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August 08, 2006

How to be an effortless communicator

Dear friends and subscribers,

Do you feel nervous and awkward when it comes to talking to women? Or, do you "clench up," never knowing what to say next, then watch her walk away, knowing she could have been yours if only you knew what to say?

If you answered yes to either of these questions, there is good news: it's actually very easy to talk to women, IF you know how. The sad truth is, most men simply aren't trained in this easy to learn skill... but now, there is an amazing new system that teaches the "shy and nervous" how talk to women smoothly and effortlessly. For details, go to www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Imagine, being known as a "smooth conversationalist," and ALWAYS getting the woman you desire. To discover how to do this, go to www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm right now

Posted by john at 04:27 PM

What confidence really means

Hey guys,

Today I want to cover what I call "foundational stuff"... skills everyone knows you should have that are necessary, but are often overlooked in favor of "more advanced" skills. The truth is though, the "advanced skills" are worthless without a firm foundation, and if you're not getting the results you want, it's often because your foundation has eroded.

A whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships that allows me to choose my own relationships with women, anytime, anyplace, anywhere, devoid of all heartbreak or misery, and I'm convinced any man can copy what I'm doing, no matter your looks, age, or income. Why would any sane man reveal these secrets if they were true? To discover the answer go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Everyone knows women "love a confident man." But, what specifically does "confidence" mean? Few people really know, even though they like to throw the word around. For instance, I appeared on a national radio program Saturday night, and one of the hosts kept saying, "oh you're just talking about being confident." Well, yes and no. See, there are several components to "confidence" and few people know what they really are. So, since I'm such a generous guy, I figured I'd tell you today!

Confidence to me, means a strong self image coupled with "preparedness." Both of these are important, because both can be created formulaically. "Confidence" by itself cannot be created, but once broken down into its components, the components can be created and strung together to create the emotional state known as confidence.

I can't teach you to be confident. But I can sure teach you how to build a strong self image, and how to be prepared.

One of the best books ever written on building the self image is Zero Resistance Living by Maxwell Maltz. In it, Maltz talks about designing, creating and building the self image you desire... as you build your self image, your life will begin to change in alignment with your new self image. Dr. Maltz is also the author Psychocybernetics, and I highly suggest you check out www.psycho-cybernetics.com if you want to discover how to quickly and easily create the self image to give you the outcomes you desire.

If you want to know where most guys fall down with women, it's the "preparedness" part. Why? Because it requires time, energy, and effort. It requires you to invest in your education, to take risks and spend money on information. It requires you to use and implement this information, and to correct any implementation mistakes. Most guys are not willing to pay this price... much easier to spend their time talking and drinking beer with other guys who are talking and drinking beer.

Preparedness is hard... but when you're prepared you get results. I've seen confident guy after confident guy get shot down in flames by a beautiful woman who was initially attracted to him simply because he wasn't prepared to create a powerful feeling of attraction in her. He said or did something that flipped off the attraction triggers, and off she went with him never knowing why. It's not enough to have a strong self image... you have to be prepared as well. Only when you combine the two will you have true confidence.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to choose your own relationships with the women you desire on your terms? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 10:23 AM