm you as are arguments and threats. If she's become a bad investment in your life, then you need to get rid of that bad investment or it will continue to dog you in the future. A necessary success skill is the ability to not be afraid of hurting other people's feelings. As Bill Parcells says, confrontation is a good thing because it leads to solutions. What you need to do is simply tell her it's not working for you, and that you're moving on and wish her well. She'll be upset, but she'll get over it and it will be the best thing you did for her. It will give her an opportunity to find someone more suited to her--and you'll build the skill of ending relationships that need ending.

G'day John;

This column has special meaning to me. I left my first marriage and it was painful and expensive. I am ten years into the second marriage and got given the "news". This one was far more painful than the first. I should have considered the rebound aspect of it. I wasn't even out the door and I was being pressed hard by another woman. Not wanting to be lonely I jumped right in. The red flags you and Ms. McMurtry refer to were there. I did focus and started a business and she did not leave. I think she ran into a naughty boy who "flagged " her quite quickly. She is still around and this opens a new situation. I want closure one way or another but am getting cryptic responses. Red Flag.

Hey all you men out there, heed the words of John, Shelley and the Shark. Getting caught on the rebound is so easy as you are hurt and weakened. The anger cripples your ability to make good choices. Think with the brain above the belt. At this point I have set a date for her decision, outlined a personal plan and stated what I want in a relationship and what I do not find acceptable. In the fashion of the Shark. "Jeez guys", her affection seems to rise and fall with the cash flow variances of a business start up. I think I have already made my decision.

BE well and give it hell

JA: Thanks for the email, Bob--I love your sign off, by the way. (Bob is referring to my "getting back in the game" email) This is another good example of getting rid of all bad investments in your life. One of the most important success skills you can develop is quickly identifying and removing bad investments as soon as they crop up. If you don't they will continue to drag you down. But as soon as you remove them, a better one appears.

Understand this: in today's day and age of the wuss, you can very quickly attract another woman if the one you're with turns out to be a bad investment. If you know how to create attraction, and you show some personal authority (see http://www.johnalanis.com/enter.htm for a discussion on personal authority) you will always be able to attract high quality women on demand. Why? Because so few men know how to do it, and women are starving for a MAN who acts like a man.

I think your decision is a good one Bob, and I think you have an opportunity to replace a bad investment with a good one--no need to wait around on this one.


Since you're emailing the hell out of me and I believe all you're selling is your product (your system might work, it might not) why don't you give me some REAL info on how to make $$$$$ selling YOUR product. Cut me in on a percentage and let me do some internet marketing of my own. What do ya think???

John J.

JA: My system isn't an "it" that works or doesn't work. It's simply good information that is up to the end user to put to use to get results. There are plenty of testimonials from doers who took action and got results at http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm Notice one thing in common with these testimonials: they all use the word "I," as in "I took action with your system and attracted a cute girl." Contrast that with the language of refunders who never get results: IT didn't work for me.

Either YOU work, or YOU don't, John... your success is up to you. So, if'n you think you're a hotshot internet marketer (and I'm personal friends with the best and the brightest so I know a thing or two about internet marketing), go on over to http://www.johnalanis.com/doers_insiders_club.htm and sign up for the Doer's Only Insider's Club... all club members may also become affiliates. So, put your money where your mouth is, and if you're any good I'll be quite happy to send you a check... as I do to my affiliates who take action and generate sales every month. Every one has the same tools--the only difference is the person.

Thanks for the questions guys, we'll do it again soon!

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Forget about being the nice guy who's friends with all women, but lovers to none... discover how to be the naughty boy women love--go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm right now!

PPS Are you ready to stand at the "top of the mountain" and pick and choose your relationships? If so, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 10:09 AM