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March 29, 2007

Don't chase women, attract them-- here's how

There's nothing more frustrating than wondering if a woman "likes you," then pursuing her, trying to get her to notice you, even date you. How does it usually end? By her going off with a guy who she was "attracted to," a guy who never showed any interest in her at all.

Why would she do this? Because the guy who supposedly "showed no interest" actually knew how to create attraction, and she came to him, instead of him chasing her. Trust me, that's a much better way to go, for both men and women--if you'd like to discover how to "stop chasing" and start attracting, then simply go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm and discover how to get women to approach YOU first, no matter your looks, age, or income.

On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"


PS Ready to step up to the big leagues and live a lifetime of success and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now!

Posted by john at 01:58 PM | Comments (0)

The magic pill promise


Since I'm a direct marketer, I pay close attention to things like infomercials, magazine ads, and direct mail. There are two reasons: people who do these things successfully spend a lot of money to do so, and since all direct marketing is measurable only the successful pieces are run again.

It's very educational to look at ads that are repeated time and again, especially when you look at their commonalities. These commonalities give you a real world look at human behavior, an idea of how people really think, not how they should think.

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Take, for example, any diet ad. The most successful ones all show pictures of all the food you can eat, and they generally have some bizarre twist--grapefruit juice, a special spray, weird flavors or some other "magic pill."

Now, anyone with any common sense knows if you want to lose weight and keep it off, you essentially eat less of the wrong things, and exercise more. Works for me everytime I exceed my personal allotted body fat percentage. But people don't want to what works--they want to do what is easy, what is done for them. In fact, they want it so bad they'll fall for outlandish promises, even when common sense tells them it ain't so.

If I wanted to get wealthy quickly, all I'd have to do is go into the "male enhancement pill" market, with a "large promise." Now, every guy knows (or should know) that "male enhancement" is pure BS--yet it's the easiest thing to sell. Why? Because men desperately want to believe the story. Same thing with "pheromones"--they sell well because men desperately want to believe their promise. "Spray this glop on yourself, and women will irresistibly be drawn to you." Sounds good to me, but unfortunately it's a load of horse manure.

Here's the truth about all "magic pills:" you can get to the result most of them promise, but not by simply taking the pill. You have to take action, and do some work to get those results--but you discover it's worth it. Taking action builds your self image, taking a magic pill does not. And a strong self image is what attracts desirable women.

Most people waste years of their lives chasing a magic pill. If they'd simply used that time to do what works, they'd be light years ahead of where they currently are. If the guy who buys every pheromone or "hypnosis offer" spent the time to learn how to attract desirable women, he wouldn't be spending his nights alone... he'd have a skill he can use for life.

The only magic comes from taking action--so take it, instead of a pill.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you finally ready to succeed with desirable women forever?
Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 08:51 AM | Comments (0)

March 28, 2007

The five secrets to success with desirable women

I've said it many times. When it comes to success with women, looks don't matter, age doesn't matter, income doesn't matter, and social status doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is if you can make her feel a powerful sense of attraction. That's it. It really is that simple. If you make her feel a powerful sense of attraction she will give up friends, family, food, anything just to be with you. It's that powerful.

See, most men fail with women because they believe this powerful sense of attraction "just happens." Or that if you have looks, money, or social status these things will create attraction. But this is not true. Any man can CREATE attraction for women... if you know how.

To discover the five secrets to an unlimited lifetime of power and success with women, go to: http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and win a life of power and success with women? If so, then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 01:37 PM | Comments (0)

Don't be misled by "titles"

One of the biggest mistakes people make in evaluating others is presuming that because they have a title, or letters after their name that they are sane and competent. If, for example, someone has an MBA they presume that person knows a lot about business. Or, if someone is an MD, they presume that person knows a lot about fitness.

These are dangerous assumptions to make, however. Just because someone has a title does not mean they are competent. All it means is they've completed the requisite training to get a title.

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A lot of people are intimidated by those with titles, conferring false authority on them. If you've ever been in a group of people, and one of them identifies himself as a college professor, it is amazing to watch how the group suddenly responds. They automatically confer expertise on him, and try to use big words and professional phrases to impress him, even though they have no idea how competent he might be.

Understand this: people with titles can be just as sane or insane as anyone else. They engage in just as much bad or silly behavior as those without titles. For example, if you rent a mailing list of "male enhancement buyers" you will discover some of the guys on the list are medical doctors--and they're repeat buyers!

They should know better, right? They should, but they're just like every other guy who wants to believe such a product really works. If you turn on any UFO show, you'll see guys with impressive sounding titles (like "nuclear physicist) regularly interviewed, genuinely believing we're being visited by little green men.

The point I want to make is this: don't let your judgment about someone be swayed just because they have a title. Evaluate them based on results and behavior like you would anyone else. While there are plenty of bright, smart, sane men and women with titles, there are also plenty of them who are just plain cuckoo. Look past the title to the person, and you'll make a much better decision about how they fit into your life.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to claim your own title "Attractive Man?" Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 08:47 AM | Comments (0)

March 27, 2007

Special announcement from John Alanis


I have some exciting news for you. My friend and fellow attraction expert Shelley McMurtry has just released a new update to her "Instant Attraction Generator System," one that takes a peek deep into the female mind, finally revealing (from a woman's point of view) why women behave the way they do.

I've personally reviewed this information, and it is dynamite. There is nothing more valuable than understanding how women think about men, especially when it's a woman "peeling back the curtains." If you've ever been frustrated by women, whether it's attracting them in the first place, or sustaining that attraction in a relationship, this information will put an end to that frustration for good.

Now, when most women give men advice about attraction, it's usually what "should work," not what works in the real world. But Shelley is different--what she has to reveal is some of the most practical, useful information I've ever come across, and I don't say that lightly. It is my recommendation you get your hands on it at once.

Here's what to do next: just go to http://www.johnalanis.com/shelley.htm and enter the site. Then read Shelley's report carefully, and click on over the Instant Sign Up Form. That's the only place she mentions her new update, and the only place you can get it.

However, you must hurry. After reading this information, I've advised her to raise the price on this material substantially--it's too good to let go at the current rate. However, she's decided to keep it at the current rate for her existing customers, and any one from my lists who takes action within the next two days, so time is of the essence.

Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/shelley.htm right now to finally understand how women think about men... from a woman's point of view.


Sincerely,

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"


PS Again, that's http://www.johnalanis.com/shelley.htm

Posted by john at 01:31 PM | Comments (0)

Separating the talkers from the doers

Before we get started today, I want to give everyone a head's up about this afternoon's email--I have a special announcement to make, and you don't want to miss out on this one.

What I want to talk about today is the most ignored... but most important... part of attraction--the ability to quickly disqualify people (women and men) who are not suited to spend time with you. This is where most men go wrong, turning what could have been fifteen minutes of conversation into months of disaster.

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Like I've said before, there are two kinds of people in this world--talkers and doers. Talkers talk about what they wish they would do, and doers shut up and do it. But doers also do one other very important thing: they actively avoid spending time with talkers.

Most of the world is made up of talkers, male and female. It's easier to talk about success than actually achieve it, so most people choose to talk. But if you desire success, whether with women or any other area of your life, you must quickly separate the talkers from the doers, spending time only with doers, both male and female.

One of the best ways to do this is to make it your business to hang out with successful people, so you can get a feel for them. Successful doers have certain mannerisms, gestures, beliefs, mindsets and actions in common. When you surround yourself with people like that, you'll very quickly know if someone is the real deal, or just another talker.

Now, just as doers have common traits and characteristics, so do talkers, and it's important you recognize them as well. Here's an easy way to do this: go to any bar on a weeknight, and listen in on the conversations of those who live there, the crowd who can't wait for happy hour. Do this for a few nights, and you'll quickly pick up on the mannerisms of talkers. Contrast this with how doers behave, and you'll see a vast difference.

Once you have a feel for how doers behave, and how talkers behave, you'll very quickly be able to determine if the person you're talking to is a talker or a doer. If they're a talker, end the conversation and move on. If they're a doer, pay attention to what they have to say... they might just contribute greatly to your life.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 08:41 AM | Comments (0)

March 26, 2007

He kept his cool... and she couldn't resist

One of the things I teach about attraction is that it is not just for dating and relationships--it's for attracting friends, business associates, and making your life better in general.

One of the "hidden benefits" of mastering the skill of attraction is what it does for your self image: when you know you can attract desireable women on demand, you feel like you're 10 feet tall and bulletproof and that confidence bleeds over into other areas of your life. Check out the success story I just received and you'll see exactly what I mean.

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Dear John:

Well I waited a year to have a story worth submitting but I think I have one I would like to share. You are welcome to use it just don't use my name, OK? Or just call me Philly.

Last weekend I was in Georgetown / Washington DC for business and my best friend lives in the area, also. We decided to go into Georgetown which is a pretty hopping place and it was St. Patrick's Day. Now before I go into this let me tell you what this story is not .... It is not a Penthouse Forum letter but as John's tapes and information suggest, attraction is the real key here. It gives a feeling of pride and accomplishment that is lasting as I as still smiling a week later.

Anyway, we went to a bar or two, but they were really crowded with kids. I saw one as we were walking and I said to my buddy we should stop in there for a drink. Now, I hate to admit this but I am a happily married man who is now over 50 although I get guessed between 38 - 43 on a regular basis. I am taller than normal, in pretty good shape, have all my hair and teeth, and in my old days did pretty good with the ladies although those days, I thought, are behind me. I got the course because I have business dealings and being liked and attractive can't hurt and let's face it guys, we all have egos, and I guess I am still trying to hold onto the fact that I "could" be attractive to a younger lady.

We sat at the bar and there were only about 10 folks in there at the time. There was a girl sitting next to me but I really did not pay attention or even look at her. I did mention to her that here coat was falling of her chair and touching the floor. She looked and thanked me but I did not even make eye contact with her. About a half hour later or so as I was engaged in conversation with my buddy I noticed she was now sitting by herself and about a foot away. Wow! I am not kidding, this girl was, perhaps, the most beautiful lady I have ever met. She was 5' 10'', slender, long flowing hair, big brown eyes, full lips, etc. I was amazed but kept a cool manner. Well to make a long story short I was just myself who was out on the town to have a good time. I was a bit buzzed and I do have a pretty good sense of humor.

We talked and she laughed a lot. Within one hour she said "Your are really funny". Within two hours she said " You are funny, I like you" at the 2 1/2 hour mark she said "I Really like you". At the three hour mark my buddy wanted to leave as he was not interested in her friend although they were both unattached. When I was getting ready to leave she asked me where I was going and I told her. She was not drunk, just beautiful and seemed sincere, stood up looked me in the eyes and said "I love you". I know she really did not, but she was convincing. I did not ask her for a number or anything, like I said I am married, but my buddy was flabbergasted. He has lived there for twenty years and never had anything like that happen. He told me I did the ultimate close, as I just turned and walked away. He's right I left her wanting more..................

So guys, my only point is, you can have fun and be nice and respectful, just let her know she is lucky, too. By the way this girl was 29 and engaged, so this old guy must have done something right to create that kind of emotion, but I know I possess the tools to make an impact...........good hunting!

-Philly

JA: Thanks for the great success story, "Philly" and this Is a
GREAT success story. When you KNOW you have the ability to create attraction on demand with any woman no matter your looks, age or income, it does wonders for your self image. Plus, guys around you automatically respect you because you have a skill they wished they had.

Having the skill to attract all women is a skill that strengthens your existing relationship. First off, it lets you keep the attraction alive with your wife or girlfriend. Secondly, women love men who are attractive to all women--it's social proof they made a good choice. And, thirdly, if something ever happens in your relationship, you know you can always attract another woman.
That knowledge makes you feel confident and secure, and those two feelings enhance your existing relationship--women want men who make them feel confident and secure.

Thanks for the great success story, "Philly." Retain your existing skill level, and you'll be creating attraction with women well into your 90's!

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 08:57 AM | Comments (0)

March 25, 2007

The unspoken magnetic pul that automatically attracts desireable women

How much better would your life be if you could automatically attract the women you desire, without saying a word? Imagine, the hottest, sexiest women boldly walking right up to you, unable to resist your "magnetic pull."

Can this really happen to you? The answer is "yes," IF... you know how to be a naturally attractive man. You see, there are certain little known male behaviors that biologically compel women to be drawn to you, behaviors that can be used by any man.

I don't talk to women first anymore unless I choose to. I don't have to. They come talk to me- and they'll come talk to you too, when you know the secrets revealed at http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Imagine, never being rejected by a woman again. When they talk to you first, you make the "rejection decision," not them. While your friends are out being rejected by women, you're forced to turn them away because there's too many of them. It's not far fetched at all when you know the forbidden attraction secrets revealed at:
http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Imagine, no more heartbreak with women, ever. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

Posted by john at 02:53 PM | Comments (0)

As "unlaid as a pile of bricks"

A few days ago I went to Cleveland for a mastermind meeting with a lot of very smart marketers. During the meeting I was talking with a friend of mine, when he referred to an associate of his as "unlaid as a pile of bricks."

I've gotta confess to you, I'm still laughing. I've heard all kinds of saying before, but that one was new to me. Better believe I'm going to store it for future reference.

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I repeated that saying to a few women, and they thought it was hilarious too. Why? Because it paints a very vivid word picture.
It's funny without being vulgar or sleazy (although it pushes the envelope). Most of all, it's memorable.

Learning to use language that paints word pictures in people's minds is one of the most underused, yet most powerful attraction strategies. Almost every great communicator uses language that paints visual pictures.

I will always be a huge fan of Bill Parcells, former coach of the Dallas Cowboys. Parcells communicated in language that was nothing but "picture language." He loved to say things like, "you don't have to hit me with a skunk twice," or "there's two sides to that pancake." Whenever he had a press conference everyone eagerly tuned in--you didn't know what Bill was going to come up with next.

One of the quickest ways to master the verbal side of attraction is to learn how to use language that paints word pictures. Women are highly attracted to men who can stimulate the visual side of their brains, and very few men know how to do it. You'll gain an instant competitive advantage with women, something few men (except my students) can duplicate.


On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Note: if you don't own it, I highly recommend my Ultimate Unlimited Lifetime of Power and Success with Women System, and I currently have a very special offer for it. You can take advantage of this offer by going to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Posted by john at 08:48 AM | Comments (0)

March 24, 2007

Will she see you again? Only if you do this one thing right

After I discovered attraction was a learnable skill, I got to where I was pretty good at getting first dates. But getting a second one was a real pain. Why? Because I didn't do a good enough job of creating attraction on the first one.

This happens with a lot of guys, but there is a simple solution. Have a look at the email below, as well as my answer--it may just save you a lot of "one time" dates.

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Hi John:
Maybe you don't call this "flaking"; maybe it's something else but it seems to happen too often. I meet a women we (at least seem to have a pretty good time), and towards the end of the evening I suggest that we should get together again. As soon as I get a "maybe" or a "we can talk about" I pretty much figure that a: the evening did not go as well as I perceived. b: I am being asked to beg (forget it!) or c: This is some test to which I do not have the right answer. I used to call again, but now I just do not bother. Am I being the flake here? Thanks,

James
JA: Thanks for the email, James. While this is not what I'd call flaking, I do know exactly what's going on here: the women who say, "maybe" are not attracted to you. You see, when a woman feels that wonderful feeling of attraction, she cannot wait to see you again. You become the most important thing to her. But if she's not attracted to you, you might as well not even exist any more.

One thing you should work on is your calibration skills. By calibration skills, I mean your ability to tell when a woman is attracted to you, and when she's not. Think back over your past successes, and see if you can remember the looks, gestures and mannerisms of a woman who was very attracted to you. Then see if you can remember the looks, gestures and behavior of a woman who told you "maybe." You'll find there's a big difference between the two.

There's one last thing to keep in mind in this situation: you should never "suggest" to a woman that you get together again. That's a loss of personal authority, and can kill attraction dead. Now, if she's truly attracted to you, getting together again will be the most natural thing in the world, and all you have to do is say, "let's meet again at this time, date, and place." You don't ask, you simply make the statement. If she's attracted, she'll be there at the appointed time and place. If she's not, she'll let you know she can't meet you.

The whole key to all of this, though is successfully creating attraction. Do it right, and she'll always want to meet you again. Screw it up, and you'll keep getting a lot of maybe's and "think about it's."

Note: if you don't own it, I highly recommend my Ultimate Unlimited Lifetime of Power and Success with Women System, and I currently have a very special offer for it. You can take advantage of this offer by going to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to succeed with women where most men fail? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm

Posted by john at 08:33 AM | Comments (0)

March 23, 2007

Are you missing out,?

Do you know how great it feels to have a wonderful woman in your life? One who truly believes in you, and cares for you when everyone else has lost faith? One who gives you certainty, one who makes every day brighter? The feeling is indescribable. If you're not with a woman who makes you feel this way, you're missing out.

To discover the hidden secrets of how to welcome a woman like this into your life, go to: http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Don't make her wait any longer... she's out there, waiting for you... http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 01:26 PM | Comments (0)

Have you lost your success with women?

Ever started off fast with something, then hit a wall? It happens to every man, but the place it happens most in is attracting women. A man will discover attraction is a learnable skill, then go out and experience some success.

But then he starts optimizing, tweaking, and improving and all of a sudden, he's no longer successful. Here's an email from a man who's experiencing that, and my solution to what ails him.

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Dear John,

Hey john, I've been reading your subscriptions for quite some time and its finally come to my realization after reading one of the daily emails that, I've lost my success. You see I am currently a college student and about a year ago I set a goal for myself not to by shy around girls and be able to feel comfortable and carry smooth conversations, basically be a smooth operator. Around in that time of the week i was starting to see results just because i went out and gave it a try with all my effort.

Things were good for a few months i was meeting girls not afraid to talk to them, but then something happened! I got so into it i wanted to be funnier and better so i started focusing more on making jokes, trying to see from other peoples perspective and say all the right things at the right time and in the end i just over thought everything and now i get so nervous around girls because all i think about is will today i be able to be me again but maintain being funnier. I also realized that when I'm with people I'm extremely comfortable with i don't think about it and I'm more me than ever. It usually just comes to me but not when I'm around people i don't know to well. Its not even that i get nervous just flustered when i can't hold my A+ game conversations. I really need your help do you have any advice.

-JD

JA: Thanks for the email, JD. I've seen your situation happen with a lot of guys, and you are correct, you're overthinking. But you are also making another mistake, one that can really hinder your success: you're trying to impress other people, and you're worried what they think about you.

The guy who's successful with women is not concerned with what others think about him. He doesn't let other people's opinions and viewpoints control his actions. His freedom of thought and action translates to authority and attraction with women. Now, that's not to say he sets out to deliberately offend people, or that he puts down others who have different points of view. He just does not let what other people say or think influence how he lives his life.

So the thing to do is this: quit worrying about what others think about you, and stop trying to impress them. If you're using canned scripts or patterns or stories that some "pickup artist guru" is teaching, throw those in the trash. When you're around women, just have a good time, and do the simple things that work: flash your best naughty boy smile, say things you really shouldn't, maintain a strong sense of personal authority, and genuinely like women. You cannot go wrong doing these things--these are the behaviors that create attraction. Worrying about what others think, and trying to impress people are behaviors that kill attraction. Get rid of those behaviors, implement the attraction creating behaviors, and you should be fine.

On with the fun....


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm now.

Posted by john at 08:00 AM | Comments (0)

March 22, 2007

How to choose your own relationships with women

Why are most guys unsuccessful with women? Because they let the woman choose the type of relationship, not the man. There's a lot of mythology going around that women only want long term committed relationships leading to marriage, but that's just not true.

There are a lot of women who love to meet men just to "have fun with" or "share adventures" with... but you have know what to look for. And the great thing is, IF you decide you do want a relationship, you can easily go from "fun friends" to something more permanent.

But, you have to know what to do, and what to say, or she'll choose the type of relationship you're going to have with her--and it's usually not the kind you want. Here's the good news: women like men who "define authority" for them and make it OK for them to enjoy a "fun friends with the potential for more" type of relationship. Relationships like these are great: all pleasure and no pain.

Would you like to have relationships like this? If so, then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm for remarkable secrets on how to choose your own relationships with women, no matter your looks, age or income.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS I'm seriously considering removing this website soon, as I don't want these secrets in the hands of too many men. Don't hate yourself for missing out--to avoid disappointment, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm


Posted by john at 01:56 PM | Comments (0)

Do you set yourself up for failure or success with women?


Every time I do a radio interview I get the same question: "OK, so you teach guys how to get women to approach them first. Let's say I go into a bar, how do I get women to approach me first?"

Now, when I say I get this question every time, I'm not exaggerating. I get it every time, and every time I give the same answer: "you've already set yourself up for failure, so your chances of getting women to approach you are between slim and none."

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Why have they set themselves up for failure? Because they automatically assume that when you want to attract women, you go to a bar--which probably explains why they're NOT successful with women.

Now, don't get me wrong--it's possibly to meet, attract, and pick up women at bars and clubs, and a whole cottage industry has sprung up, teaching men how to do that. Is it a useful skill to learn? Sure--but it's a very narrow skill to learn, and it can be a dangerous skill to learn.

Why? Think about it. Let's say you master meeting women in bars. Every night you go out and meet a different woman. Where are you in a year? The same place you started, except that you've picked up a lot of women and consumed a lot of alcohol. Not much "equity" built.

In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill mentions two fascinating things about attracting women and success. He says most men don't become successful until their fifties because they spend most of their time up to that point misusing their "sex energy" in chasing women.

He also says that one of the big reasons why men fail is improper selection of mate. I'd agree 100% with both statements.

That's why when it comes to succeeding with women, I advise men to look beyond bars and clubs. Nothing wrong with having a good time every now and then, but you can pee away a lot of years by spending all your time there.

When I get the "bar" question, it immediately tells me two things about the person asking the question: 1) They have no clue what "succeeding with women" means to them. They're just chasing cars, hoping to "get lucky." 2) Because they have no definition of success, they head to the place where "success" is the hardest to fine. They equate "succeeding with women" to "going to bars."

A better way to think about it is this: first sit down and decide what success with women means to you. It may mean attracting a woman for a long term relationship, it may be spending time with carefully screened women you share adventures (but not commitments) with, or it may mean picking up women at bars. For most of you it will not, but for some of you it will.

Once you have your own personal definition of success, the path is clear on where you should go (and not go) to attract the women YOU desire. Once you have the picture in your mind of the woman (or woman) you want to attract, all you have to do is make a list of places where women with those characteristics are likely to be found, then put yourself in positions that give you the greatest probability of finding them.

Bars are usually not those places, and the more time you spend there, the less likely it is you're going to meet the woman (or women) who fit your definition of success (unless the type of women you want to attract are those who hang around at bars).

The point is this: if you want to succeed with women, you must set yourself up for success before taking any action. Otherwise you're just going to chasing cars, watching the years pass away while getting nothing done, like most men who "live lives of quiet desperation."

On with the fun....


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Be the envy of all your friends--get beautiful women to approach YOU first! Go to www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm to discover how

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March 21, 2007

Are you afraid of rejection by women? Here's how to finallly end it forever,

Is there one special woman you'd like to welcome into your life? Maybe you know who she is, maybe you haven't yet met her. Maybe she's in your hopes and dreams, but not in your reality, at least not yet. Maybe you know who she is, but you're afraid she'll reject you if you finally "make a move."

When you finally do meet her, when you get that one opportunity to "take your shot" with her, will you hit it out of the ballpark or will you strike out, and watch as she walks out of your life forever?

Too many men leave their outcomes up to random chance, and spend a lifetime wondering, "if only...." If only I knew what to say when she was right in front of me. If only I'd recognized that she liked me. If only I'd been man enough to tell her how I felt.

Don't live a life of "if onlys." When the opportunity arises to welcome her into your life, and the ball is pitched to you, be prepared to knock it out of the park, and live a life of wonderful shared dreams, and shared memories. To discover just how to seize what may be a once in a lifetime opportunity, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now. This website may be removed at any time... don't hate yourself for missing out, don't live a life saying, "if only, if only..."


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Time is passing quickly, my friend, and the days are turning into months, and the months into years faster than ever before. Don't let them pass alone: go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm at once to discover how to live life's journey with the woman you choose... knowing you'll never be rejected again.

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The ultimate sin with women

One of the most important things I ever learned in marketing was this: the ultimate sin is being boring. Why? Because the instant you bore the prospect, he or she is onto something else, and you've lost the sale.

The exact same thing applies with women, in fact, even more so. And, worse, most guys are guilty of it, especially when they're in a relationship.

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Keep in mind women love adventure and excitement; intrigue creates attraction. Open any romance novel and you'll find nothing but exciting (to women) event after exciting event.

One reason why many relationships go bad is that the guy who was exciting in the beginning now becomes boring because he stopped doing the things she found exciting. Remember, women view relationships as the ongoing process of attraction, men view them as an end in themselves. If you want to keep the attraction alive, you must keep doing the things she finds exciting.

This is not particularly difficult to do, and really, "variety" is a better word than "exciting." Constantly changing up the places you go and the things you do is more than enough to keep her from getting bored with you.

The fact that most guys are boring as dirt (and getting more so in this day and age of the wuss) is actually a plus for guys who create just a tiny bit of excitement. Because most women are used to boring men, the guy who is just a little more exciting than all the rest really stands out--in the land of the blind, the one eyed man is king.

And take it from me, it's good to be the King!

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"


PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Well, then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now before this website is removed.

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March 20, 2007

Puts an end to flaking by women for good

Today I'm going to talk about how to put an end to a problem many guys have with women--and that's flaking on a meeting with you.

There are many reasons why women flake out, some legitimate, most not so legitimate. And many of them flake to test you to see how you're going to respond. Flaking is one thing I just will not tolerate, but I used to have a big problem with it until I discovered how to put an end to it for good.

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What I'm going to do is share an email from a subscriber who's having issues with this, then let you know how to handle it

Hey King...

In the beginning I'm very successful at getting women to laugh, I Just on them and show that I'm very confident and women love that. The problem I'm having is after I get the girls number I'll call and have a great conversation. I talk a lot with them on the phone and they tell me that they want to see me.

But I set up a date and Something always comes up, and they leave off with something like call me tomorrow and I call and then they don't call back and I end up losing contact. I'm not sure but I think that they're testing me to see if I will be submissive to there behavior because I usually tell them it doesn't matter and maybe well get together later. Maybe I should be more arrogant and tell them I see that this isn't working and tell them I not going to put up with it.

I don't know but this is the only problem that I'm having and it needs to get fixed what do you think I should do? I also have good
communication with them till they cancel and then it fails after they cancel.

Thanks
Brett

JA: Thanks for the email, Brett--I used to have the same problem myself. Your answer is actually in your question--you "talk a lot with them on the phone." If you're talking with them on the phone, you're not building mystery and intrigue. There's no reason for them to want to meet you--you've already told them all about yourself.

You're trying to do too much on the phone. Your only purpose when you call them is to get them to agree to meet you in person, and then set it up so they don't flake. That's it.

When you call them, briefly get them laughing, then get them on the subject of things they hate. They'll tell you something, then ask you what you hate (this is reciprocity). Here's what you tell them: "I hate rude people, don't you?" She'll say yes--all women say they can't stand rudeness.

Then tell her this: "you know, what I really hate is when someone makes a commitment to be somewhere at a particular time, and then they flake out. To me, the rudest thing a person can do is abuse another's time. Don't you agree?" She'll agree.

Then briefly move onto to another theme (letting her do most of the talking), then end the conversation (you should end it first, not her). Set up a meeting, and once you have the date and time, say this: "Great, I'll see you at at . Can I count on you to be there--you're not one of those rude people are you?" When done correctly, this is magic. If they flake, then they'll be admitting they're rude and flaky, something no one wants to be known as.

If she says to "call her and see if she's busy" you need to immediately put your foot down and tell her that you don't do "maybe meetings" and that if she can't come up with a firm date then perhaps you shouldn't meet. Be firm, not rude.

There's one other way around all this, and believe it or not, it's the best solution. When you first meet her, instead of asking for her phone number (a bad thing to do, anyways) simply set up a meeting right then. Then exchange "contact information," but do NOT say you'll call to confirm.

You expect her to keep her word to show up. Many times what happens is, she'll call to confirm (a good sign), and all you have to do is say, "Yep, I'll be there--I do what I say. See you there." Do NOT talk yourself out of a meeting by blathering on.

If you put these secrets to work for you, Brett, you'll see your "flaking rate" drop to near zero, and you'll quickly get a reputation as a guy who's "good with women."

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Never be rejected or tested by women again--when they approach YOU first, you get to make the "rejection decision!" To discover how to do this, and more go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm right now!

PPS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and live the life of power and success with women you deserve? If so, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

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March 19, 2007

How to finally attrac the woman you truly want


Is there one special woman you'd like to welcome into your life?
Maybe you know who she is, maybe you haven't yet met her. Maybe she's in your hopes and dreams, but not in your reality, at least not yet.

When you finally do meet her, when you get that one opportunity to "take your shot" with her, will you hit it out of the ballpark or will you strike out, and watch as she walks out of your life forever?

Too many men leave their outcomes up to random chance, and spend a lifetime wondering, "if only...." If only I knew what to say when she was right in front of me. If only I'd recognized that she liked me. If only I'd been man enough to tell her how I felt.

Don't live a life of "if onlys." When the opportunity arises to welcome her into your life, and the ball is pitched to you, be prepared to knock it out of the park, and live a life of wonderful shared dreams, and shared memories. To discover just how to seize what may be a once in a lifetime opportunity, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now. This website may be removed at any time... don't hate yourself for missing out, don't live a life saying, "if only, if only..."


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Time is passing quickly, my friend, and the days are turning into months, and eh months into years faster than ever before. Don't let them pass alone: go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm at once to discover how to live life's journey with the woman you choose.

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March 18, 2007

Warning: don't talk to another woman until you read this,

Did you know what you say in your everyday conversations with women could be killing any chance you have of creating attraction with the one you desire?

It's true... you can never tell when the tiniest thing (like asking for a phone number) can obliterate a newly formed attraction. See, that is "everyday" and "natural" to us as men, is confusing and unattractive to women. So, if you talk to a woman like you talk to your guy friends (and most of us do), you may be killing any attraction she had for you.

Luckily there's a new resource available that will allow you to "turn the tables," and use what you say to now create attraction while avoiding the things that destroy it. How great would it be to talk to a woman, knowing you can "flip" her attraction for you on or off, just like you'd flick a light switch? Would you like to know how to do that, at will? Why then go to to discover how to just that, plus many other secrets to creating attraction. On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Don't lose another relationship with a great woman because you said something that killed the attraction... and didn't even know it. Go to right now.

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Are “trustworthiness” and “integrity” bogus concepts?


I went into the bank awhile back to make a deposit (a few doers had sent in their checks and money orders for my system, http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm) when a customer came
in with a look of shock on his face.

He went to the teller and said, "Did you see that guy who just left? He kicked the door, and was cussing--is everything OK?" When he said this, the teller laughed.

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"Oh, he does that all the time," she said, "it's just how he is. You get used to it--he's always the same."

What was interesting to me about this whole event was, if it had been a customer who was always polite and pleasant who'd started cussing and kicking the door, the bank personnel probably would have called the cops instead of laughing.

Why did they laugh? Because the guy was predictable. They knew what he was going to do, and would have thought something was wrong if he DIDN'T cuss and kick the door. In a strange way they could "trust" him.

I've written about this before, but it is such an important concept, I want to re-visit it today: I'll take "predictability" in a person over "trust" and "integrity" any day of the week.

Why? Because "trust" and "integrity" are two highly emotionally charged words, and everyone has a slightly different definition of what they mean... and that's where problems start.

What usually happens is this: two people get in a relationship with different definitions of "trust" or "integrity." One person does something they think is perfectly OK, the other thinks it's a violation of trust or integrity. They then classify the other as not being "trustworthy" (a very negative thing, something no one wants to be known as), and map that "untrustworthiness" into other areas of their life.

Everytime they do something they don't like they build the "untrustworthy" image more and more, until a big blow up occurs, a blow up that was precipitated because two people had two different map/models of the world when it came to emotionally charged concepts.

Another problem with "integrity" and "trustworthiness" is, everyone thinks they have integrity and can be trusted... even the most hardened and ruthless of criminals. People love to impose their own "integrity map" on others because it makes them feel good.

It's not that "honesty" and "trustworthiness" are useless concepts--they are, and people in general can pretty much agree on what is and isn't dishonest. It's the specifics where they get into trouble, and the act of imposing their definition of trust/honesty on others that causes friction.

That's why I much prefer the concept of predictability--it's emotionally neutral, and lays the groundwork on how to deal with individual people. Instead of imposing your map on them, you elicit and observe theirs and deal with them based on observed, recurring behaviors.

Let me give you an example. Years ago, I had a girlfriend who was, shall we say, a bit dramatic. If there was no drama, she'd create it. But I noticed something interesting about her. If I performed a "show of strength" every three days, the drama would cease. If I went over three days, it would start up again.

So, I was stern with her every three days, and the drama went away. Why this worked I have no idea (and it's not something that applies to all women), but it did. She was predictable.

When you judge someone based on predictability, you can have relationships you could never have if you used trust/honesty as a measuring stick. Why? Because no one wants "dishonest" or "untrustworthy" people in their lives--makes you look like a fool. But when you use predictability you can spend time with people in
certain areas, and avoid them in others.

For example, I used to have a friend who I just could not bring around any woman I was interested in. He'd cut me off, try to date her, and do everything he could to talk me out of seeing her. Obviously not behavior I want in my life. But, he was also a funny, personable guy, and someone who was great to go to happy hour with the guys.

So, I simply saw him for happy hour, enjoyed his company and that was that. He was predictable in that area, and just as predictable when I brought a woman... so I didn't do that.

I had another friend who had a habit of flaking out about half the time we agreed to get together. But, he was good guy when we did get together, and I enjoyed hanging out with him. So, instead of getting rid of him, I always made plans that included other people and if he showed, great, if not I still had a good time. He was predictable, and I managed our relationship based on predictability.

Obviously this carries over in all areas of relating to women. All you need to do is determine if she's predictable, and spend time with her in the areas you can predict. When you quit worrying about if you can "trust" her, and start spending time with her based on predictable behavior, you quit worrying and your emotions around her are stable.

Stability of emotion leads to good decision making, and allows you to choose your outcomes with women. So, the next time you're with one you find attractive, stop asking, "can I trust her?" and start asking "is she predictable?" Things will go much better.


On with the fun....


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Discover how to get desirable women to approach you, no matter your looks, age, or income-- go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm right now

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March 17, 2007

Success secrets of... Chris Rock?

The other night I was watching TV when I saw an extended interview with Chris Rock. It was a two hour show on some obscure channel (Bravo, I think), but since I've always been a fan of his, I decided to tune in and listen to what he had to say.

I'm glad I did, because I learned some important things, as I always do when I watch an interview with a successful person.

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First off, Rock is a master of language, more so than most comedians. He has a very good grasp of analogies, metaphors, but more importantly, words and phrases that create vivid mental images.

Secondly, he knows the history of his business, having sought out successful people, and gotten good information from all of them.

But those are not the only reasons he's successful, not by a long shot. He worked very hard, and very diligently to hone his craft understanding that success is in the details. For example, he was asked why he moves around so much during his shows instead of standing still. His answer was very revealing:

"If you stand in one place during your show, people in the audience will tune you out and start talking amongst themselves. If you move around, they know you could suddenly appear right in front of them, catching them talking to each other instead of paying attention. So, the reason I move around is to keep the audience focused."

That's a man who understands the tiny details of his business. It's also a man who is very, very prepared. As you may or may not remember Rock hosted the Academy Awards. They happened on Feb 28. He had his monologue for that event down perfectly on Oct 30, months before the show happened. That's preparedness, that's work.

But Rock is also a very strategic thinker. During the interview he said, "I decided I was going to have a big year. So I asked myself, what's everything I have to do in order to have a big year?" That's a man who understands success is created, it doesn't just happen.

Rock had his big year, and there's one final reason he did--he demands to be compensated for his value. That's one key ingredient a lot of people miss--they don't demand and expect compensation for the value they bring. Successful people, however, do understand this, ask for it, and expect it. You cannot be successful without compensation for delivering value, and if you don't ask for it, you don't get it.

Rock is successful because he follows a tried and true success formula. There's nothing he's done that is different from other successful people in all walks of life. But he was willing to do the hard work to do all those things, and as a result he's a very successful man. Like attraction, success is created, it doesn't "just happen."

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to succeed with women where most men fail? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm

Posted by john at 05:31 PM | Comments (0)

THIS is the secret to creating attraction on demand


What if I were to tell you there was one BIG SECRET to creating attraction with any woman you want? Further, what if I were to tell you that any can put this secret to use immediately, regardless of your looks, age or income to attract the women--or woman--you truly desire? How interested would you be?

Here's the truth: there IS one big secret to attraction, and it's called "personal authority." Most men are confused by this, having been deliberately been trained to be wusses and nice guys by society, been trained to think that authority is a bad thing.

It's not... IF you use it correctly. Most men don't because they don't know how. But women crave a man with personal authority, they dream about such a man. And you can be that man, if you understand a few simple secrets, things society at large does not want you to know. But I do--and I have condensed these secrets into an easy to use system you can put to work for you immediately. For details, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now, before I decide to remove this website for good.


On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Personal authority in a man is like a narcotic to women... they can't resist. That's the good news. The bad news is, if you don't give it to them, they'll leave and find a man who will. Don't be the man they're leaving, be the man they run to. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now.

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March 16, 2007

Why I never worry about women

I've always loved Alfred E. Neuman's "What, Me Worry?" saying from Mad Magazine. To tell you the truth, that kind of describes my view on women and relationships. Why? Because I know I can create attraction on demand, with any woman, any time, any place anywhere, guaranteeing I will never be lonely (or bored) ever. To be as "worry free" as the King, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

Then you too, can say, "What, me worry?"

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Don't delay--or you may spend a lot of time worrying that you missed out on what may be your last chance to choose your own relationships with women forever! Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm at once.

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Where's the "PMRC?"

A long time ago, in a decade far, far away, a man name Dee Snider was summoned to testify before Congress about the evils of rock 'n roll music. Mr. Snider was accused of his music corrupting America's youth, making them engage in all kinds of wild and wicked, yet strangely unsubstantiated needs.

Mr. Snider, however, was no dummy. He was sober, articulate, and smarter than the elected goofballs who were answering questions--he was, after all, a successful businessman. So, tiring of Mr. Snider, the elected officials decided the best way to take care of the unsubstantiated problems his music was obviously causing was to affix a label to his and others records.

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The result was a boon to the economy, as the troubled youth of America ran out to invest in records, tapes, and a brand new thing called a "compact disc," that carried the new "parental warning label." Tax revenues skyrocketed, and everyone lived happily ever after, at least until 1992.

You know, it's funny. I often wonder where the PMRC is today. (The PMRC was the Parents Musical Resource Group, formed by Tipper Gore, Al Gore's wife, after hearing her daughter listening to a WASP song). In the 80's they whined and cried about how the current music was causing young people to do things detrimental to society. Yet today, there's not one peep from them.

Consider some of these song titles from the 80's, then some current ones:

From the 80's:

I Want to Be Somebody by WASP

We're Gonna Make It by Twisted Sister

Take Me to the Top by Motley Crue

Here's something interesting about these songs: they are all from each band's first album, before they became famous. Gee, they were writing songs about success and believing in themselves--definitely detrimental to society. Well then, let's have a listen to the obviously wholesome songs today's youth is listening to:

Hate Me Today by Blue October

Beautiful by James Blunt (in the vide, Mr. Blunt sees an old girlfriend with another man--maybe it's Vince Neil--then throws himself off a cliff... it's a very inspirational song).

Swing Life Away by Rise Against (a downtrodden loser sings about getting by on minimum wage and whiling away the hours of a miserable life).

Wow, today's music really is an inspiration. No wonder the PMRC is silent. Whining, loafing, and blaming others for your problems are obviously desirable messages for young people to hear.

Here's the point to get from all this history: successful people and successful things will always be under assault by those who do not want you to succeed. Things that cause you to fail will be celebrated by those who did not earn success.

Pay no attention to the whiners and naysayers, only to those who have succeeded like you wish to succeed. Understand you will be criticized and insulted by those jealous of you--and revel in it. That's how you know when you finally succeeded--and they didn't.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to succeed with women where most men fail? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm

Posted by john at 08:20 AM | Comments (0)

March 15, 2007

For those who missed it


A few days ago I re-released my Real Conversations with Real Women Eavesdrop CD's, and while they were eventually snapped up, they didn't go as fast as I expected.

Why? Because of the silly email non delivery problem I discovered last week. Many of you simply didn't get the offer, so you missed out on one of my most valuable products. So, for one day only, I'm opening up sales of my Real Conversations with Real Women, and you can get your copy by going to http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm right now.

Don't delay--tomorrow it ends. So take fast action now: go to http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm to claim your copy, before it's too late.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"
http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm

PS Hurry--go to before this one day sale ends.

Posted by john at 01:36 PM | Comments (0)

When the perfect smile kills attraction...

As you may or may not know, one of the most important things I teach about attraction is what I call the "naughty boy smile." Do it right, and you'll drive women crazy with attraction for you.

But there is one thing that can kill the power of the naughty boy smile, one thing that may not be obvious to you, but is painfully obvious to women.

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What's that? Good, ol' fashioned bad breath. You see, I went to the dentist yesterday, and mentioned to him that I was in the process of putting together a comprehensive product for high income professional men to attract women.

The first thing he said was, "are you teaching them to be aware of their breath?" And while I do mention it in passing, he had a great point--it's something not enough men pay attention to.

Bad breath, and bad smells in general will kill attraction dead. You cannot overcome a bad smell with attractive behavior. Women have a sense of smell three times more powerful than men, and when they get a whiff of something nasty, the deal's off. In fact, you may not even notice any sort of smell, but to her it's putrid--and by association so are you.

Luckily my dentist gave me two very good tips, tips I'll pass on to you guys. The first tip was to make sure you eat something in the morning. If you just have a cup of coffee on an empty stomach, your breath is guaranteed to reek by noon.

And, if you don't drink much water between lunch and the end of your workday, your mouth is guaranteed to emit a foul stench by noon. His advice is to eat something around the late afternoon, and drink a decent amount of water. It's a good recommendation, both for breath and for overall health.

Bad breath is one of those tiny things that makes a big difference. It's also one of those things that's so obvious it's often overlooked. Doing so, however, is fatal--so make sure your breath is clean before you talk to any woman.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS What's the one secret to powerful, magnetic attraction? It's more than just good breath-- go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm to find out.

Posted by john at 08:27 AM | Comments (0)

March 14, 2007

Why it's all about "the feeling"


When most guys see a woman they find attractive, they go through a thought process that sets them up for failure before they ever even talk to her. Their mind starts thinking, "she won't like me because..." and sure, enough, the woman doesn't like him "because."
"Because" can be anything--looks, age, income, she won't like my friends, I'm not her type, etc., etc. The point is, ANY excuse will do when it comes to failing.

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Why do men do this? Because of a fundamental misunderstanding of women. We're conditioned to believe that women are attracted BECAUSE a man has money, looks, social status, friends in high places, etc., etc. And, "because" we perceive we're lacking in one of those areas, we enter the interaction with a feeling of inadequacy, hoping we'll
"get lucky."

But the reality is completely different. Women do not care a whit about looks, age or income (or any other "because")--they care about that wonderful feeling of attraction, what women refer to as "chemistry." Now, in the absence of attraction will they judge a man on looks, age or income? Sure--because that's all he presented them.

BUT... if you present her with attraction, all of the "because's" go out the window. The only thing that matters to a woman is that wonderful feeling of attraction. Ever seen a stunning woman moon over a complete loser with no car, no job, no money, and no future? Everyone has--and the reason is because he made her feel that wonderful feeling.

Before you can succeed with women, you must understand what motivates them, and what motivates them is the feeling of attraction. Learn how to create attraction, and women will literally fight over you, even if you're short, bald, fat and broke.

So, whenever you're talking to a woman, shut off all that other garbage in your head, and replace it with the knowledge that you can have any woman you want as long as you can create attraction. On with the fun....


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power and success with women? If so, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

Posted by john at 08:38 AM | Comments (0)

March 13, 2007

The story of two men

Let me tell you a story. A few years ago two men met at a high school reunion. These men were very similar in background. Both had gone to high school at the same time. Both had gone on to college, graduated with honors and gotten high paying jobs.

As the years wore on, both men were promoted in their respective companies and both prospered. They kept in good shape, dressed well, and were successful men by any measure. They both had good sets of friends, and active social lives.

But one man had a string of failed marriages and broken relationships, and spent his days in misery and despair, wondering, in spite of all his success, why he couldn't meet a great woman and have a great relationship.

The other man's days were filled with joy and happiness. He had a wonderful girlfriend who adored him, and many female friends who respected him as a "rare man." Before he'd met his current girlfriend, he'd had many adventures with amazing women, who were still in his life today, as lifelong friends.

What was the difference between the two men? One learned to create his own relationships with women, get them to approach him first, make them feel a powerful sense of attraction, then keep them happy in whatever relationship he chose.

The other learned none of these secrets, and was forever frustrated in his relationships with women. They broke his heart, abused his feelings and tore down his self image... all because he didn't learn the secrets the successful man knew. He was living a life of quiet desperation with women, and had no answers. He was trapped and he knew it.

To discover the secrets of the successful man and avoid the trap of the unsuccessful man, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Sincerely,

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"


PS Again, that's http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 01:24 PM | Comments (0)

When the past does equal the future

If you've ever heard anything from Tony Robbins, you know one of his favorite sayings is, "the past does not equal the future." What that means is, past events in your life, do not determine what happens in the future--only you do. For example, just because you failed with women in the past does not mean you will fail with them in the future.

However, there is one place where the past does equal the future, and that's when it comes to evaluating other people--with one rare exception.

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When you meet a new woman, or a new business acquaintance, it is very important to know how they behaved in the past because that will usually dictate how they behave in the future.

Take, for instance, the NFL Draft. Almost every player who had character concerns in college carried them over to the NFL. No matter how talented they are, their off the field issues have killed their careers. Here' s few of them:

Adam "Pac Man" Jones

Derek Ross

Antonio Bryant

Onterrio "The Whizzinator" Smith

Cecil "The Diesel" Collins

Randy Moss (although not quite to the extent of those listed above).

The Cincinnati Bengals (too many to name)

And, the list goes on and on. Now, that's not to say NFL players are of low character--quite the contrary. The vast majority of them are fine, upstanding citizens, much more so than the fans who love to criticize them. (How often does a caller to a talk show make himself feel important by squawking about what an overpaid bum Randy Moss is, only to go him, get drunk, and beat his wife?). But because they're on a national stage, and they make a lot of money, their bad behavior is magnified for everyone to see. Now, in the NFL, character is more important than ever--teams are wary of drafting a guy who's going to flame out, and guys with first round talent and last round character are not even being drafted.

If you want to live a life of fun and joy with women, you must get good at quickly sizing up a woman's character, especially if you're a high income professional. If she's cheated in the past, she'll do it again. If she's married men for their money and divorced them to collect, she'll do it again. If she's filed bogus sexual harassment suits, she'll do it again.

People don't change unless they've changed in the past. If they don't have the behavior ingrained in them to change their ways, nothing you can do will get them to. Nothing. Many men (and women) want desperately to believe they can change someone because they do have good qualities, but all it takes is one bad one to undo the good- and that bad one ain't going away.

When it comes to evaluating people, the past pretty much equals the future--and it's better to err on the side of the past, than to risk adding pain and agony to your own future. There are plenty of great women out there who have no past character issues. Concentrate on them, and you'll be fine.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS What's the one secret to powerful, magnetic attraction? Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm to find out.

Posted by john at 08:18 AM | Comments (0)

March 12, 2007

The amazing attraction secret that overcomes looks, age, and income

What if I were to tell you there was one BIG SECRET to creating attraction with any woman you want? Further, what if I were to tell you that any can put this secret to use immediately, regardless of your looks, age or income to attract the women--or woman--you truly desire? How interested would you be?

Here's the truth: there IS one big secret to attraction, and it's called "personal authority." Most men are confused by this, having been deliberately been trained to be wusses and nice guys by society, been trained to think that authority is a bad thing.

It's not... IF you use it correctly. Most men don't because they don't know how. But women crave a man with personal authority, they dream about such a man. And you can be that man, if you understand a few simple secrets, things society at large does not want you to know. But I do--and I have condensed these secrets into an easy to use system you can put to work for you immediately. For details, go to
http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm
right now, before I decide
to remove this website for good.


On with the fun...

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Personal authority in a man is like a narcotic to women... they can't resist. That's the good news. The bad news is, if you don't give it to them, they'll leave and find a man who will. Don't be the man they're leaving, be the man they run to. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/authority.htm right now.

Posted by john at 02:11 PM | Comments (0)

Why attraction is not just for attracting women


First off, I'd just like to give a big "thanks" to everyone who wrote in and let me know you're receiving my emails. Some of you experienced no disruption, some of you said you'd just started getting them again.

What's bizarre is, some Yahoo and AOL users did experience disruptions, but others did not. Some of this has to do with personal whitelisting, but some of it is just a big mystery. I doubt this is the last time this is going to happen, so while they're coming through put and support@womenapproachyou.com on your approved sender list. That should help for a little while.

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How did I discover my email was being blocked? Two ways: paying
attention to my environment, and testing. When you learn the skill
of attraction, one of the skills that go along with it is
constantly paying attention to your environment, looking for any
subtle change.

The more proficient you get at this, the quicker you notice
something is off. And, for some reason, something felt "off" to
me. The level of correspondence was lower, my bounce rate was
lower, sales were off, and something just didn't feel right.

But because I was paying attention to my environment, I was able to
identify the problem. But identification is not enough. After you
identify a problem, you must take the steps necessary to test, then
solve the problem.

Now, I have a set of tools that's supposed to give me a clue that
email is not being delivered. In this case, those tools told me
nothing. So I had to test on my own, the best and final test being
simply to ask everyone, then look at the email addresses who said
they were being blocked. Where technology failed me, human
interaction came through.

The point I want to make here is, the skills you develop to attract
women are also skills that can be applied in other areas of your
life. Paying attention to your environment and testing are just as
powerful in the area business as they are in attraction.

So, when you develop your attraction skills, don't just limit them
to attracting women--see what other areas of your life you can apply
them to. You might just be surprised at how succeeding in one area
allows you to succeed in another.


On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Ready to learn the skill of attraction so you can succeed in all
areas of your life, and not just one? Then go to
http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now to learn it
for yourself.

Posted by john at 08:15 AM | Comments (0)

March 11, 2007

Now she's gone-- will she ever come back, ?

If you've ever had a woman suddenly leave you, you know it feels like a punch in the gut, even a knife in the back. You may feel all kinds of different things--rage, anger, hatred, even betrayal.

But here's something interesting: if you feel all these things, underneath all of them, you'd really like to have her back. Why?
Because if you didn't, you just wouldn't care--you'd be happy she's gone.

Here's an interesting secret: the reason most women leave is because they simply didn't feel attraction for you any more. It's that simple. But there's a silver lining here: if you recreate the attraction, she'll come back IF you want her.

See, when you know how to create attraction, women suddenly flock to you. You have what few men have: choice. Why? Because while women crave attraction like a narcotic, few men know how to create it. If you know how, then you can rule your own world with women and never have to worry about being dumped again.

Burn this into your head: attraction is a skill, not a talent. And if it is a skill, it can be quickly and easily learned by any man, no matter your looks, age, or income.

To discover little known forbidden secrets to creating attraction, simply go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now, before I decide to remove this site for good.

If there's any skill in life you should master (and this one is really easy to do), it's creating attraction. Don't delay, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm at once, before it's too late.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Put these "forbidden attraction secrets" to work for you-- go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now!

Posted by john at 05:03 PM | Comments (0)

A scandal in the making

If you've paid any attention to the news this week, you've heard about the trial of Deborah Palfrey who is accused of running a prostitution ring in Washington DC.

She denies the charges, of course, saying she was running a legitimate fantasy escort service. But now she has a problem.
She's out of money, and has to find a way to pay her lawyer.

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So, she's thinking about selling her one remaining asset: her list of clients. Apparently she has 10,000 to 15,000 names of clients in her local area, i.e. Washington DC. She's taking bids for the list, and the price is going way, way up.

News organizations want it because they sniff scandal. Clients want it because, well, they sniff scandal too. And when it does finally come out, there will be quite the scandal with all kinds of well known political figures (from both sides of the fence) in big, big trouble. It will instantly be posted on the internet for all to see, and it will remain their forever, easily searchable by the search engines.

Whoever is on that list will, indeed, live in infamy. Look: we're in a brave new world when it comes to dating and relationships. anything you do that may be perceived as scandalous is open for the
world to see.

That's why it's so important to develop the skill of attraction.
When you know how to create attraction with women, they are happy to do all kinds of fun things with you. You do NOT have to risk life and limb by doing something that will haunt you forever. You can attract the type of woman (or women) who is most suited to you, and spend time with her the way you choose--without someone else snooping around.

This skill is not optional anymore. Men who don't have it, or haven't developed it well are setting themselves up for disaster.
Privacy in this country has been dead for a long time, and now it's rotting in the grave. Learn how to create attraction with women, and you'll stay out of trouble... unlike ALL the men on Ms. Pelfrey's soon to be very public client list.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Yes, attraction IS a learnable skill. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now to learn it
for yourself.

Posted by john at 10:58 AM | Comments (0)

March 10, 2007

I need your help to solve yet another email delivery issue

As you may or may not know, I periodically have problems with email deliverability. Email is, quite frankly, a mess with legitimate email of all kinds being blocked, and flagged erroneously as spam.

I certainly have no problem with someone opting out of my list or requesting to be removed, but what I do have a problem with is an outside source blocking email that is expected and anticipated.
There is a very nasty program called "Bright Mail," (I refer to them as "dunce mail" because they're none too bright) that every few months blacklists email addresses and websites for no rhyme or reason whatsoever.

I think they may have done it to me again. So, if you have not been receiving my emails the past few days, or even weeks, and you've just started receiving them again, let me know. Just send a reply to secrets@womenapproachyou.com and let me know (especially if you're a sexy lady!)

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you finally ready to step up to the Big Leagues, and lead a lifetime of power, success and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm now.

Posted by john at 02:55 PM | Comments (0)

A crazy email I received from "Mr, Wonderful." This is not a joke

Every now and then I get an email that just plain defies goofiness, an email that makes me fall on the floor laughing because it's so dang ridiculous. Today is one of those days, and every time I read the below email, I howl with laughter.

Why? Because, not only is the writer so far removed from reality with women, he also calls himself "Mr. Wonderful." I am NOT kidding. You'll just have to read this for yourself, as well as my reply. All you ladies reading this will especially have a good laugh at Mr. Wonderful's expense.

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Looks count my friend its the first thing a woman notices in a man. You might be ugly but if a woman likes you at least in the beginning its your looks.

After comes smiling ,confidence and funny witch are traits that most women want and that makes her to remain liking you. Period. If a woman dosent give you a chance to approach her its clearly because she dosent like your looks or she is taken thats it thats all.

Stop giving false hope to fat people. A fat or ugly person can find a woman if the woman happens to have low standards for looks. Maybe overall the fat guy dresses properly and has a great smile and attracts the woman. So don't tell me she went out with him not because of his looks because i don't buy that. Yes he is fat but she liked something physically about him. The only reason a woman dosent look at his looks its because she looks the size of the wallet or she has low self esteem and she just wants to use a guy. It goes like this the more good looking a man is the more chances he has in getting women. Like 20 out of 100 while the ugly or fat guy its about 5 out of 100. Its never 100 percent.

No man can please any woman i don't care who you are. Personality its something to backup the looks. Yes if your great looking you get the girl but not for long if you d'ont know how to treat her and court the woman. I agree that challenge makes her in love with you or get her to bed with you and all that but she has to like your looks initially or nothing will ever happen. She has to like you first and then with words and actions you make her want you more. Thats how it goes.

If you don't agree with all this buddy ask any woman if they like that guy overthere and theres a big chance there going to tell you "He's not my type." Just by looking at the guy. Or when they say it was love at first sight. All that its looks its the first thing my friend. If you see alot of losers with great chicks its because they are either super whipped or worst involved with gold diggers.

-Mr. N. Wonderful

JA: No guys, I am not making this email up, nor am I making up the name of the guy who sent it to me. He really does call himself "Mr. N. Wonderful." And he has no clue about how women think, none at all.

For the past few days I've been in the process of interviewing some bright, smart, sexy, great looking highly intelligent women for a CD I'm putting together for my attraction secrets for my Ultimate "No Time to Waste" Attraction and Relationship Success With Women System for High Income Professionals. All of them, without fail, have said that looks, age, and income have nothing to do with attraction, it's how a man makes them feel on the inside. For those of you who took action and invested in my Real Conversations with Real Women Eavesdrop CD's, you'll hear all 12 women on the CD's say exactly the same thing. It ain't looks, it ain't age, it ain't income, it's how you can make a woman feel on the inside that matters.

What makes a woman feel that wonderful feeling of attraction? Your behavior as a man, pure and simple. If you're whiney, wimpy, weepy and have a bad attitude, you will not attract women no matter how good you look or how much money you make.

If you define authority, develop a great naughty boy smile, are interesting and intriguing, then you'll attract women no matter your looks, age, or income. It's how you can make a woman feel that counts.

But, hey, don't take it from me--I'm only the King. Let's hear what all the ladies have to say about Mr. Wonderful's email. Do you agree? Disagree? Do you think he's wonderful? Based on his words, would you like to date him looks unseen? What if I were to tell you he was a handsome looking GQ guy--would that change your mind?

Let me know. Just email your response to Secrets@womenapproachyou.com and I'll print the best of best. We'll find out together how wonderful Mr. Wonderful really is. .

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS For those who think Mr. Wonderful is full of bull and want to discover how to get women to approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income-- go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now. You and your new girlfriend can laugh at him together.

Posted by john at 08:46 AM | Comments (0)

March 09, 2007

A "direct" success story

Here's a story from a man who's using what I teach in the Deluxe Version of my Ultimate Unlimited Lifetime of Success with Women System:
John,

Thanks for the newsletters.

Here's a recent success story that your readers will enjoy; I'll be brief because I've gotta go meet another girl I've been talking to lately (met her at a coffee shop). Here's the success story that demos how women like the direct approach (see below).

JC
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(This is in response to a profile she had posted on myspace. All I had posted was 2 photos and NOTHING else): Her info: 40 year old HOT single mom, 5'7" Blonde, Great body. Occupation: Televeision Advertising Exec

The email I sent her:

----------------- Original Message -----------------

Hello Tracy,

We've never met before, but that's really not important. You complain that you never get approached, so it's only natural that I'm going to step up to the plate (like I always do). I don't have the time to waste emailing back and forth, so let me be very direct: We should meet for a drink and see where it goes from there. How is Thursday at 8:00pm in the Tower District?

JC
----------------- Her Response-----------------
Wow! I like that! You are a guy after my own heart...just put it out there! I would luv to JC, but I have my girl and her homework every weeknight, so it's almost impossible for me to get out during the week. But perhaps we could meet for lunch?

Let me know OK? You could text or call me at xxx-xxxx (The original message had her #) . Just be sure to tell me who you are since I have several clients who have my cell number too.

Looking forward to it!
T
JA: Pretty straightforward and direct there, JC--and the results speak for themselves. Attraction IS a learnable skill, and you've definitely learned it. Congratulations on the success story, and let me know how they all turn out... if you have time to pull yourself away from the ladies, that is.

Guys, when you master attraction, it gives you choice with women. If you just want to date lots of fun women you can do that, and if you want to attract that one special woman, you can do that too. But first you must master attraction. The best way to do so is to invest in my Deluxe Ultimate Unlimited Lifetime of Power and Success with Women System, and you can do so by going to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now.

What I reveal in that system may finally change your results with women forever--go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm now.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you finally ready to step up to the Big Leagues, and lead a lifetime of power, success and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm now.

Posted by john at 01:35 PM | Comments (0)

The amazing direct approach

One of the great mysteries in the world to men is how to approach a woman. Now, as you well know, I'm a big fan of setting up "automatic attraction" systems that get women to approach you. But, at some point, you should approach women as well.

What should you say? What should you do? Here's the best answer: just be direct.

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The best "opener" I've ever used is this: "Hi--you look like someone I'd be interested in meeting, so I thought I'd come over and introduce myself. My name is John." Then I stick out my hand look her right in the eye and smile. When she takes my hand I hold onto to it as long as I please.

Women really appreciate this direct approach. It's straightforward, no BS, and it doesn't make her feel like you're trying to pick her up. It shows you're a man unafraid of rejection, and most of all it defines authority.

Women are very turned on by men of action. Using this direct
approach shows her that when you're interested in something you'll
take action to get it instead of talking about it.

The other thing it does is dramatically enhance your self image. Most guys are, for some reason, scared about approaching a woman
and introducing themselves. Once you do it, you'll discover not only how easy it is, but how much women appreciate it. Other men will be awed by your "talent," thinking you're some sort of natural born ladies man.

Let them think what they want. You won't have to tell them it's one of the easiest things you've ever done--let the women you meet tell them that. When it comes to attraction, upfront and direct is always the best way to go.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Hey, approaching women is great, but it's even better when they approach you... and better yet when they do so "en masse." Discover how to get women to approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income-- go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

Posted by john at 10:22 AM | Comments (0)

March 08, 2007

A dire warning...

This message is only for those interested in making money. If you're not interested, then please disregard this message. If you are, then pay very close attention, especially if you're involved in internet marketing, or wish to be soon.

Yes, attracting money via direct response is one of the best roads to wealth, and can give you the lifestyle you truly want--but there are massive changes in progress, and even worse ones on the horizon. Pay very close attention to the following message from my friend Derek Gehl--time is of the essence.

{!custom_fix first name} -- Please read the following with the utmost URGENCY!

2007 is in full swing and there have been some CRITICAL CHANGES
to the way you need to market your business to make money online...
changes YOU must know about!

And I am not just talking about one or two little changes! I am
talking about massive changes that include...

1. How Google, Yahoo!, and MSN have changed and how to get (or even
just maintain) top 10 listings!

2. Maximizing your profits from email promotions and making sure
they get to your customers' inbox and not get you labeled as 'Junk'!

3. How to make money in the Pay-Per-Click search engines... even after the big guys keep changing the rules and most business are losing big!

4. What web design strategies and salescopy techniques are working
in 2007 (many of last year's strategies don't work anymore... do
you know which ones?)

5. Advanced technology that you must start using BEFORE your
competitors steal your customers with it.

... and the list could go on!

I am not trying to scare you out of doing business online
{!custom_fix first name}, I just want to make you aware of the realities of
making money on the Internet in 2007.

Now after that little rant, I do have some GOOD NEWS...

I have gone to bat for my customers and subscribers to make sure
you have ALL of the latest tools, tips and strategies from one of
the MOST SUCCESFUL Internet marketing Gurus in the world!

To find out who and what I am talking about please take five minutes and read the following webpage...
http://www.marketingtips.com/t.cgi/815106

This could be the most valuable five minutes in 2007!

On with the fun....


John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

P.S. When you go to http://www.marketingtips.com/t.cgi/815106
pay attention to how many people are using this system... there are
some incredible stories that you can learn a ton from!

Posted by john at 01:24 PM | Comments (0)

An unusual lesson in body language from Iron Maiden


I love watching shows about history. History gives you a keen understanding of human behavior, and a window to the future.

A few nights ago I turned on VH1 and they had a show on called "Heavy: The History of Metal." Being a huge fan of real metal (not this nu-metal crap, and certainly not the whiney alternative garbage that has infected the airwaves since 1992), I wound up watching the show for several hours.

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One of the things I always loved about the metal attitude was they thought big. They wanted to play in front of 50,000 fans in the biggest stadium possible, not whine to a three angst ridden losers in a coffee shop.

During the show, they interviewed Bruce Dickinson, the lead singer of Iron Maiden. He's quite an accomplished fellow, and the reason Maiden was able to go from clubs and small auditoriums to massive outdoor stadiums.

Bruce is a big thinker, and he said one thing about body language during his interview that was very, very valuable. He said that, when you're playing in front of a huge crowd, you cannot make a subtle gesture. Why? Because no one in the back will see it.

You have to make a large, almost exaggerated gesture so the guy in the very back will feel like he's right up front, like he's part of the show.

Brilliant, absolutely brilliant. That's a guy who thinks about every little detail, and is completely aware of the effect of his body language on others. What is innocuous to others is vitally important to him--the success is in the details, as it is for all successful people.

If you want to succeed with women, you have to pay attention to the details. Your dress, your gestures, your unconscious body language, your expressions, your internal feelings, all are vitally important. The man who succeeds with women pays attention to all of these--the man who thinks they're not important fails.

So the next time you're talking with a woman, remember what Bruce Dickinson said about body language--"you must understand the effect it has on your audience, and use it properly." Truer words were never spoken.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Don't miss any details when it comes to attraction. Discover how to get women to approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income-- go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

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March 07, 2007

Attention all ladies on the King's list! Here's an unusual opportunity

This is a message for all the ladies on my list. I have a favor to ask of you, AND an amazing opportunity for you.

First off, the favor. I am looking for testimonials from women regarding what I teach men. You see, while I can tell guys that attraction is a learnable skill until I'm blue in the face, many of them just won't believe me because I'm a guy. But when they hear it from a woman that, "yes, what John teaches works," and that it's not manipulative, and it's what women want, their beliefs change, and they start to get results.

Here's a great example of one I recently received from a female subscriber I asked to write me a testimonial from a woman's point of view (I did edit a bit for brevity):

"When I saw a guy saying he could get women to approach men, I thought he was full of himself, just another male blowhard, especially when he called himself 'The King.' But, I started to pay attention to what he had to say, and to my amazement it makes sense. What he teaches men to do is not manipulation or trickery, it's how to really create attraction with women, and God knows more men need to learn how to do that.

Yes, I've met John in person, and yes, he most definitely practices what he preaches--but I do think what he preaches is something any guy can learn. If you're a man who wants to attract women, especially if you're looking for that special one, then you need to get your hands on John's materials. You'll make at least one woman very, very happy."

-Sue B.

Now, this is just an example. I want real, honest opinions, and if you don't like what I have to say, well that's OK too. Feel free to write whatever you want. Also, if you have a picture of yourself to go with your testimonial you don't mind me using in my advertising, that is very helpful too. In exchange, if I use your submission, I will trade you a 30 minute phone consultation on whatever you want to talk about--relationships, dating, business,
money, etc.

Just send your testimonial and picture to: pics@womenapproachyou.com

K, now let's talk about the opportunity. As you may or may not know, I have a monthly in-print newsletter called the Above and Beyond Newsletter. I send this newsletter to the members of my Doers Only Insiders Club, and I spend a lot of time, energy, and effort to deliver success secrets far above what I discuss in my emails.

However, there is one flaw in my newsletter. It is all about attraction, yet it has no pictures of women in it. This is something I want to change for good, and what I want to do is this: I want to have a "girl of the month" insert. If you open up just about any men's magazine (even Grappling), you'll see they all have a "girl of the month feature." I, however, want to go one further--I want my girl of the month to come from my list. Sure I could hire models, or use a bunch of stock photos, but I'm known for being the real deal, and I want my girl of the month to be an avid subscriber and reader to my list.

Here's how it will work: every month I'll feature one woman on a one page front and back insert. I'll have a head shot, and a few full length body shots--bathing suits are OK, but no nudes. This is a PG publication (sometime PG-13). In addition, I'll want a paragraph or two all about you--something interesting and intriguing, something "above and beyond" the normal girl of the month features. Write whatever you please--surprise me with your ingenuity. If you want to include an email address for guys to write you (there are some very eligible, attractive bachelors on my list who'd love to meet a smart, sexy lady), feel free to include it. This is not a must have, however.

If you're selected for the "girl of the month," I'll send you a check for $200.00. Obviously I can only select one each month, so the competition will be fierce- -but there's always next month if you're not selected for this month.

If you'd like to be considered for my girl of the month feature, simply send your pictures and your paragraph to pics@womenapproachyou.com and let me know you want to be considered. I will be archiving entries, so there's a chance if you enter today, you'll be featured months down the road--I'll review all entries each month (a tough job, but someone has to do it).

Oh, one other thing. I'm not quite sure what I'm going to call this feature--King's Girl of the Month, or Naughty Girl of the Month, or some other variation. Let me know what you think. Regardless, this feature will certainly make my newsletter more readable... there's like learning about success with a sexy woman looking right back at you.

Again, for both testimonials and girl of the month entries, email me at: pics@womenapproachyou.com

I look forward to hearing from all the ladies on my list!

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Hey, this could be your first step on the way to Super Stardom. Or not. But it will still be a lot of fun. Send all entries and pictures to pics@womenapproachyou.com

Posted by john at 02:28 PM | Comments (0)

WARNING: the world is watching you


One thing I have urged everyone to be more and more cautious of is the use of email when it comes to attracting women. This is especially true if you're a high income professional.

Why? Because in this day and age, email is easily intercepted, and easily passed onto the world at large. People will either forward it to their friends, or post it on a website for the world to see.

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Yesterday morning, when I went to the CNN website, what did I see but an article about Lisa Nowak, the diaper wearing astronaut who drove 900 miles to confront her romantic rival.

Apparently, what sparked her "journey" was her discovery of "steamy emails" between the guy she was seeing, and her rival. I also guarantee you, somewhere, somebody has posted those emails or has forwarded them to their friends--CNN obviously knows the text of them, having reprinted the lines "First urge will be to rip your clothes off."

The careers of all three of the people involved are done. The whole world knows about them via the magic of the internet, the same internet that sparked this whole debacle in the first place. While the internet itself is certainly not "guilty" of this whole thing, misuse and misunderstanding of technology is.

Imagine what would have happened had one of the parties made an indecent video. It would be all over youtube, and appearing in everyone's inbox.

The point I want you to get is this: understand that everything you write and send via email is subject to public scrutiny. Words, audio, and video can be passed around in a flash, commented on by know-nothing journalist, and you can be in a heap of trouble, fast.

Email is a great way for attracting women, but it must be used cautiously and judiciously, preferably to set up a phone conversation which leads to a meeting--that's where the real fun is anyways.

Heed my warning well--it may just save you a boatload of trouble in the future.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS At last--forbidden attraction secrets finally revealed. Discover how to get women to approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income-- go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

PPS Attention all ladies on the King's List--pay attention to this afternoon's episode for a special message just for you.

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March 06, 2007

Never feel helpless with women again


Why are most guys unsuccessful with women? Because they let the woman choose the type of relationship, not the man. There's a lot of mythology going around that women only want long term committed relationships leading to marriage, but that's just not true.

There are a lot of women who love to meet men just to "have fun with" or "share adventures" with... but you have know what to look for. And the great thing is, IF you decide you do want a relationship, you can easily go from "fun friends" to something more permanent.

Conversely, there's a lot of mythology going around that all men want to do is sleep with lots of women--but that's not true at all. What most men really want is to attract that one special women for a lifetime relationship.

But, you have to know what to do, and what to say, or she'll choose the type of relationship you're going to have with her--and it's usually not the kind you want. Here's the good news: women like men who "define authority" for them and make it OK for them to enjoy a "fun friends with the potential for more" type of relationship. Relationships like these are great: all pleasure and no pain.

Would you like to have relationships like this? If so, then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm for remarkable secrets on how to choose your own relationships with women, no matter your looks, age or income.

On with the fun....

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS I'm seriously considering removing this website soon, as I don't want these secrets in the hands of too many men. Don't hate yourself for missing out--to avoid disappointment, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm

Posted by john at 02:16 PM | Comments (0)

The wrong reason to attract women

A few years ago I had a friend who was good at attracting women. This guy was like a machine--he was always dating at least three at a time, and would constantly replace them with new ones.

But he was never really happy with any of his relationships with women. It seemed the more he attracted, the unhappier he was.

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Why was this? Because he attracted women to obtain validation from other guys. Every time he met a new woman, he'd bring her around all his friends, trying to show her off.

But, a funny thing would happen. If one of his guy friends said she wasn't "very hot," or she was "just average," he'd drop her like a hot potato and move onto the next one. When he did meet one that was exceptionally attractive, instead of spending time with her to see if he liked her, he immediately brought her around his friends.

In a weird way, he was desperate- desperate for validation and attention, even though he did have the skill to create initial attraction with women. But the attraction never lasted, or, what usually happened, the women he attracted were damaged goods--like attracts like.

You never want to attract women for the purpose of validation. In fact, if you're truly a successful guy the last thing you want is validation from your friends--your personal accomplishments and outcomes should be validation enough for you.

You want to attract women because you like women, because you want to meet that special one, because you want someone to share what you've built with. You want to attract women for internal reasons, not external reasons.

The instant you go down the path of seeking validation from other people because you happened to attract a good looking women, you're in trouble. Validate yourself through achievement, then attract a great woman to share that achievement with--that's how you truly succeed with desirable women.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS At last--forbidden attraction secrets finally revealed. Discover how to get women to approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income-- go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

Posted by john at 08:50 AM | Comments (0)

March 05, 2007

Secrets of biological, natural attraction

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Sincerely,

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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Posted by john at 01:58 PM | Comments (0)

Attraction burnout

As you know, one of the most important things I teach is that attraction is a skill, not something that just happens. When a guy who's had difficulty with women realizes this, oftentimes he gets very excited, and pushes himself hard to learn the skill.

What sometimes happens is, he gets so determined to learn the skill in a very short time, and he winds up getting burned out. That exact thing is happening to the man below--luckily, I have a good answer for him.

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John-

Ever since I saw your ad in a magazine I've been hooked on your advice. I've been reading what your e-mails and each one that I apply I feel I can get that much closer to being attractive....until I burnout. I know that only I can choose the outcomes in my life, but by using all of your advice, I get burned out after awhile, and if I try to push myself any harder, I become that much more socially incapable. I wanted to know if there was a way that I wouldn't get burnt out like this?

Ben

JA: Thanks for the email, Ben- this is actually a common problem, and the solution is pretty easy. The first thing you want to understand about learning attraction is you don't want to focus on it like a task to be completed. It's not something you chase after, it's something you have to let come to you.

The thing to do is to read and study, but then put those materials aside for awhile. Whenever you go out, whether it's to run an errand or for a night on the town, make it a point to simply create a bit of attraction for every woman you meet--cashiers, waitresses, etc. Do this with the intent of simply having a bit of fun and making her feel good, but nothing more.

Do this to the point where you feel natural and comfortable around
women, then start taking the next step. Don't push or force
yourself, let the next step come naturally--it should just be an
extension of the fun conversation you're having.

First and foremost, attraction should be a fun thing, not a job or a chore. Focus on simply having fun with it, then extending that fun to the women you meet. When you do that you'll start pulling women towards you, instead of pushing yourself to succeed.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you finally ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

Posted by john at 08:06 AM | Comments (0)

March 04, 2007

We're down to the last few


Looks like we're just about sold out of this re-release of my famous "Real Conversations with Real Women" Eavesdrop CD's. I have one Deluxe copy and two Basic copies left, and then that will do it for this re-release. When those are gone, they're gone and you will miss out.

This is the last email I send you about this product for a long time. So, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm right now before this re-release ends. Don't delay, take fast action now: go to http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm to claim your copy, before it's too late.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Hurry--go to http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm before the rest are completely sold out.

Posted by john at 01:03 PM | Comments (0)

There are two sides to every woman


It's been a long time since I've heard this saying, but it's a good one to remember: "there's no such thing as a good girl gone wrong, only bad girls found out."

What that means is this: ever woman you meet has two sides to her. There's the regular side most men see, and the naughty side few
men ever see.

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Why do few men ever see the naughty side of most women? Because they don't know how to appeal to it. They appeal to friendship side, not the naughty side, and as such they're viewed as friends. And once you're a friend, you're never seeing her naughty side.

When does a woman categorize you? Instantly. That's why when you meet a woman you must instantly appeal to her naughty side. If you do so, you can interact with both sides of her.

How do you do this? Your smile, how you touch a woman, your innuendo, and your attitude. For instance, when I meet a woman I find attractive I'll hold onto her hand, make sure to look her in the eye, and behave in a manner that lets her know our interaction is obviously about attraction.

In other words, I let her know I've "found out" her bad girl side, and that I might just be the guy to bring it out in a way she's not yet experienced.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you finally ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

PPS Don't forget, my Real Conversations with Real Women System goes live today at 2:00 PM Central... be on the lookout for the email entitled "It's Alive!"

Posted by john at 08:57 AM | Comments (0)

March 03, 2007

It's Alive!


At last--it's finally here! My Real Conversations With Real Women Eavesdrop CD's have been officially re-released. You can get your copy by going to http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm

Remember, only 5 more Deluxe sets and 8 more Basic sets will be sold--don't let yours be taken by another man. Go to http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm right now, before
they're all gone

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Hurry--go to http://www.johnalanis.com/conversations.htm before another man claims your copy

Posted by john at 01:55 PM | Comments (0)

Ever had a woman say, "I'm just not interested?"


I used to have a friend who should have been good with women. He
had a good job, he kept in shape, wasn't bad looking, and he had no problem walking up and talking to women.

He had one big problem, though--after talking with him, they'd all say the same thing... "I'm just not interested."

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A lot of guys get annoyed when they hear those words, but they should pay closer attention to what they really mean, because it is a big clue to finally succeeding with women.

If a woman tells you she's not interested, it's because you're not interesting. Sounds obvious, but it's a little more profound than you might think. You see, women are attracted to men who are interesting. They're tired of men who are dull and boring. They want intrigue and excitement--anything less bores them.

That was the problem with my friend- he just was not an interesting guy. He had a run of the mill job at a software company (seems everyone in Austin has one of those), and everyday was about the same for him. He wasn't a bad guy, but he was boredom personified.

Here's the good news: when you make your life interesting, all of sudden women are attracted to you. It's a neat by product. When you make your life interesting, you get more excited about yourself--and that excitement transfers over to women you meet.

Making your life interesting is 100% in your control. You don't have to do anything spectacular, just be more interesting than the next guy... which is pretty easy to do. The more interesting you make your life, the more fun you'll have... and more women will say, "Wow, I hear he's an interesting guy... how can I meet him?"

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Are you finally ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm right now

PPS Don't forget, my Real Conversations with Real Women System goes live today at 2:00 PM Central... be on the lookout for the email entitled "It's Alive!"

Posted by john at 08:52 AM | Comments (0)

March 02, 2007

Tomorrow, Saturday, March 3 2007 is the big day… get ready

It happens tomorrow, Saturday, March 3 2007 at 2 PM Eastern

What, you ask? The official re-release of my Real Conversations with Real Women Eavesdrop CD's, where you get to hear me talk one on one with real, live women, creating attraction before your very ears. If you've ever been confused by what I or others teach, this system will make EVERYTHING clear.

For a neat preview of this system, go to http://www.johnalanis.com/conv_preview.htm
While the VIP list has snatched up most of the available sets, there are a few left. The above link will be the link to go to tomorrow at 2:00 PM Eastern- at that time, it will go live, and I will be accepting orders for this unique system. In fact, you might want to book mark this link to make sure they're not all gone by the time you get there.

Also, if you haven't checked them out, you can listen to audio samples of this unique program at: http://johnalanis.com/audio/

Get ready, because this release is going to be really exciting--I have designed this product to help the man who is awkward and unlucky with women (but it will work just as well for men who are already successful, and want to become more so). Again, you can check out the preview page at: http://www.johnalanis.com/conv_preview.htm and this page will go live Saturday, March 3 2007 at 2 PM Eastern

Originally there were 27 Basic sets, and 17 Deluxe sets in this re-release. Since I first re-released this product to my VIP List, we are down to 8 sets of the Basic, and 5 sets of the Deluxe remaining. Obviously they won't last long (my list is now at 63,332), so it is vital you take fast action when the link goes live. I will send you that link tomorrow, right before it goes live.

On with the fun...


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS Again, the place to be at Saturday, March 3 2007 at 2:00 PM Eastern by your email- look for an email with the subject line "It's Alive!" That email will contain the link to the webpage where you can get your hands on this remarkable system.

PPS A while back I had an unusual contest. Whoever provided the best answer to the following question, "if I were to 'sell' you my soon to be released Real Conversations with Real Women Eavesdrop CD's free, would you get them AND how do you feel they would benefit you?" would win a free copy of the Deluxe version of that product.

The winner to that contest was a man named Bill L--and his winning entry is at the bottom of this message. With the thousands of people on this list, I received hundreds of entries as you might imagine. Some of these entries were very valuable, so I'm going to reprint the best ones here.

Reading over these entries, you may find something unusual happening: you may realize that what you thought was a problem or issue with women only you had is actually shared by many other men, and that can be a comforting thought. While you will discover different ways this product will benefit you, you'll also discover that, no matter your struggles with women, you are not alone, nor are you "weird." Many other men share the same struggles as you might.

John-

I would "buy" a free copy of this CD set because I feel like I am at a crossroads in life. While age does not matter, according to the King's mantra, my ability to attract women from a physical standpoint is on the downturn. Yet recently, after many years of spectacular failure, I've noticed I've been coming closer with the alleged fairer sex, but have been unable to slam the door (to the bedroom behind me, locking it, and then proceeding with several hours of the mind-blowing, earth-shattering, room-spinning, spine-tingling, toe-curling, back-arching white-knuckle intense passion that all creatures on this earth crave). If I found something that I could afford that could help me get over the hump (no pun intended) I'd certainly be interested. And really, what is more affordable than "free?"

Dominic
Jacksonville, FL

Hi John,

My answer to your question is this:

I used to have a friend (He is not longer my friend, because he got involved with hard drugs and become "an energy sucker") that was very succesfull with women.

He used to talk with them using the "hands free mode" of his mobile phone, to allow me to hear the conversation, he was such a jerk!! he he he!!

He has no respect for women privacy, but through him I've learned something that can't be learned "studying" theory alone. Hearing him talking to women, watching a true live example of how to talk
to generate attraction in women teached me this something, is like the natural proccess of learning by imitation. You would say modelling.

At fist I made the mistake of "copying" him, but then he also adviced my to follow his example but "being myself", adapting his ways to my core temperament (he is a non-reflexive overagressive kind of guy, I'm more of a laid-back, thinker guy) and then I started to generate atraction in women by the way a talk to them.

At the age of 27 years old, I've never had any sexual contact with women, not even kissing despite being quite attractive physically and being really smart. I used to a very, very "nice" and "naive" guy,

Men, I've seduced my first women, making out with her, at a birthday party in a few minutes, and I've never kissed a girl before because but modelling him helped my to recover my "natural naughty side". The girl was amazed by my "charm" and surrendered to my advances (not to all advances at first but I was persistent, you know retreat and repeat, and final surrender).

This is a true story that became real thanks to having a living example to learn from.

Because of my personal experience with modelling I know that your product has value. Hearing these real conversations can help a guy to get the vibe, to internalize all the attraction principles going beyond the theory to the practice.

This is my answer, a long and a convoluted one, I know.

Greetings from Spain

Carlos G.

Hey john,

I am entering myself in this contest because I believe that this particuler subject is haunting me in this stage of my life. I once read in one of your weekly e-mails that one thing we all need to do is identify what problems need to be fixed in our quest for beautiful women, then be man enough to do something about it. I have charm, somewhat good looks, and the humor under control. I need help when it comes to actually approaching/conversing with women (what to say, when to say & how to say it) In my mind i know what i'd like to say, but just can't put it all together. I know some women are easier to talk to then others, but it's the ones that pose a challenge that I set my sights on to give me the confidence I'm looking for. I would buy the CD's now matter what, but hey...if it's free it's for me!

keep doing your thing, the help is greatly appreciated!

Joe A.

John-

The reason I feel this product would benefit me, is that I have been incurably shy with women,even though I have been a musician for the better part of 30 years, I clam up, as the "blankness descends" whenever beautiful women are around- I always feel that whatever I say would be of no interest to them, and it is VERY difficult for me to have any "casual " conversations. Just hearing John's samples has given me more self-confidence that there IS hope for me and my future
relationships with women.

Thanks again, John for filling the void in this area of life- I am well on my way to much greater success, in all areas of my life, as a result of your system!

Todd

John,

Certainly I would buy it for free. Why, because I love a good deal and this is certainly worth more than free.

I am relaxed and have an easy time talking to women in person. Since I have been listening to you, that has been made easier because now I
really do this automatically without thinking about it. Just seems
to come more natural now.

Now on the phone is quite different. For some reason I do not have that easy a time to do the same thing on the phone. Therefore, I would hope that listening to these conversations would help me with this.

One thing that seems to happen on the phone much more than in person is long lulls in the conversation.

The one thing I do know about women is you can never know enough and can never study enough. I learn new things every day and I'm no spring chicken.

Keep up the good work and as always thanks for your good onformation.

Sincerely,

Tom

Hi John,

I would "buy" these recordings for free because I believe that they will show where the theory and concepts become real. To me, studying theories and concepts from various people's viewpoints and perspectives is a great way to find my way of doing anything, and owning the material for myself. The principle of modeling others in real application is, for me, the fastest way to mastery of anything. I then chunk it into bite sized pieces and work with a bit at a time.

By the way, this is what I know works best for me, but I don't always do it. For example, after attending two internet marketing seminars and purchasing four in depth home study programs, and now receiving 150 extra e-mails each week,....I just got overwhelmed and was not getting any progress with any of them! I am picking one to start with and get good at, then I can study others to enhance once I am in the game.

So here's what I would do with your eavesdrop conversations. I would first listen to each one to get the flow of the conversations. Next I would go back and pick one at a time to focus on, listen to it daily, and practice using the key things that stand out to me in that one for a week with the women I speak with that week. Next week, another set of factors to focus on from the next cd, and so on...

I figure this way I won't just expand my cd collection, but my
collection of women as well. Now that's what I'm talking about!

Thanks for your materials, newsletter tips, and your openness to share others' materials as well. I expect to add these conversations to my collection of materials from you, Shelly, and Chet.

Thanks again,

Dennis

What's Up The King,

If your product was free, I would definitely buy it regardless. The product you have is very valuable. Most guys tell themselves that they are comfortable talking with women on the the phone, or talking with women in general, but IN REALITY THEY ARE NOT. Purchasing your product will ensure I am confident when talking with a women on the phone that I eventually would want to talk with (amongst other things) in person. I know I would benefit tremendously from purchasing your product. I will have knowledge of a very valuable skill that many men need to know, but will not learn from going to college or any other type of traditional education. Many men will more than likely not learn this skill from their family or friends. Also, I just genuinely believe the world would be a better place in general if I am able to brighten some lucky woman's day while talking to them on the phone. I am convinced purchasing your product is mandatory. Talk to you later.

Brooks

hi.

this product would benifit me because i have never had a relationship with a women ever and i am 25 yrs old next month.i want to get rid of this depressed sad feeling and prove to myself and others that i deseve and can hold a exceptional attractive women.

thanks

luke

It will benefit myself by knowing which road to take to get to my destination, put me on the highway and help me stay of the dead end roads leading to no where.As a rsult one will feel more in control of situations with all its side affects to ones personal authority and self worth

-Kevin

You bet your ass I would buy it if you sold it to me for free.
Why? Because I'd like to hear you have real conversations with women. Don't get me wrong, John, I think you're right about attraction, about what chicks want and think. But it would be nice to hear it all from the horse's mouth (the horse being women, that is). This way I could really learn how women think. Yeah, read
romance novels, but you need all the tools you can get, all the info you can get at your disposal. As you've said many, many times, you'll be successful if you have the right information.

Thanks for your time,
Bob W.

Since reading your material, I've had a lot of fun interacting with women, but I've noticed the strategies are useful in all communication with people. It's fantastic. How would the cd's benefit me? I'd have more fun, that's how. The specific techniques would I imagine enable a whole new set of parametres to my conversations, flirting, whatever. I'm a professor - I deliver papers to 400+ people each week, and knowing how to convince an audience of your authority and be magnetic and have them eating out of your hand sure would be valuable. I do pretty good job as it is, I just want to do better! I want to apply all the material appropriately to all kinds of situations...there is a holistic aspect to all human interaction; no matter the tools available, they can be used for specific purposes and I want to win at it! I think some audio cd coaching might help me.

Best,

Danie

Hey King John,
I would definitely "buy" this for free. It would benefit me greatly by having an actual live person to listen to and model myself after (as you taught me in your "how to be a naughty boy women love" report). Having been in many plays throughout my life, I have developed the ability to emulate people and characters. After listening to a CD that taught me different accents, I was able to emulate the sounds and words that the speaker was saying pretty damn well (I can do a pretty good English accent, and my Indian isn't bad either).

I found that in high school I was modeling myself after the people that got results, be it in attracting women, having good comedic timing, or anything else I wanted to be good at. I would take what worked from them, or what I wanted to "add" to myself, so to speak, to make myself better. I would take in the good, and reject the bad. I didn't realize I was doing this until I read your report on how to be a naughty boy, and how you should "model and modify."

Now here's the thing: I am great with women in person, but I feel like I can do better with them on the phone. I haven't had anyone to model a phone conversation after, well, because they take place between two people and usually no one else. I'm sure that it's possible to make a 3-way conversation, but I've never done that, and I don't know anyone that has. I also could experiment and through trial, error, and calibration, I could probably get better, but it would take longer, and wouldn't be nearly as effective as having someone to model after. One of my Martial Arts instructors once told me "Everything that has to do with fighting has already been discovered. There are only so many ways you can punch, kick, and manipulate joints to inflict pain upon your opponent.

You could experiment and practice on your own, but you would be redoing what the master of long ago did. It's much simpler and more efficient to learn what's already been discovered, then go from there." This is my philosophy. I know that between you and the other men (like the "Shark" and David DeAngelo) that teach men how to be men, you've discovered almost every technique that can be used to attract women. If I experimented on my own, I'm sure I could get there eventually (hey, you must've done that, how else would you be so good with women?) but by the time that happened, I might be old. This is why I need your CD.

It would help me improve my weakest area when it comes to attracting women. Not only that, it would do it in a timely fashion. I would listen to it, and using my superpower of emulation, I will be able to "become" you while still being me. So what are you waiting for? Send me your CD so I can get to work already.

Thanks,
Michel

Dear John,

I was amused with your request for details on how your "selling" your product for "free" would help me, but WAIT! Don't discard my entry so quickly, because my amusement was caused by your offer to "sell" me something for "free!" If you give it away for free it'll be a gift, not a purchase... So using that line of reasoning, here's how your "gift" would help me... I usually can initiate conversation with women in the event that I have a predetermined mutual interest to discuss, but in many cases when I don't have such an obvious opening, I find it difficult to approach women with the necessary confidence to initiate a conversation with a random subject or one with a suductive intent. The greatest difficulty I encounter with initiating conversation is in an obvious flirtation scenerio, like in a singles club. So if your product can catapult me beyond such hurdles, it would be a substantial value. (actually if it were free it would be an INFINITE value)

Beyond initiating conversation, perpetuating it past introduction through to mutual interest and budding intimacy would be of greatest value. Learning techniques to pique her interest and sustain it until it is transformed into desire is what is needed here... Some pointers
on lighting an ember and stoking a smoldering fire until it becomes a roaring blaze...those are the techniques all good men (and bad little boys) need to cultivate to have success with women. If you can put THAT in a product you'll have something that would be a great buy at almost any price.

The main technique I need to learn from you and practice until I become proficient is turning myself into "that bad little boy" instead of always being the nice guy. Then demolishing my pedestals forever...So no women can ever occupy another one! Be sure to feature those techniques as well please!

I hope this missive gets me in the running for one of those "Free"
purchases!

--
Sincerely,
Jeff G.

Question: If I were to sell this product for free, would you "buy" it?

My answer: Absolutely. I am halfway through the Basic course and learning more every day. The more information that I have, the better 'adventurer' I'll become. Besides, the more men that have this product (including myself), the more men will have a greater understanding and control over women. The reasons are simple. We would have a more even playing field, and we could rid the world of wusses once and for all.

I know I'm probably dreaming here, but if every male had this understanding of women, think what a different world we'd have. I personally wouldn't even mind the competition if it would help rid the world of those sniveling 'mama's boys' and wimps!

Information is power and I want more power! I never was a wimp with women. In fact, I considered myself pretty successful with women until about age 40. I thought my only problem was that I could not keep them. Now, because of your course, I'm finding out why! These actual conversations with women would only add to my knowledge and power.

I'm 58 years old and, one of my biggest problems with women has always been approaching and conversing with them. Not only getting the nerve to talk with them but what to say in the conversations as well. Since my latest marriage ended almost 2 years ago I pretty much just "holed up" and maybe gave up on women as well. Your course is in the process is changing my life and I want that process to continue.

I am almost ready to go out 'into the world' again and when I go, I know that I will be successful with women (once I have an idea of what to say to them). All I need is a guidebook. I was always all action with women and I see now that it takes more than action. I have always had many of the qualities that you teach. Nonetheless, I was falling short because I didn't have THEM ALL. With your course, and the free gift, I WILL soon have it all!!!!

DB

John,

I would say yes, I would buy it if it was "Free".

As a Afro American, Christian, No Kids, Never Been Married, 35 yr old in Metro Atlanta, GA where the women to men are 16 to 1 'statistically' ... I see that having the cards in your favor is not enough. It comes down to how you present yourself.

Now, how you present yourself comes from the reality within, or how you see your own self. If you don't see yourself as having 'personal authority', then you will not convey to woman a reality of personal authority. If one can just give that image or vitual reality to a woman, then she will bite even if that "reality she sees" is not true. In this "age of wimps" as you like to call it, Woman are just looking for any man that looks like they have a clue as to who they are and what they want.

I see your conversations as a well to show us how to convey that
reality, even if its not really there. By hearing you, we will not so much go after certain "Lines" or "phrases" that will get a woman in bed. We will go after your presentation, posture, or simply how you handle yourself with a woman. By hearing how you present yourself to a woman, we will then be able to have a model as to how we should talk to woman to give that appearance or reality of Personal Authority.

James J.

John-

Well I beleive you products are no bullshit i been useing you techniques i learned from the deluxe ultimate package and bother there kick ass because i get instant results; i am still learning.
I'd l know if i were to hear your conversions with women i'd be a better attarction maker towards women.

Respectfully, Christopher R.

Hello John;

I have been married for 10 years and although I love my wife, I have a hard time getting her into the sack. I am what you always refer to as a "wuss". I am too nice to women, but I have been reading what you have to say, and although I cannot afford the price of your full course at the moment, am saving all my dimes. I NEED a way to talk to my wife to make her more interested in me and to finally have a satisfying relationship. I got married at 24 and had never had sex before marriage (But neither had my wife). I NEED the help.

Thank you;
Mike

John--

For many people, the pursuit of money is the most imporant goal in their life. Yet, what use is wealth if you cannot have true love. Call me an idealist, but spending the rest of your life with a woman is my idea of happiness.

Yet, like so many others, my pursuit of a that wonderful woman seems to only exist in fairy tales. Despite posessing a muscular physique from working out constantly, I never seem to attract that special woman. Even when I muster the courage to talk to beautiful women, they rarely pay attention to me. I lack the charisma, the suave confidence, the witty charm that so many girls adore. Without another to make myself whole, I feel empty and depressed. My friends look down on me because of my inabiltiy to connect or get a date with anybody!

Which is why I ask you, the King, to help my troubles. With your intricate knowledge of the female mind, and your time- tested formula, I beg you to turn my life around. I want to meet that gorgeous girl beyond the first date. I want to choose the girl who I want to meet, rather than let my friends set up dates that only end in failure after failure. I want to impress the guys that I can get a beautiful women to fall head over heels for me. I want to prove that I can be a real man and show those arrogant guys who always looked at me in distaste. I desire happiness - a happiness that I can only obtain through your product. I would buy your product because with the right information from the King of "women approach me," my life would be complete.

---Jay C.
---Denver, Colorado

John "Ye King ",

I believe the CD would give me a better insight as to what women want and what they will do for it. Not to mention what really turns them on. I haven't Dated for over 12yrs since I was divorced and I believe it would give me a Crash Course as to how Women are thinking these day's.

Sincerely
Your Brother from a different Mother

Jeffery M.

P.S. Keep up the great work John I dig the shit out of your email Newsletter!

Dear John,

As a recent purchaser of your Ultimate Attraction System I am slowly beginning to absorb the wealth of knowledge you threw at me in that package. While I thought your system was pricey, I have always believed, like yourself, that gaining new knowledge and implementing it into your life is the only way to improve yourself as a person, in the long run I knew it would be an invaluable investment. However, I couldn't resist submitting my entry for your contest and having a chance to get my hands on another valuable investment for free!

So why would I "buy" your Real Conversations with Women package from you for free? The answer came to me right away. Because I can offer you something much more valuable than the package itself in return. I am willing to provide you with regular feedback of my progression from nice guy to naughty boy, including stories of my failures and successes. I will provide a wealth of real life, candid examples of situations I encounter along the way. Of course you'll be free to use my input in any way you see fit. I'm well aware that you get plenty of isolated examples from you student's successes, but I think you'll agree, that receiving regular feedback from a single student is an opportunity you can't afford to pass up!

You can leave this part off when you post my winning response later, but I wanted to provide you with some background information about myself to show you that I have everything it takes to make this a successful adventure for the both of us. As a life long "doer" in other areas of life I have already had a significant amount of experience practicing many of your techniques, only it hadn't really dawned on me until I began reading/listening to your materials. I have been involved in team sports my entire life and the key concept in sports is that with practice you'll get better over time. With this I turned myself into a pretty good baseball and football player, even playing some football in college. So I know I have the work ethic and determination to put your concepts into practice and succeed with them in the long run.

Another quality I practiced almost unconsciously was your modeling technique. I regularly try to seek out the top performers in different areas of my life in order to model some of their behaviors into my own personality. I've done this regularly playing sports and most recently in my professional life working in the finance world. Doing this has allowed me to obtain 2 promotions and separate raise within my first 5 years in the working world.

The final quality I have practiced with success is the ability to
find weaknesses in my personality and strengthening them. When I entered the working world I realized I wasn't the best public speaker, so I took it upon myself to volunteer to teach a couple of training courses to fellow employees. This has increased my confidence and comfort speaking in front of people tremendously, so much so, that I'm thinking about Toastmasters, at your suggestion of course, in order to go full circle and make a former weakness into a powerful strength.

In conclusion, I think it is apparent that I am a "doer" who is willing to put in the time and effort to learn this art of attracting women. I have all of the character qualities to transform myself from nice guy to naughty boy with the ladies. As a bonus you'll gain first hand, regular insight into one man's journey along the way.

Your new protégé,
Jeff G.

Hey John: Thanks for the contest, and all the advice.

If you were to give "conversations with women" away for free, I would certainly sign up. The first reason is that you have previously given some very useful information, and also guided me to other people who have (David D'Angelo, Shelley McMurtry, etc.)

Another reason is that any such product should have something (if properly analyzed) that someone who gets it can use for his own situation. In an old job I had there was a multi-hour CD that showed how to do things with a particular type of software. I spent the multi-hours, and gleaned about 15 minutes of useful information that applied to usage of the software for my job.

I don't know how many other people "wasted" that time, but I can say that the 15 minutes of learning helped me then, and continues to help me since. (The company, on the other hand, didn't see fit to make or find a better CD to save everyone else that time -- their decision to waste everyone else's time, and one example of reasons I no longer work there.)

So, how will your conversations with women benefit me -- I don't know for sure yet, but I do know that you have made some great suggestions in the past, and that you are what they call in the media "a reliable source." You take the time to get the useful information out there in a more quickly understood manner.

I've also noticed that while I'm able to use advice to generate attraction in places such as restaurants, it is really easy to fall back into old patterns where you become the "nice" guy and don't generate all the attraction you want (but also sometimes generate too much toward women you're not really interested in). Positive reinforcement and repetition is a good thing.

I'd also like to say thanks for the recent advice telling us to get out there in the real world. I realized upon reading it that I've spent way too much time on the Internet lately. So I'll sign off now and get out there with a sincere "thank you."

Keep 'em coming,
Jeremiah

Would I "buy" your CD if you offered it for free? Of course I would. Who would turn down a free CD of The King having conversations with real women showing how to create attraction? Everything I have ever received from John Alanis, whether free or paid, has always been right on the money when it comes to being helpful to real men who want to attract real women. Why wouldn't I or any other man want to learn from the master? What, do you think The King would be sending you a piece of junk just because he had a fit of generous lunacy enough to offer one of his valuable products for free? Get real.

-Charlie R.

I believe the best way to learn anything is to see (or in this case hear) someone successfully applying a skill. It's good to read and study a subject to help master that skill... however, it's MUCH better when you know exactly what to do and how to do it.

Even in the audio samples, I heard very subtle yet powerful attitudes you conveyed to the ladies you were talking with. Hearing the words that you said, and more importantly - how you said them - is the biggest reason that I would buy this product for free.

I'll go another step further - the feeling of confidence and control that I will gain in my life once I listen to, internalize and APPLY the right words and attitudes with women will be worth a LOT in my life. It's difficult to put a price tag on having greater success with women. When you have great relationships with the opposite sex, you feel like you can conquer the world. If you master the fundamentals of business, a sport, or anything else the same way you master the fundamentals with women, you'll have a solid foundation of knowledge and confidence that can lead to success in these other areas.

To summarize - this knowledge, confidence and peace of mind in dealing with women are the main reasons I would buy this product for free.


Brian in Denver

THE WINNER

Mr. Alanis,

I would by the cd's because I have learned a new way of life since I started reading and studying your materials. The information you supply is very accurate and effective when applied. It also subliminally encourages you to study related materials and sources. I have found learning and studying to be something I enjoy doing since starting to read your materials. I have never really felt like this before and I have read many other self help materials. You have a way of motivating people to find out more about themselves and life in general that I have seen very few other people duplicate. perhaps none.. I have spent more time in the library and bookstores since reading your book and listening to the cd than ever before. By the way these are great places to meet woman. The ideas and information you offer are priceless. I wish that I had seen them forty years ago.

bill l.

JA: As you can see, I had many fine entries, and many, many more I simply did not have the room to print. I'm happy to see that you guys are thinking about how to actively improve your life, with women and otherwise using my products. I chose Bill as the winner because 1) I had to choose a winner and 2) He's not only applying my information to all areas of his life, he's also actively studying other materials as a result AND attracting women at the places he does so. Now, that's a multi-tasker--and a winner! Congratulations, Bill you win the Deluxe Version of my Real Conversations with Real Women Eavesdrop CD's FREE!

Posted by john at 01:21 PM | Comments (0)

The critical difference between naughty and mean

I received a really good question regarding the difference in being naughty towards women vs being just plain mean. Many men cross the line between the two, and draw the conclusion that being "naughty" doesn't work, when in fact they were being just plain mean. The distinction between the two is critical, and today I'm going to talk about that distinction. Here's the email that brought up the question:

***Recommended Resource ***
How to Attract that "One Special Woman"
Imagine, no more heartbreak, no more rejection by women ever... now they approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income. Discover little-known attraction secrets the mainstream "old media" does NOT want you to know... go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this
controversial article is removed.
*********************************

Dear John,

I have this friend of mine who truly has no interest in women at
all, he is simply ultimately rude towards women. He says things like, can i see your tits ? HE lifts up skirts of women, grabs their chests, and simply does not care how they react.

But he is absolutely not successful with women, never gets laid, on the contrary other friends, who act like gentlemen and are good-looking manage to get laid every time. I know for myself acting like a gentleman, has truly helped me more than simply acting plain rude.

I wonder what you have to say about this.

Brad, MI

JA: Brad, thanks for sending this in--it's a great topic to discuss. Your friend is being mean towards women, seeking to belittle them, not to make them feel good. That's the critical distinction between naughty and mean behavior--when you act "naughty" you really do want her to feel good and have a good time. She picks up on this and responds. Meanness/rudeness, on the other hand, is simply a way of belittling someone else and is a huge turn off to women.

If you saw the movie "Hitch," you'll remember that Will Smith's character truly "likes women." That is the critical distinction--if you want to succeed with women, you must truly like women, meaning that in every interaction, while you may tease and say naughty things to her, that your intent is really to make sure she has a good time. Your friend will never be successful because he does not like women, plain and simple.

It depends what you mean when you say "acting like gentlemen," but if that behavior allows you to be successful with women, then you're probably engaging in behavior that lets you define authority for the women you're speaking with. Plus, it sounds like you genuinely like women, and as long as they pick up on that behind the authority, you will attract women wherever you go.

Thanks for the great contribution.

For more little known attraction secrets, go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm

On with the fun....


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PPS Ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm now.

Posted by john at 08:53 AM | Comments (0)

The critical difference between naughty and mean

I received a really good question regarding the difference in being naughty towards women vs being just plain mean. Many men cross the line between the two, and draw the conclusion that being "naughty" doesn't work, when in fact they were being just plain mean.

The distinction between the two is critical, and today I'm going to talk about that distinction. Here's the email that brought up the question:

***Recommended Resource ***
How to Attract that "One Special Woman" Imagine, no more heartbreak, no more rejection by women ever... now they approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income. Discover little-known attraction secrets the mainstream "old media" does NOT want you to know... go to
http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this controversial article is removed.
*********************************

Dear John,

I have this friend of mine who truly has no interest in women at
all, he is simply ultimately rude towards women. He says things like, can i see your tits ? HE lifts up skirts of women, grabs their chests, and simply does not care how they react.

But he is absolutely not successful with women, never gets laid, on the contrary other friends, who act like gentlemen and are god-looking manage to get laid every time. I know for myself acting like a gentleman, has truly helped me more than simply acting plain rude.

I wonder what you have to say about this.

Brad, MI

JA: Brad, thanks for sending this in--it's a great topic to discuss. Your friend is being mean towards women, seeking to belittle them, not to make them feel good. That's the critical distinction between naughty and mean behavior--when you act "naughty" you really do want her to feel good and have a good time. She picks up on this and responds. Meanness/rudeness, on the other hand, is simply a way of belittling someone else and is a huge turn off to women.

If you saw the movie "Hitch," you'll remember that Will Smith's character truly "likes women." That is the critical distinction--if you want to succeed with women, you must truly like women, meaning that in every interaction, while you may tease and say naughty things to her, that your intent is really to make sure she has a good time. Your friend will never be successful because he does not like women, plain and simple.

It depends what you mean when you say "acting like gentlemen," but if that behavior allows you to be successful with women, then you're probably engaging in behavior that lets you define authority for the women you're speaking with. Plus, it sounds like you genuinely like women, and as long as they pick up on that behind the authority, you will attract women wherever you go.

Thanks for the great contribution.

For more little known attraction secrets, go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm

On with the fun....


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PPS Ready to step up to the Big Leagues and lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice with women? Then go to http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm now.

Posted by john at 08:16 AM | Comments (0)

The critical difference between naughty and mean

I received a really good question regarding the difference in being naughty towards women vs being just plain mean. Many men cross the line between the two, and draw the conclusion that being "naughty" doesn't work, when in fact they were being just plain mean.

The distinction between the two is critical, and today I'm going to talk about that distinction. Here's the email that brought up the question:

***Recommended Resource ***
How to Attract that "One Special Woman"
Imagine, no more heartbreak, no more rejection by women ever... now they approach you first, no matter your looks, age or income. Discover little-known attraction secrets the mainstream "old media" does NOT want you to know... go to
http://www.johnalanis.com/ultimate_system.htm before this controversial article is removed.
*********************************

Dear John,

I have this friend of mine who truly has no interest in women at all, he is simply ultimately rude towards women. He says things like, can i see your tits ? HE lifts up skirts of women, grabs their chests, and simply does not care how they react.

But he is absolutely not successful with women, never gets laid, on the contrary other friends, who act like gentlemen and are good-looking manage to get laid every time. I know for myself acting like a gentleman, has truly helped me more than simply acting plain rude.

I wonder what you have to say about this.

Brad, MI

JA: Brad, thanks for sending this in--it's a great topic to discuss. Your friend is being mean towards women, seeking to belittle them, not to make them feel good. That's the critical distinction between naughty and mean behavior--when you act "naughty" you really do want her to feel good and have a good time. She picks up on this and responds. Meanness/rudeness, on the other hand, is simply a way of belittling someone else and is a huge turn off to women.

If you saw the movie "Hitch," you'll remember that Will Smith's character truly "likes women." That is the critical distinction--if you want to succeed with women, you must truly like women, meaning that in every interaction, while you may tease and say naughty things to her, that your intent is really to make sure she has a good time. Your friend will never be successful because he does not like women, plain and simple.

It depends what you mean when you say "acting like gentlemen," but if that behavior allows you to be successful with women, then you're probably engaging in behavior that lets you define authority for the women you're speaking with. Plus, it sounds like you genuinely like women, and as long as they pick up on that behind the authority, you will attract women wherever you go.

Thanks for the great contribution.

For more little known attraction secrets, go to http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm

On with the fun....


-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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