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January 18, 2007

Do you hate being known as a "nice guy" to women?

If you are frustrated with your current relationships with women, and you truly want to spend your time with real, desirable women who all approached you first, then this may be the most important message you will ever read. Here's why:

My name is John Alanis, and up until recently, I was a complete loser when it came to meeting women (even ugly ones). Whenever I saw a beautiful woman (or even a "semi-attractive" one) I got so scared and flustered I literally made myself sick at the thought of approaching her. And then I walked away, wondering "what could have been" if I'd only had the "guts" to go talk to her. Maybe you've had a similar experience.

Here's what was even more frustrating: on those few occasions when I was "lucky enough" to get a "date" I never got a second one.... Instead she always told me what a "nice guy" I was, but that she "just wasn't attracted to me." And then she'd go moon over some "jerk" who cared nothing about her, and would dump her for her best friend at a moment's notice!

Has that ever happened to you? It sucks, doesn't it? But it gets worse, much worse... because, what would happen next is, one of these jerks would dump the woman I secretly lusted after, and she'd come crying to me with her problems, telling me what a great "friend" I was for "listening"... and then she'd move onto the next "jerk," crushing my feelings like a grape. Maybe you've had that happen to you too.

The one time I did have a "steady girlfriend," I discovered she was just using me for money, even though I really didn't have much of that. She never had a problem taking what little I did have, though.

After awhile I got so frustrated, I quit talking to women altogether. I felt like such a loser. It was just easier to surf the internet, and look at pictures of women I wished I could meet, than it was to actually try to talk to a woman in person. After all, the women I looked at online never rejected me or stomped on my genuine feelings.

I was beginning to think I'd be "celibate for life," when an unusual thing happened, a single event that literally changed my life with women, and put me on the true path to "male liberation" that literally allows me to attract any woman I want, on demand! And, I'm convinced any man can duplicate my success for themselves, no matter your looks, age or income.

Skeptical? I don't blame you... if you had told me a few months ago I'd be able to compel desirable women to boldly walk up and talk to me, I'd have called you a big, fat liar, right to your face. In fact... to continue go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PPS Are you finally ready to master EVERY part of your dating and relationship life? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 04:37 PM

How many women have YOU disqualified?

Today I want to talk about a "hidden mistake" most guys make--they spend too much time with a woman they should have "disqualified" 15 minutes after they met her, mainly because they're just happy to meet any woman who displays an interest in them.

In direct sales, the worst thing a salesman can hear is "maybe." Why? Because it's a tremendous waste of time pursuing "maybes." If you get a "yes," that's great because you made a sale. If you hear "no" that's OK too because you know not to waste any more time on that prospect, that your time is better spent on another prospect.

What if everything you ever thought you knew about dating and relationships was just plain wrong? Would you keep doing the same things and getting the same results? Or would you try something new and radically different? To stop dating, and start living, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm and discover unusual secrets to getting women to approach you first.

What's the best way to avoid the "maybe's" and the "no's?" To be able to sense when to disqualify a prospect. See, the best salespeople in the world usually don't have the best sales skills--they have the best qualifying skills, quickly moving on from non-responsive prospects and spending the bulk of their time with only highly qualified prospects. They are really "great managers of time."

What allows these "superstars" to be so successful is they have rigidly defined the "ideal prospect" and as soon as they identify a trait that is outside of that definition they politely disengage and move onto the next prospect.

The exact same thing holds true when attracting women. You need to, first off, know what your desired outcome with women is, whether it is simply a lot of fun and adventures, or finding one woman for a long term committed relationship. If you don't know your desired outcome, you can't define your ideal prospect. Once you do know your outcome, however, the next step is to define the criteria of the "ideal prospect."

Once you have that criteria defined, you want to quickly find out if a woman you might be interested in fits that criteria. If she doesn't, then you need to spend your time identifying those who do. This is where most guys go wrong--they stick with a woman they should "disqualify," hoping she'll develop the criteria they're looking for. If she doesn't fit your criteria, don't waste one more second--spend your time finding one who fits.

Let me give you an example. If you're a marriage minded guy, and you're talking to a woman who says, "I just want to meet some great people and have fun, and if something develops, we'll see where that leads," then you need to move on. She's looking for fun and adventure, not marriage--you both have differing outcomes.

If you're a guy who just wants to have fun adventures with women, and the woman you're talking to goes on and on about how she wants marriage and kids, then you'd best go talk to the woman described above, instead of spending time trying to convince this one to share a few nights of passion with you, with no continuing commitment.

One of the big keys to success with women is to first understand exactly what it is you want, then spend as much time as you possibly can with women who fit that criteria, quickly moving on from women who don't. As "unromantic" as that may sound, your success with women is a direct result of how you manage your time--boring, I know, but this "boring strategy" leads to a fun, excitement, even fulfillment when you put it to use successfully.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you finally ready to master every part of your dating and relationship life? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 08:33 AM