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August 12, 2006

You, a real ladies' man?

Dear friends and subscribers,

Would you like to be known as a ladies man, a guy who's good with women? Now, I'm not talking about being an abusive jerk who "loves 'em and leaves 'em"--I'm talking about a guy women just love to be around.

Have you ever seen a guy like that? He always has a big grin on his face, and is surrounded by women--he gets to pick and choose who he dates, and women always refer to him as "good to be around."

If you'd like to be "that guy" and have a lot of great women in your life (or find one special one), then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now-- before your friends do.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
The King of Let 'em Come to You

PS Ready to live a lifetime of power and success with women? Then go to: http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

Posted by john at 04:53 PM

Putting attraction into action

Dear friends and subscribers,

There's no doubt that being mysterious and intriguing is an important part of creating attraction with women. As much as women don't like to admit, they love it when a man creates uncertainty--they love wondering if he likes them or not.

However, there is a point where it's time to take action and put an end to that uncertainty... but you need to do it via action, not words. Read the following email below, then my answer to it, and you'll see what I mean.

A whole new approach to dating, women, and relationships that allows me to choose my own relationships with women, anytime, anyplace, anywhere, devoid of all heartbreak or misery, and I'm convinced any man can copy what I'm doing, no matter your looks, age, or income. Why would any sane man reveal these secrets if they were true? To discover the answer go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Hi John,

Listen, I had an interesting experience. There is a girl at work who seemed to like me and we talked in passing, but very superficial; sometimes I would tease her and would say things that were a bit sarcastic, but in a fun way. At one point I said to her that we should do lunch and boy her response was "Anytime." Well I didn't jump at the lunch date for a while and remained a bit distant in communication with her for a while, but eventually I did ask and we did go to lunch(about 2 hours). It was great fun and we laughed a lot. She said afterwards that we should do it again and I said sure anytime; that was mistake number one. I lead her to believe that I was open "anytime" for her! Well to sum it up, I did ask her at a later time and we set up a time, but as you would expect, she had an excuse for me that didn't seem sincere. It troubled me for a while, but when I realized after reading your material, that I might have turned into a "nice guy," she didn't find me as attractive or as interesting as before; I was no longer a challenge. I think your dead on about the "nice guy" thing. It's not about being a nasty jerk, but it's about letting the woman know that you are not that easily had or easy to read - keep her guessing guys! Thanks for your work John.


JA: Thanks for the email Miguel. Looks like you started off well with this woman, but then made a critical mistake, maybe not quite the one you think you made. I know this because I used to make it quite a bit, and killed lots of potential romances.

Here it is: when she said, "we should do it again," then you should have immediately said, "well, I might allow you to entertain me again, if you think you can keep up" (or something challenging to that effect) then IMMEDIATELY set up another date and time. She was waiting for you to take the lead and do that, and when you didn't do it the attraction faded. She was expecting (and hoping for) you to exercise your authority, and you didn't do it.

After you create initial attraction (as you did), it's very important to follow up with action and turn that attraction into something more sustainable. You do this by simply taking the lead, telling her when you're going to meet and what you're going to do.

Here's a big secret: if attraction is not growing, it's dying. You have to continually take it to the next step. You can't just be teasing and naughty and leave it at that--you have to continually advance the attraction. Keep that in mind, and you'll be just fine in the future.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to choose your own relationships with the women you desire on your terms? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 10:49 AM