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January 13, 2007

Do you know the Big Secret? Would you like to?

Guys ask me all the time, "John, what's the big secret to success with women, tell me, tell me!" And you know what? There IS a "big secret," one very few guys ever discover. Would you like to know what it is? OK, I'll tell you... but first let me tell you what it is NOT:

It's NOT about looks, dress or hairstyle.

It's NOT about money.

It's NOT about age or social stature.

Can these things help you with women? Sure, but the guy who know the "big secret" will trump you ever time, even if you have all these so-called advantages.

The secret is this: women will do anything to be with a man who can make them feel a powerful sense of attraction, and I mean anything--they'll give up food, friends, family, money just to be with a guy who makes them feel the narcotic high of attraction. Every man has seen it--a beautiful, desirable woman who throws her life away just to spend time with some broke, ugly, socially inept jerk everyone knows will wind up hurting her in a big, big way.

Why would she do this? Because the jerk knew how to make her feel a powerful (and misguided) sense of attraction. But don't get the idea being a jerk is the way to be successful with women--it's not. Jerks usually move from woman to woman as their "true motives" are found out, leaving behind a trail of broken women who hate their guts. Not my idea of success.

Luckily, there is an even more powerful secret than the "big secret." It's this: attraction is not some mysterious thing that "just happens"--it can be created by any man, no matter his looks, age or income just by following a few simple steps. And the good news is, these steps can be learned quickly and easily, and once you know them, you can simply "turn them on" to meet as many women you want, as fast as you want.

To discover more about these two big secrets, and learn the Five Myths about succeeding with women, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now. You must hurry, however--I am seriously considering "closing off" this website very soon. I have a lot of competitors trying to "knock me off" and I don't want them getting their hands on my closely guarded secrets. Don't delay, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm immediately.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are any of the "Five Myths About Succeeding with Women" holding you back? To find out before it's too late, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now!

Posted by john at 04:55 PM

The truth about office romance

First off, thanks to everyone (especially all the ladies) who sent me birthday wishes--hopefully I'll get as many on my 37th birthday as I have on my 36th.

Anyways, on with today's lesson. Is dating women in your workplace a good idea or a bad idea? The truth is, that depends. I received a great email regarding this topic, so I'm going to take a bit of time to address it today.

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this site is removed.


I was wondering what is your view on office romances like should we or shouldn't we. I'm the career minded focused guy who doesn't go out more than I focus on my potential business undertakings but that leaves me to socialize a bit at work but remain focused on the task at hand. I notice all types of inviting body language from ladies and I'm not the type to let fraternization rules stop me from dating a potentially great woman, I mean what better than a woman who has her own money. I work for a well known company and the women I see I may only see once or twice in a day but I don't exactly know what angle to take as I don't wish to be "friend zoned" and I don't want to blatantly violate company policy while I am there. But these ladies are sooooo hot and I can't hold it anymore. I was wondering what advice would you give on these types of situations for insightful purposes as i pretty much know what I want to do.

Brian G.

JA: Thanks for the great email, Brian. While you have to weight the consequences and the benefits and make your own decision, the answer really depends on your position in the company. I advise high income professionals and business owners to stay far away from office romances. There is too much risk, ranging from gossip to bogus sexual harassment lawsuits, to blackmail and all kinds of other bad things.

The way I look at it is, there are so many great women outside a company, that I just spend my time concentrating on them.

But, if you don't think the consequences of dating women within your company are too severe, then I am also of the mind that you shouldn't pass up a great woman just for the sake of job. It's a decision you have to make for yourself.

There's an old saying I think is apt when it comes to office romance: "the more you have to conserve, the more conservative you get."

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS The Ultimate Attraction Immersion Event is fast approaching--to make sure you don't miss out, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/event_reg.htm right now.

Posted by john at 08:52 AM