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January 14, 2007

Attraction in minutes, not days or weeks

Why do most men have problems attracting women? Because it takes them forever to learn how, IF they ever do. Most don't, and are faced with a life of loneliness and uncertainty. However, it doesn't have to be that way, and there's a new, unique way to shortcut your attraction success.

I've created something I call my "Ultimate Attraction Immersion Event," designed to teach you days what it takes most men months, even years to learn. Why wait for success when you can have it now? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/event_reg.htm for details

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Make 2007 your best year yet with women--go to http://www.johnalanis.com/event_reg.htm now.

Posted by john at 04:22 PM

Online dating from a woman's perspective

Recently I received an email from a man wondering why so many women's profiles stayed up for so long on online dating sites. The reason, of course, is these poor women can't seem to meet any attractive men online and are subjected to waldoes, wusses, and nice guys.

I received several good responses from women regarding their experiences with online dating, and today I want to share one of those with you.

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this site is removed.


I've been meaning to write to you for days now. When I saw you were also a fan of Robert Cialdini's theories, I just had to respond.

I'm a fit, attractive, no-strings-attached, non-clingy woman with a fun career who had been on a popular online dating site for (I hate to admit it) YEARS now, I HAD to write back regarding online dating.

I couldn't agree w/your message below more:

"Oh, and the reason you see so many women with profiles that stay up for months? They keep meeting losers, wackos, and creeps who repel women instead of attract them. If you think it's tough for guys to meet attractive women, it's a nightmare for women to meet attractive men. That's why you see the same profiles over and over."

I try to be a positive thinker. However, the truth is, when online dating first took off, it was a fun place to meet people. It's now turned into a cesspool of men (and woman) who have what I call 'Relationship A.D.D.' It creates a 'kid in a candy store' mentality and women are increasingly wary to utilize the online venue.

I've had guys write to me with emails full of innuendo and others who have railed on me for being 'too picky' in my profile. Hey, I'm paying to post an online profile. There's nothing wrong with stating what I want! : ) Then there are the men who clearly have not read my profile before responding as well as men who come on WAY too strong.

If you're a guy out there who wants to attract a quality woman online, my suggestions for your profile are:

* Have a great CURRENT photo (be truthful about your weight and height or you are just wasting everyone's time.) Everyone is attracted to different things. Be PROUD of who you are!

* Mention you are secure in your career but not a work-a-holic (if this is true)

* Don't just 'wink' at women in which you are interested. Most of the attractive women on these sites will pass you by as you are not putting in any effort. Your emails should reference specific details you admire in her online profile.

* Your emails should NOT come on too strong. Show that you are a confident man, but do NOT act wimpy by referring to past relationship failures, etc. (As John also recommends.)

* Most importantly, if you just got out of a relationship, take the time to get your life together and confidence back before attempting to date again. Women (and I'm sure men) really resent being your 'transitional' person.

Lastly, whether it be online dating or face-to-face encounters, NEVER pass up the chance to greet an attractive woman. You have no idea how few times men pass up the chance as they fear those women are 'taken', 'out of their league' or 'b*tchy.'

Thanks John.


JA: Thanks for the great email, Leah, your advice is right on, especially when it comes to men sending "winks." Nothing says "I'm a wimp," or "I'm lazy" more than sending one of those dumb ass winks. If you got the idea to send one, so did 27 other men. If you want a woman to respond to you, you've got to send a well written email that evokes mental images, compelling her to want to find out more about you. A wink does not do that.

I once had a guy who bought my Deluxe System, and sent in his coupon for a profile critique. I made some changes in it, and told him he had to actively write women since he lived in a sparsely populated area. What did he do? Sent out 187 "winks," then griped because only ten women looked at his profile. Heck, those are actually pretty good numbers, based on "winks"--think what would have happened had he followed my advice.

Thanks for the excellent email, Leah.

At my upcoming Ultimate Attraction Immersion Event, my good friend Chet Rowland, who attracts thousands of women online (no joke, I've seen him in action), will be revealing his secrets to attracting women online that literally compel hordes of women to contact you,
dying to meet you. Chet is the best of the best in this department and you don't want to miss out on his secrets. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/event_reg.htm for details.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS The Ultimate Attraction Immersion Event is fast approaching--to make sure you don't miss out, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/event_reg.htm right now.

Posted by john at 09:18 AM