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August 02, 2006

Are you sick of being known as a "nice guy" with women?

Dear friends and subscribers,

If you are frustrated with your current relationships with women, and you truly want to spend your time with real, desirable women who all approached you first, then this may be the most important message you will ever read. Here's why:

My name is John Alanis, and up until recently, I was a complete loser when it came to meeting women (even ugly ones). Whenever I saw a beautiful woman (or even a "semi-attractive" one) I got so scared and flustered I literally made myself sick at the thought of approaching her. And then I walked away, wondering "what could have been" if I'd only had the "guts" to go talk to her. Maybe you've had a similar experience.

Here's what was even more frustrating: on those few occasions when I was "lucky enough" to get a "date" I never got a second one.... Instead she always told me what a "nice guy" I was, but that she "just wasn't attracted to me." And then she'd go moon over some "jerk" who cared nothing about her, and would dump her for her best friend at a moment's notice!

Has that ever happened to you? It sucks, doesn't it? But it gets worse, much worse... because, what would happen next is, one of these jerks would dump the woman I secretly lusted after, and she'd come crying to me with her problems, telling me what a great "friend" I was for "listening"... and then she'd move onto the next "jerk," crushing my feelings like a grape. Maybe you've had that happen to you too.

The one time I did have a "steady girlfriend," I discovered she was just using me for money, even though I really didn't have much of that. She never had a problem taking what little I did have, though.

After awhile I got so frustrated, I quit talking to women altogether. I felt like such a loser. It was just easier to surf the internet, and look at pictures of women I wished I could meet, than it was to actually try to talk to a woman in person. After all, the women I looked at online never rejected me or stomped on my genuine feelings.

I was beginning to think I'd be "celibate for life," when an unusual thing happened, a single event that literally changed my life with women, and put me on the true path to "male liberation" that literally allows me to attract any woman I want, on demand! And, I'm convinced any man can duplicate my success for themselves, no matter your looks, age or income.

Skeptical? I don't blame you... if you had told me a few months ago I'd be able to compel desirable women to boldly walk up and talk to me, I'd have called you a big, fat liar, right to your face. In fact... to continue go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you with someone who's with you in the way you truly, Deeply want to be with someone? If not go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 04:45 PM

He sent flowers and made phone calls but she left him-- why?

Hey guys,

I received a very good email from a Navy man today, bringing up a situation most men have experienced. It has to do with how we think we should treat women to create attraction vs what really works.

There's a good chance you've experienced the same thing in your life, so pay close attention to my solution.

Do you even know the mistakes you make with women? If so, would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this site is removed.

Dear John:

I am in a situation much like this. I don't have much time to go in all the details but I'll make it a quick one. I met this girl at a party, actually she was a blind date for a friend of mine but we hooked up.
She just got out of a relationship with a guy that does the same thing for a living. I'm in the navy.
It was great for the six months that we dated and the last month we went on a vacation together. The next week after that I departed for a six months deployment in the Gulf.
It was ok for the first couple of weeks and then she dropped the bomb! Her side is that she likes me but doesn't know what she wants. Now I have been in many relationships and know the meaning of these words. I have said them myself to many girls at one point or another.
So what I do? I made it worse by doing all the nice things I can.
E-mail every day, send flowers calls, you know all the things that "repel" women.
The problem with this is that I really like this girl. I was in the zone before meeting her and doing it solo for the last two years with many "friends". Then I meet her and wanted to give myself the chance to fall in love again and did. So now that the relationship is down the drain so am I.
How is the best way to solve this problem? Is there any hope or should I just forget the woman of my dreams? It doesn't help that I'm half way around the world either. Would like to hear your thoughts on this.


JA: Always good to hear from a Navy man, Carlos. You hit the problem on the head--you really like this girl to the exclusion of all others. She knows she can have you any time, so the mystery and intrigue of attraction is gone. You're just another guy she can have when she wants. The best way to solve the problem is to begin to limit you communications with her, treat her as you would a friend, and see other women when you get back.

Now, you cannot see other women just to make this one jealous. You have to see other women because that's what you want to do, with the knowledge and intention that you will find one even better than the previous one. One of two things will happen--you'll meet another woman, or this one will realize her mistake and come back. However, when she does come back, you must maintain your authority in the relationship, always maintaining the skill of attracting other women. Women like men who are attractive to other women, even if they won't admit it. When they realize you can create attraction and replace them at the drop of a hat, they spend their time worrying about how to keep you instead of finding another guy. They also must realize you WILL replace them if things don't work out.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 10:41 AM